Hey, I have a question.
A few months ago I got out of a really
serious 3,5 year relationship. It took me
some time to get over it and start dating
again. And now I finally find myself in a
relationship with a guy whom I really
like. We have been going out for 2 months
now, and even though that isn't too long
the way he acts makes me feel like we've
been going out for a way longer time.
I'm not a high maintenance girl but I do
expect at least one sign of life per day,
especially since we live an hour apart and
both have busy social life's and uni which
can be pretty hectic too. So the first
month, or even before that, he would
message every day and I really had no
doubt if he liked me or not I knew he did.
Now in the second month he hardly sends
any messages. And the days that I see him
I have to compensate with days of no
contact at all. And to be honest it just
makes me feel sad and lonely. The messages
he does send have a different tone to them
and when I ask him what is wrong he just
says "I just don't have that much to tell
you when I see you for a day", while he is
like the most talk active guy you will
ever meet. The most things we do have
something involved with family or friends,
the only alone time I get with him is when
I sleep over. And his sleeping pattern is
so odd because he goes out a lot during
weekdays that he mostly falls asleep
quickly. So not much talking going on
there either..
Is it normal that guys act this way so
early in a relationship? I'm not even sure
anymore if asking for one sign of life per
day is asking too much, while I never had
to ask this of any other guy before. I'm
just confused as I really really like this
guy and he was the one who really helped
me get over my ex. But with so little
alone time, so little contact outside of
seeing each other and generally not being
able to see each other a lot it just make
me feel more miserable then happy. I
already told him a bit about this and so
far that hasn't really worked. I secretly
don't want to break up as I really like
him but at the same time I'm not really
happy in this relationship, I have no clue
what to do anymore.
