Is It Too Soon??

if your are comfortable sleeping with him this soon then go for it. as long as you are both responsible adults, why not?! me personally i don't think i could do it that soon. i remember when i forst got together with my boyfriend i'm seeing now, how good the connection was and i was surprised how easy and natural it was to go back to his place and the prospect of sex with him. until we actually got into bed. i was petrified lol and i had to ask rather embarrassedly if it was ok if we waited. i thought it would be that easy to go from one guy's bed to another but i discovered it's just not in my character. for various reasons we ended up waiting about 6 months before sleeping together and it's certainly done our relationship no harm.

i guess it just depends what kind of person you are and how confident you are. i know you are scared of moving too fast, but i suppose if the relationship is at risk of burning out fast then it was never meant to be. if you think it's too soon for sex then maybe you can just spend more time together, share a bed, do sexy things but without the sex itself. i don't really think there are any rules to matters like this. do what feels natural to you.

Thank you fiona05....i really appreciate your response.

Thing is that both of us arent jumping from one bed to another, he's been single for some years, as have i....

i do think that we should spend some more time together b4 we go all the way....we have already gotten to the sexy stuff, and we are both extremely comfortable....

but i want us to get to know each other more. thanks again.

neither have we lol, i only meant it in the sense i had only just got out of a long term relationship when i started seeing him. i've only had 2 sexual partners, and i am his first.

well ok, i mean if you have to come on an online forum to ask whether it is too soon or not then it probably is! when you are truly ready you will know it. i guess waiting will keep the suspense going, and a lot of women would prefer to wait so they are able to feel more confident that the guy they are with is with them because of who they are - not simply because they want sex.

I agree with fiona. If it feels naturally right then go for it, but don't get your heart too set on anything. Five days is kind of fast to have sex and expect a man's heart along with it, especially since you haven't talked to him in years and don't know what he may truly be like behind the picture he paints of who he is (not saying that he is bad of course! there are just a lot of layers to people after you get to know them).

Just make sure to wear a condom to protect yourself form STDs and pregnancy. Have fun and good luck

thanks for the advice guys.....we havent had sex, but we have done other things when together. I do plan on asking him to let us slow that aspect of us down for a while, just so we can develop other areas of our relationship....become friends and so on first. I dont want our relationship to be all about the intense physical attraction we have for each other...i mean its great....but i think for us to last longer than a couple months, we should do it this way.

Just updating you guys to let u know we still havent done it yet...and he's not pressuring me....i mean he'll tell me he cant wait (as in he's excited), but he respects my decision...

hi all, this is just to update you on whats been going on....the guy and i are still together, and very very happy. We did the deed but only when i felt ready, and its been heaven with him.....i actually think im falling in love, which is something i havent felt since i was like 16 or 17

Congrats! Thats great you were able to wait until you felt ready. It makes it so much more special.