Joined: 01 Jan 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Winston-Salem, NC USA
unable to orgasm first time Posted: 01-08-08 23:24pm
Hello I am 19 years young and my
girlfriend and I grew up together then we
started dating when she was 9 and I was 11
and we dated for 8 years the first 5 and a
half of those years we barely saw each
other at all we had basically a phone
relationship then we broke up for a few
months then got back together so it was
off and on for a few months and with me
not seeing her it was like a friend I
never knew.lol then we broke up again for
like a year then we got back together June
9 of 07 and we had sex on July 9 of 07
that was my first time but it wasn't hers
and I was half drunk and so when I wasn't
able to have an orgasm we thought it was
that, and we tried twice after that and
the last time was about 6 days ago and
same thing, this long story is to say I
know her but I don't know her so that
could be the reason and she is the only
girl that I ever really been with as in
making out and sex and we just got that
close not too long ago so I still get a
bit jittery round her could this be my
main issue of why I can have and orgasm
when we have sex??
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iameulogy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-09-08 02:58am
First of all, exactly how long are these
encounters? It could be a time factor and
that you just take a long time. Plus you
were drunk, Substances can also effect
that. Ive never been able to not perform,
So I cant help you on the jitters.. But
i've heard of other people having problems
when they're nervous. Try being more
sexual with her, and her with you. Maybe
you're just not comfortable with her. Have
you tried oral sex?
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unnamedny
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Dec 2007 Posts: 88 Location: New York, USA
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Posted: 01-09-08 07:40am
Here have been a post like yours not a
while ago and there is nothing wrong with
you as long as you can orgasm when you
masturbate. You just have to get used to
her (it means have sex for 3, 4, 10 times
it all depends)
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newbie88
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Winston-Salem, NC USA
Posted: 01-09-08 14:22pm
iameulogy
wrote:
First of all, exactly how
long are these encounters? It could be a
time factor and that you just take a long
time. Plus you were drunk, Substances can
also effect that. Ive never been able to
not perform, So I cant help you on the
jitters.. But i've heard of other people
having problems when they're nervous. Try
being more sexual with her, and her with
you. Maybe you're just not comfortable
with her. Have you tried oral
sex?
We never tried foreplay.lol most ppl were
confused why but we never tried it before
im still a bit nervous about all that
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newbie88
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Winston-Salem, NC USA
Posted: 01-09-08 14:22pm
unnamedny
wrote:
Here have been a post like
yours not a while ago and there is nothing
wrong with you as long as you can orgasm
when you masturbate. You just have to get
used to her (it means have sex for 3, 4,
10 times it all
depends)
Thank you.
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newbie88
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jan 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Winston-Salem, NC USA
Posted: 01-09-08 14:28pm
iameulogy
wrote:
First of all, exactly how
long are these encounters? It could be a
time factor and that you just take a long
time.
We don't have sex often due to her living
a few hours from me, Our first time was
July 9, second July 10, and our last time
was December 29 I know its a big time
difference and its due to both of us going
to school
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5542 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 01-09-08 16:00pm
If you can ejaculate from masturbation,
it's not a physical problem it's a mental
one. The first few sexual experiences most
people have are not great. I'd give it
more time.
