I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you planned, but I'm sure your family loves you and if you talked to them, I'm sure they would find a place for you in their lives with them again? Why do you say "I'm being taken care of down here" if you have no one?

It's reasonable to be scared, but you really aren't alone. Your family hasn't gone anywhere, so you should contact them. As for your loser BF, he is the father, so legally he has to pay for child support no matter if he decides to stay with you or not. Concentrate on your baby and keeping yourself healthy and remember that it isn't your fault that some people can't live up to being responsible adults....people like your boyfriend who run away when things get to be hard and complicated.

i am really sorry i understand, I mean I really do. I had this boyfriend for years and he doesnt live up to being a father.. some men dont change. I have a almost two year old, and after going through hell over a immature guy, i thought he changed and got pregnant by him again... guess what? nothing changed he's raither play games then spend time with his kids. And what's more stupid... my friends told me... and he had a kid before my two. but I thought she was some health forum like he said.

Anyways all in all, I will be your friend I am 18 too and having my second baby. So I honestly understand. Just so you know, Men are assholes lol. And I agree concentrate on the baby. And I am sure your old friends or people your ex knows too will support you.

One thing to think about though (and I learned this the hard way) is how he treats his ex and his other child, is how he'll treat you and this baby. And remember there's always two sides to the story..

I am sorry again I hope this helps

I am so sorry. Do you have any information on this guy? Where he lives and works?

You can be a single mother. People do this everyday. If your family is there for you, you can make it work. Right now, just focus on keeping yourself as healthy and happy as you can.

Thanks :]
I know I can do it, but, I didn't think I would HAVE to at such a young age you know? I'm only 18 and this isn't really the way I saw things happening, lol. I'll live, I'm sure
He lives in Colorado, over 1000 miles away from me right now. And has no job whatsoever
He said he was planning on moving back here in June [when I am due] but I really don't see that happening. At all.
So I'm going about this with the mindset that I will be a single mother. I guess I just need to stop worrying so much about ever last detail and get ready, ha~

well he doesnt have to have a job he still owes you child support and if worst comes to worst you can get his taxes or put him in jail [not sure what the rules are in your state but its the state you live in not his]
Is there a reason you don't think he's moving back?
You can be a single mom, sometimes it's easier. Without a jerk {sorry I *hate* men} I am doing it, but it's hard, but sometimes it's better then the guy. Justin, my babies daddy, when we where together he was a jerk to me, comparred me to other girls he dated before me and acted like I was his slave, he'd yell at me, then make me feel guilty when I wanted to go back home.
This time, I am doing better cause I know nothing will change and I have to deal.
I wish I could help, but I know nothing about your situation and I am a natural mess up... but dont worry, make him help you, you have that right.
If you need info on rights I am sure you can find them. or I can help you find them. I live in New Jersey, but I am sure I can find or help you someway
**Alyssa

See, I'm not even sure if I WANT his child support. I've been trying to find out if I do go for support, how much power and decision rights it will give him regarding the baby.
I wouldn't worry about it if I didn't know what crap he would pull. Well, he and his mama. [ugh, mamas boys!]
So right now I'm debating if I even want him on the BC...Theres no doubt in my mind he would try to take off with the baby or something...
Colin's in Colorado for his custody case, and because his mama made him so he can look better. His parents don't want him to move back in June because of all the work 'he' has done so far regarding the case. And really, with him, what mama says goes.
God. Your guy sounds just like mine. Wouldn't find a job, played video games all day, blamed me for ALL his problems....I was the maid, cook, main source of income, sex object, babysitter, everything but an equal..
He isn't even a good dad to the one little boy he has. He -finally- got up to getting him one night a week, after 2 years of just getting him a few hours a week, and rarely gets him then cause he is 'to busy.' Doing what?! I would take care of the boy when he got him. Colin just wanted to...be his buddy. To not be a parent and take care of the kid. So really, I don't think my baby is gonna miss out on anything special.
Just talking to someone that knows what it's like is great. Makes me feel less alone and like I might can actually do this~
How far along pregnant are you?

In that case, don't put him on the BC and don't give the baby his name. If your worried about that. I can look up laws for you.. and it doesn't sound like your baby is going to miss out on anything.
I am 12 weeks and 2 days, about for a boy now, you??
Do you know the story about the other girl? His son's mom? Only reason I am asking is cause, like I stated my ex had a baby before my two, and that was a retaired thing. But I learned that {after it was to late} that he did to her what he did to me. And it's sorta what you could expect. But it sounds like he doesn't care about his child, and has sad has this is for you, if he doesnt care about his son he wont care about your baby.
if you want you can pm me and tell me more, and i'll tell you all of my story. I dont have myspace, but maybe I should get one?? lol you sound like someone I want to be friends with
I know that sounds retaired its just I am sorta lone too

it doesn't sound like the guy is worth your time, you need someone that treats you like a princess not someone that a deadbeat

Hey all, sorry for the old bump. Colin's ex posted this on myspace to try to 'use it against me' so it was brought back to my attention. Just thought I would fill you guys in on what has happened since my first post here.
Our relationship has indured a lot of stress from this girl, since the beginning. I don't see why someone who 'isn't in love with him' is so set on breaking us up but whatever.That's a different story all together, ha~
We are currently dating again and even searching around for apartments before the baby comes.
Like I said, it has been an uphill battle but as of right now, things are going smoothly :]
The baby is due in about 8 weeks!!
Everyone is soooo excited! I can't wait to see my little Lillian :]
So yeah....Things are going well for now. Ha. I'll always be on guard though.
Hope everyone elses pregnancy is going well!
Oh and I forgot to say hi to my stalker. HI AMY.

Lillian is a beautiful name! It's actually in my top 2 names for girls (Lillian and Hannah). Congrats; I'm glad you two are trying to work things out. You'll have to update us when she arrives with pics!