well the three times that you llost your
erection are almost certainly because of
the drink! it doesnt mean you have a
problem, most guys cant get it up when
they're drunk, that's where the term
'brewers droop' comes from! so you can
discount those times.... that isnt
erection dysfunction as such. if you are
drunk it is just not gonna happen lol
if you are able to get and maintain an
erection and reach orgasm by yourself
without any problem, then yes, the problem
is in your head. it is most likely related
to nervousness. every man goes through
this at some stage of his life, you
needn't feel ashamed. just try to relax!
quite often a problem shared is a problem
halved. talk to your girlfriend about it
openly and if you have concerns get them
out in the open. i know it's hard to
discuss embarrassing things like this, but
she's already witnessed you losing your
erection first hand so it's not like
you'll be telling her some secret she
doesnt already know! if the pressure to
perform is getting to you and it makes it
easier then take sex off the cards for a
while. take the focus away from sex
itself and instead focus on other things.
for example, spend an evening in together,
give each other massages, touch her,
explore one another's bodies, maybe give
her oral sex, etc. when you are ready to
engage in full sex i'm sure you will
know!
you have only been with your girlfriend
for a month, this is a relatively short
period of time. once you get to know her
better you will build up trust, and
anxiety won't be an issue for you anymore.
the first time with someone new is always
strange and nerve racking, things will
only get better with time. i'm quite
confident that the only thing wrong with
you is nerves and this is natural. just
try to relax and take things slow and it
won't be long before you're back on track
