Hi I am 27 and just had a lovely daughter 2 weeks ago. My husband is Turkish, he came with me from Turkey and we have been married 1 1/2 yrs. It has been a rocky marriage with all the cultural differences, but I have tried to be patient and understanding with him. Things were rough but we always found ways of making things work out till I got pregnant. At first he was very happy and supportive, but as the pregnancy wore on and I became more needy he became more and more emotionally unavailable until he said he doesnt love me and will only be with me for the baby's sake- he doesnt want to get a divorce but he doesnt want to be my husband either. He said to wait and see if he would love me with time, i just have to be patient and not try to talk to him about us and how i feel. Well I tried and now it is hard with a newborn, but still it seems like i am the only one trying and he is so wrapped up with himself- he still cant find a job and although he helps with the baby he doesnt help with the house, when i ask him to he says i should do it because it isnt his house (we live in my family home for free thanks to my generous parents)i just cant talk to him about anything with his behavior without him getting very angry at me. He just wants to be left alone but he still wants sex, everything is when it is convenient for him, i cant talk to him about how i feel at all because it stresses him out. tonight i lost it with him and said if it isnt his home then he should leave and he just smiled and pointed to his ring finger where he doesnt wear his wedding ring anymore, i was so hurt i said if he wants a divorce ill give him one, he said he hates me and a bunch of other things were said that were very hurtful. I just dont know what to do, he wont go to counseling, i have been going by myself- i try to be kind and patient and not pressure him in any way but i end up feeling walked on like he just pretends im not there. i have been feeling so alone for so long, i feel like it will hurt so much but in the end i would be happier without this constant rejection, but from hope i keep opening myself up. i know no one can tell me what i should do but from an objective perspective does this sound like a salvageable relationship? Is there something else I should be doing? Or should I just suck it up and wait for awhile before making the decision to split up? Or should I just move on and try to remember what its like to be happy? Any thoughts would be appreciated.