Maybe you should tell him how you feel about him. Its a hard thing to do and I'll tell you one thing its a bit of gamble. A chick that I'm friends with told me she had feelings for me, and I had somewhat feelings for but there wasn't that much physical attraction between me and her, but between her and me there was a whole lot. In the end she was hurt but she learned to deal with it and we are still friend. I also think you should tell him that your pregnant, if it is his kid.

i understand what you mean. but i started to like my bestfriend b4 him and ended up in sex as well but i was well hurt out of that one n i dnt want this one to go the same way. i'm not going to tell him untill i'm a wee bit in to it. shood i just pretend i dnt like him in that way or do i honestly tell him and rewin the chances of still being friends???

what did you do?

I would honestly tell him the truth, he deserves to know and its better that you tell him sooner rather then later.

Basically this is what happend with me. The girl liked me, she told me. I was flattered but I wouldnt date her. She was my friend, I kinda liked her but there was no physical attraction between us so she got hurt. But she told me that she liked me and she knew that I kinda liked her but there were certain things that she would need to do so I could be more attracted to her. In conclusion it was a somewhat of a bad experience she became like a girlfriend to me and now things have changed.

ouch well i bet that was hard to say.
you see i kinda feel the way she might be but the only problem is were together 24/7 and we know each others familys soo well. hes fosterd and i'm the only person to meet his real mum n brothers n sisters.
but hes always going on about different girls and ex's and talks ta me like one of his boys mates.

are you and this friend still as good a pals as you were before she told you how she felt??
xxxx

I've been with one of my best friends and it totally RUINED everything.
We slept together a few times, and our whole friendship fell apart.
But since you are pregnant, you need to tell him ASAP so you all can work out a plan of action.

As hard as it is to say, its actually easier for me to post on a forum rather then just saying it. Up until the other day no one in my family knew about her, well they knew that she was my friend but you know they didnt know what had happened between us, I told one of my cousins since he is having troubles with his girlfriend well now ex as well as a few other girls.

You see we were kinda joined at the hip as well, but the only difference is we were not around each other all the time. We were always talking on the phone, msn, facebook, text messages etc.. So it hurt her even more when I would not date her cause it was like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Another similarity is that I was really wanted to hook up with one of two girls, one that I used to go to greek school with or this one that goes to the same church my family attends, so I would sometimes talk about them and that was one of my reasons why I couldn't date her of course there were other reasons as well.

Our relationship today, its nothing like what we had. I sometimes miss it. It was something special. Like I would wake up and I'd have a text message from her. At first our friendship was great then after we had our little break up we were barley talking and when we would if was kinda akward, for her mostly cause she was pissed at me. But within a few weeks she kinda moved on and we started talking again and she me a boy and they started dating and then she was really happy. After she started dating this guy our relationship went back almost to the level where it was prior to our break up thing. Then she kinda broke up with him and now its back to normal even though she started dating a older fella our relationship is pretty good now. Like every time she needs advice or just wants to talk she rings me up.

hey!
dating a best friend in any situation is bad. but considering he is your best friend, no matter what he will be there for you and the best thing you can do is just be 100% up front with him.
it will save any relationship and friendship there will be

If anything you can just ask him where you two are at.
I mean I think having sex on multiple occasions gives you reason enough to put that question forward and not make things awkward.

Did you have an agreement that this wouldn't turn into more-- not judging, I'm just trying to understand? If thats not the case then why are you having sex with him when he's going on about ex's and other girls?

I'd probably give him a head's up on what you're planning with the pregnancy. It really won't make things better if you wait on that.

Thanx for all the heads up on this folks its realy helping me alot.
you see i dont know what people call it in different places but hes real nice looking and alot of girls like him. so he just sits back and enjoys the ride basicly. hes obv had good times with ex's but hes always talking about the bad things in them. yano bad habbits and things that he didnt like about them. hes also the kida guy to whistle at a complete random if he thinks there nice (you know the type) lol

well anyway its wierd were like an old married couple i'm the health forum n hes the wife lol.

well anyway we have sex on a kind of for the whole sake of having sex situation its not a moment of love shared lol its an (I NEED SEX) moment. and then the next day were back to the exact same as we were b4 the sex. none of my friends know how we do it.

Well surely the two of you had a conversation as to WHERE the sex puts you? Did he say he didn't want anything else to come from this?

nope no conversation lol yea i know ok it sounds stupid lol but it just happens we dnt really talk about it unless we have to or if were having a laugh with our other friends.

usually if were both staying at someone elses house or even mine we share a room because were obv such great friends. he gets sore backs from work and it always starts off with a massage. (shoodnt it be me getting one tho ) anyway we didnt/havnt spoke about it like that

Let me see about this Ayrshire. This is your best friend and you decide to have sex cause you feel like it with him and you didn't discussed with him about birth control nor so if he had any sexual disease before you had sex and now you are pregnant and you don't even tell him? Omg. I can tell you are young and careless.

eh? if he had a STI i'd know. (best friend remember)
and where are you from? does everyone disscus intercourse and everything with everyone. where do you fit that in. " right now see b4 we have sex! where will this take us?" call it a total turn off. the sex situation would get totaly thrown out the window. yea i know its carless but if i wasnt carless then i wouldnt need adive and i wouldnt be on this. plus i'm old enuff to know what i'm doing with this. just needed a bit of help.

haha I had that conversation with my boyfriend and we've been together for awhile! We still both were checked for stds too even though I was a virgin and we are best friends. It may be a turn off for the momment but I refused to consider sex until I made sure he knew everything I'm going to do to prevent pregnancy and what I would do in case of pregnancy.

Are you completely against having a good ol' conversation about things now? My advice: Tell him whats going on and whats on your mind. He's your best friend so you should really feel comfortable talking about this sorta thing with him I'd think. Are you going to tell him your preg?

yea i'll tell him l8ly hes been going thru alot with his mum. thought ad leve it to a day he was a wee bit happy might tell him tomorrow after court. (dnt ask )
yano were real close but i feel sooo wierd talking about that. see i would if he was my boyfriend. not shaggin everyone in town

i think it would put a right cramp on whatever we have going on lol.
i know hes not got any STD's because there was a big uproar about clymidia from my other friend and he told everyone to get tested so we all walked in causing a party in the waiting room lol. never seen so many happy people in a clinic b4 hahahahaah.

anyway we last had sex after we both got tested.

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yano were real close but i feel sooo wierd talking about that. see i would if he was my boyfriend. not shaggin everyone in town
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What?


And it's good you both were tested. You need to talk to this guy about it. I don't know what your plan is but since you're so close, the fact that you're keeping this from him at all doesn't show any trust or maturity on your side and that alone could really bother him. I know you're probably a very mature girl, and thats really the only reason I feel comfortable telling you that you're acting silly. You need to let this guy know whats up.

right ok folks news is out i told him!
and well his face went alot like this

lol he seriously freaked but said later on that hes gonna need to deal with the fact that its his responsability.

were gonna talk tomorrow but he looked like he cuda shot himself rite there n then yikes!

think he might need to clear his head. al let him lay for a few nights lol.

right ok folks news is out i told him!
and well his face went alot like this

lol he seriously freaked but said later on that hes gonna need to deal with the fact that its his responsability.

were gonna talk tomorrow but he looked like he cuda shot himself rite there n then yikes!

think he might need to clear his head. al let him lay for a few nights lol.

Yay! You told him!

It's both your responsibility so make sure you let him know you're in this together. If he's already having trouble with other things in his life then make sure you be the friend you say you are and help eachother through this.

Good luck and keep us updated!