How many kids do you have?
With my daughter (I only have 1 kid), she tore me 3 cms because the doctor didn't even have time to dress, let alone give me an episiotomy.
I got 3 stitches.
Mine actually is in better shape than before I had Kyleigh.
My husband says it's tighter and I can feel that it is tighter when we have sex.
Everyone is different.
Vaginas are remarkable organs. They are like accordians and CAN go back to shape. Just make sure to do your kegel exercises!