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Q: Withdrawal Method Failed?
asked by: ilovemahubby on January 9th, 2008
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ok can anybody help me ????? ive been intimate with my boyfriend for about 2yrs already he has always used the 'pull out method ' we have tryed using a condom but he rathers not to ..he says he is ready for a baby but i honestly think he is not maybe cuz i know im not ...last time we were sexually active was the 30th of december which was 11 days after my period ...that night while being sexually active i decided to be on top since he likes it but the thing is that he didnt use a condom again and when he told me that he was going to cum to move out the way i dnt think i moved quickly. . .cuz now or the past 4 days i've been feeling really strange.im having really bad stomach aches like craps but above around my ribs and below my breast. my breast look to be getting swollen im it's scarig me a whole lot...my boy friend believes im pregnant and he is happy about it but i dnt think im ready .....DO YOU THINK IM PREGNANT?
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Georgia59
replied on January 9th, 2008
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The pull out method does not work. If you don't want to get pregnant, you need to find a reliable kind of birth control.

That being said, there is no way to tell this soon if you are pregnant aside from taking a pregnancy test. You can't tell if you are pregnant by the way your body feels. Have you had your period?

Take a test.
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ilovemahubby
replied on January 12th, 2008
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nope i have not gotten my period at all and honestly i do not think i'll be getting it. i took a test yesterday and it was negative but deep inside i believe im pregnant. i love my boyfriend but im scared to see how my mom will react. my mom is everything to me and i can not believe i did this to her. well i mean i can't believe i did this to myself.
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taylormarie
replied on January 13th, 2008
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dont worry about your mom! if she loves you she will get over the initial shock and end up being supportive, i promise.

you might have taken the test too early. wait like a week or so and take another onee

either that or youre just psyching yourself out!

how old are you? if you end up being pregnant, at least be thankful that your bf seems ready for a baby. alot of young guys in situations like this would dip out if they got their gf pregnant.
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fiona05
replied on January 13th, 2008
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what age are you and your boyfriend? this is crazy, how could your boyfriend possibly be happy at the prospect of you being pregnant when you don't even want to have a baby? not liking wearing condoms is not a good enough reason for him to have put you at risk of having an unwanted pregnancy all this time. i'd like to stress what the others have said - the pull out method does NOT stop you getting pregnant. the pull out method is outdated, it was used years and years ago before people knew much about these matters - in this day and age we now know that it is not effective in preventing pregnancy because during sex, before ejaculation, the man still secretes precum which contains sperm.

if you have been having sex for 2 years using no contraception then your risk of pregnancy is very high. that said, it may still be too early for you to take a test so you could try waiting a week or so and try again. if you are pregnant then you can choose whether you want to carry the baby to term or you can choose an abortion. if you are not pregnant then just thank your lucky stars and get down the doctors as soon as possible to try and sort out getting on some birth control, such as the pill!

i'm worried about you, i hope you reply back to let us know what the result is. x
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ilovemahubby
replied on January 13th, 2008
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me and my boyfriend are only about to turn 18 , im still 17 . im really not worried about my bf to dip out on me cuz i know he will never do that but im just a bit scared to know i might be pregnant. im only a junior in school and i really had big plans for my future.if i am pregnant idk what im going to do but i wouldn't think about having an abortion . Personally i would be more scare to have an abortion than to have my baby. So when do you guys suggest me to take another test ? I took one this morning and it was negative again but i should be getting my period around the 18 or 19 of this month, do i wait til then or do i take test before that time ?what do i do i need help!!!! do i tell my mom already ? or do i wait ?
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stickyicky
replied on January 13th, 2008
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Wait and see if you miss your period, and then you take a test.

Btw, since you're already feeling "deep down" that you are pregnant, you might start making up symptoms. So just play it cool until you miss your period.

Did you say you've been using pull-out for two years?
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ilovemahubby
replied on January 13th, 2008
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ya well not really two years about one year and 4months .we have tryed using condoms but besides that my bf do not like to im allergic to them. it always seems to burn down there when he would use one. i've taken birth control before but i stopd due to my mom almost finding them in my purse and not having time to get some more .
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fiona05
replied on January 13th, 2008
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ok well your allergic reaction may have been caused by the lubricant on the condoms, in which case you can try getting the non lubricated variety. Either that or you may have an allergic reaction to latex, which can sometimes happen. You can buy non-latex condoms which are usually made from polyurethane. Any large chemists should stock these, there are not hard to come by.

I take it then your mum doesn't know you are sexually active. Well, i know it would be embarrassing for her to find your pills, but isn't it gonna be a whole lot more embarrassing if you ever have to tell her you're pregnant? think about it. If she did find your pills at least she would know you are being responsible! To be honest, she is your mum, she probably knows you are having sex anyway. mothers have a way of knowing everything Wink
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ilovemahubby
replied on January 13th, 2008
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ya you are right but now im not worried about the pills im worried of my unknown pregnancy..how am i gonna find the way or the right words to explain to my mom that im pregnant?
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Notyetready
replied on January 13th, 2008
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Well
u have been using the pull out method for so long, has he come in u b4?
and u have never gotten pregO?
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manda120406
replied on June 23rd, 2009
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i am in the same boat.
i just havent gotten my period 3 times and every test is negatvie i try to push it aside think that im not so i dont have a fake one. but i have all the symptoms and all my clothes are small on me. i see the doc this week. im 16 and a junior i am allerigc and pull out was always easy but i dont advice it.
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