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chad69

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Problems Staying Aroused
Posted: 01-08-08 11:06am

hey, im 20, healthy dont smoke or nuffin and have been having a problem. in the past i have only ever had sex 3 times, although i wouldnt count them cos i never stayed hard long enough to come. All three times i was drunk though and attributed it to that. so the other day when me and my girlfriend of 1 month went all the way and i couldnt keep it up long enough to come in her i wondered what was wrong. Even if she gives me a hand job or head it just wont stay up or come close to orgasm. I have no problem getting an erection or being aroused. I can easily maintain and come if im masturbating aswell. but when i masturbate i get moe pleasure by squeezing a muscle under my balls which pushes more blood into my dick and makes it harder, but i cant hold that forever so its only for a few seconds at a time and thats when i get most pleasure. I think its because also when i do wank to porn its so erotic and that real life sex isnt that dirty i dunno.

but i read a topic on here that describing someone having the same problem and that it went away as he stopped thinking too much and just tried to enjoy. I just deleted all the porn off my computer and im feeling good about it Smile is this all just in my head ? i guess i should talk to her next time and try and get her to be more vocal ?
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Posted: 01-08-08 13:06pm

well the three times that you llost your erection are almost certainly because of the drink! it doesnt mean you have a problem, most guys cant get it up when they're drunk, that's where the term 'brewers droop' comes from! so you can discount those times.... that isnt erection dysfunction as such. if you are drunk it is just not gonna happen lol

if you are able to get and maintain an erection and reach orgasm by yourself without any problem, then yes, the problem is in your head. it is most likely related to nervousness. every man goes through this at some stage of his life, you needn't feel ashamed. just try to relax!

quite often a problem shared is a problem halved. talk to your girlfriend about it openly and if you have concerns get them out in the open. i know it's hard to discuss embarrassing things like this, but she's already witnessed you losing your erection first hand so it's not like you'll be telling her some secret she doesnt already know! if the pressure to perform is getting to you and it makes it easier then take sex off the cards for a while. take the focus away from sex itself and instead focus on other things. for example, spend an evening in together, give each other massages, touch her, explore one another's bodies, maybe give her oral sex, etc. when you are ready to engage in full sex i'm sure you will know!

you have only been with your girlfriend for a month, this is a relatively short period of time. once you get to know her better you will build up trust, and anxiety won't be an issue for you anymore. the first time with someone new is always strange and nerve racking, things will only get better with time. i'm quite confident that the only thing wrong with you is nerves and this is natural. just try to relax and take things slow and it won't be long before you're back on track Smile
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chad69

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Posted: 01-08-08 21:16pm

thanks a lot for the reply, really appreciate it and helps me stop worrying haha
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