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Q: I Am Livid Angry
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young Girl
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this will take a while to write but if everyone could read it that will be great. comments would be awsome to.
ok so
im in the room folding laundry right? and i took my phone off the charger to check and see if my mom called. well i had NINE missed calls. so i was like "ok thats normal, probably just my parents and my friend mikey or a few people calling me."
well i check the number and its my grammy (shes my dads sister. but weve always called her grammy) this is the one i was supposed to go see for that christmas gathering this but we ended up just going to my dads instead. anyways...
so then it says i have voice msgs. so then i go to check my msg and theres NINE of them all from my grammy. seriously 9. im not kidding
the first one went like this:
"hey suzannah its grammy. i got your christmas cards and pictures of the baby. i cant wait to see her. i hope you can bring her by soon. i stil have the $200 for you for your present and some stuff for the baby. i love you call me when you get this."
ok so then the next one: " hey suzy this is grammy again. i called about an hour ago. i just wanted to see if you can call me back when you get this. i love you. bye"
ok so then" hey suzannah leigh (i HATE WHEN SHE SAYS MY MIDDLE NAME SHE IS NOT MY MOTHER
) um i REALLY want you to CALL me back soon. calll me suzy."
ok then:
"listen suzannah im serious i dont know WHY YOURE NOT CALLING ME BACK. but i WANT to see that baby. you NEED to bring her to my house so we can see her. CALL ME BACK SUZANNAH THIS IS IMPORTANT"
so im siting there holding my phone like what? then i hear " suzannah i have called you over and over i am NOT PLAYING WITH YOU ANYMORE. you NEED to answer my phone calls im really not playing with you suzannah LEIGH"
and then there were a few more but the very last one went like this " SUZANNAH! i want to see that baby! i have TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS for youi and i dont care if your mad at me! tell TRAVIS that I SAID I DONT CARE if YOU want to come out or NOT! tell HIM to just bring kristen over here you DONT HAVE TO COME if you are mad! im SERIOUS SUZANNAH. ANSWER YOUR PHONE!!! im worried about you (yeah right your not owrried about me you just need an excuse to be a complete bi*&#) ok suzy call me back or im going to call the cops! i want to SEEE HER!"
click.
okay first off. what the...hell?
she has a serious control problem. i was already haveing a rough day. she pushed me over the edge. so i called my dad whos in a treatment center right now and i FLIPPED. i was crying and cussing and telling him to tell her i dont GIVE A F*^$ about her money she will NOT harass me like that on MY PHONE. i told my dad to tell her she will NEVER see me or my daughter again. and she can get that straight right now and dont get it twisted!!!!!!!!!
so my dad doesnt know im on the anti depressants and i told him and then i started crying even harder and then he started crying because he was worried about me. and i didnt mean to burden my dad with this but i just didnt know what else to do. if I called my grammy myself it would NOT have been pretty because i was OUT OF CONTROL angry.
who does that?
um SORRY but she is NOT my #1 priority and she acts like she should be the first person to see kristen. the only 2people i care about that need to see her is my dad and mom. not my GRAMMY who for the past few years hasnt even been in my life and wanted nothing to do with me when my parents divorced she completely hated me and my sisters and brothers. she just wants an exuse to control me and she thinks she can get away with it with kristen. NOT
no i have lots of people that want to see her but no one ever leaves stupid harassing msgs like that. i am so angry i could S-c-r-e-am.
am i over reacting or would you guys be just as mad if someone did that to you?
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Replies(18)
Mabel
Moderator
I'd be angry too. But you should still see her. She doesn't have to be controlling of you or Kristen - because you aren't going to allow that and you are the parent now. You are in charge.
When you've calmed down from being angry (yet another symptom of the hormones in your system right now, by the way), call her and tell her when YOU will be willing to visit her. And if you don't want her money, tell her you don't need it. Or you could just buy something for Kristen with it - or put it Kristen's bank account
When you've calmed down from being angry (yet another symptom of the hormones in your system right now, by the way), call her and tell her when YOU will be willing to visit her. And if you don't want her money, tell her you don't need it. Or you could just buy something for Kristen with it - or put it Kristen's bank account
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young Girl
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Relm
Experienced User
Wow... I can't believe she would flip like that. That's kinda unbelievable, I'm so sorry : (
Try and think of it like this. That's your little girl, you have your own life. YOU are in control of this situation.
I'd call her back when you're feeling a little better, and say calmly that 1) you don't appreciate this treatment and if it happens again you'll take necessary action to prevent it again. And 2) You will call her when you're ready for visits, you're busy, tired and have a lot of other thing to deal with right now.
Don't put up with any bull, just because you're related doesn't mean she can treat you inappropriately.
Cheer up!!! Everything's going to be fine!!!
Try and think of it like this. That's your little girl, you have your own life. YOU are in control of this situation.
I'd call her back when you're feeling a little better, and say calmly that 1) you don't appreciate this treatment and if it happens again you'll take necessary action to prevent it again. And 2) You will call her when you're ready for visits, you're busy, tired and have a lot of other thing to deal with right now.
Don't put up with any bull, just because you're related doesn't mean she can treat you inappropriately.
Cheer up!!! Everything's going to be fine!!!
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fairytale007
Extremely eHealthy
I would be mad too. I hate it when people call over and over again..it gets really frusterating. And she is not your boss and she can't tell you when she'll see Kristen. And calling the cops...they'd just laugh at her. Sounds like she has a major control problem.
I would just relax and forget about it for a while and call her back when you're calm and collected. Tell her you don't appreciate her calling so many times and what not and that she will see Kristen when you have the time and energy. You don't have to take that kind of treatment from her.
And if she doesn't respect your decision, tell her to go to hell-o.
I would just relax and forget about it for a while and call her back when you're calm and collected. Tell her you don't appreciate her calling so many times and what not and that she will see Kristen when you have the time and energy. You don't have to take that kind of treatment from her.
And if she doesn't respect your decision, tell her to go to hell-o.
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
Supporter
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newmommy07
Active User, very eHealthy
I would be angry also but your the parent and can be the bigger adult in this situation. Sounds like she has serious control issues. If I were you I would just relax and feel confident in the decision you make and if she cant respect it then I'd state my opinion if I were you and leave it at that. If she can't handle it then w/e you decide... its her loss. Goodluck girly Hope all goes well and you feel better.
Hope all goes well and you feel better.
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young Girl
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newmommy07
Active User, very eHealthy
lol I wouldnt want her comming over either! Your the mommy so everything will work out to your benifit, your choice and she has to stick by that if shes smart. Again, goodluck hun.
Again, goodluck hun.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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kaerbear
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yellow ribbon
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young Girl
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yellow ribbon
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Sandbox Party
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wow.
I think you need to tell her that you aren't a little girl anymore.. you may be 16 but you have a child now and she has no right to speak to you that way. What if you *had* left your phone at home and hadn't been there to answer it? She cant expect you to available at her discretion. Its YOUR life. She has to understand that you have better things to do than stand around waiting for her to call.
Now, having said that, she is STILL your grandma.. so watch how you tell her things. You have to show respect even if you don't like it or are angry. Maybe have your mom or dad talk to her?
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AyaMiyaki
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Sandbox Party
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onmyway_0x
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rosejackson
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