i know that u tired from cooking , cleaning and all that stuff but what i want to say to u that u shouldent negelct ur huspend too i know its big load on u .but if he wasnot do that befor that he looking to porn or to naked women on internet that is mean he is missnig some thing in his life with u ,try to care of him to as u care about children in home . and if u feel that he didnt help u in any thing in home try to talk to him about that point and tell him that u need him to help u in home too . but dont stop doing sex with him try to make some thing sexy and make him feel that u care about him too and love doing sex with him .men as children some time in thinking and wanna some one care about him too

My fiancee looked at porn and masturbated. I do too. I wasn't "straying" from him and he wasn't "straying" from me. I think you need to deal with your hate of porn; it is completely legal and NOT adultery. It's a natural reaction to find an outlet when there isn't one. It's not your fault you're busy and it's not his fault he's horny. Think about it; would you rather he look at porn and masturbate, or go cheat on you?

You husband needs to help you around the house; those are totally logical demands. Just TALK to him and if that doesn't work, make up a list of chores. Involve him in this process; chose jobs to do each day. You can include the kids too so it's a family thing. You need to stand up for yourself.

I don't think it's that bad for him to look at porn, honestly. I used to mind when My hubby did but I got over it and now it's something we enjoy together.

However, it is an issue that you are doing all the work. Of course you are tired and don't want sex if you're busy doing stuff all day! I agree with Eiri- stand up for yourself. Maybe buy some sexy lingerie and tell him if he does the dishes you'll give him a treat (wink). Get him motivated- have a discussion with him and tell him that this isn't working for you and you aren't happy.

You deserve a sex life too.

Have you sat him down and explained to him that you need help with your children and household? It sounds like he needs to know that if you weren't dealing with all of the responibility by yourself, you'd be able to function better in that area.

Try not to get hung up on him looking at porn. Obviously, he's resorting to it because his sex life is not happening anymore and prefers you. And it's especially silly to get upset over him masturbating...that's normal, all guys do it, it has nothing to do with your performance or ability to make him happy. I understand you being uncomfortable with him looking at it and it certainly shouldn't take priority over you or your feelings-but you'll have to work on everything else before you can even touch that issue.

You need to say to him, if you want to have some tonight, you need to do some(work) around the house first.

But, if you are not giving affection to your husband, then can you blame him for looking at porn(which is not a problem actually). Not saying porn makes a man cheat, but if you do not give him affection he will eventually get tired of his hand and find another person. The blame will be partly yours if he does.

If you don't like him to look at porn then I think it is something you need to tell him, just like you stated here, above. If he loves you then he should respect that you have an issue with it, then maybe you two can talk about what changes can/should be made to where you both get what you need. Maybe he can help you out more around the house and have a day of the week where he deals with the kids and maybe you can dress extra sexy and try new positions for him in return. I think porn is ridiculous and unessary, god diddnt put me here to look at naked ppl and then to masturbate to them, I have my man for that. I'm just old fashioned and I won't except porn ever, no offense to others who enjoy it tho, its just not for me. Obviously you feel the same. I'd try out what I suggested, you will know what will work for you if you give it a few tries. I actually have had this issue with my b/f quite a few times in my 9 almost 10 year relationship and we have made a deal now. He gave up his slutty porn and helps me around more often and I buy sexyoutfits to boost myself esteem up and wear them for him and I've become a lil more adventerous in bed for him. Goodluck, pm me if you wanna talk more about it.