You can support him, but if you are 16, I'm not sure if you are legally allowed to get married at that age anyway. It varies from state to state......so I looked it up for you:

Michigan: Applicants 16 years of age may marry with parental or legal guardian written consent. Applicants under the age of 15 with parental consent and probate court permission. 'Marriage of a Minor': The legal marriage of a minor “shall release such minor from parental control.” http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm

It's really reasonable for you to be upset....because you love the guy and he sounds awesome to want to do all this for you. No matter what the laws and if it would be worked out, you should never get into something that you are not ready for, even if it means submitting to the cliche "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

Just consider the repercussions a trip overseas would have for you and your little one. I think that for the sake of health and stability, it would be better if you stayed home for now, even if you did decide to marry. You need people around you, like your friends and your parents to help you out with your new life with a baby, because being a new mom isn't going to be easy.

i understand you dont want anything to happen to him, Ash but the military takes VERY good care of its recruits and their families.. They pay for schooling, give you money to give to your family to pay their bills while you are away, they take care of you in just about every aspect. Yes, its a dangerous time out there right now, but as a provider if he feels this is the best choice for his familys present and future, then let him do what he feels he needs to do.

Why is marrying him so out of the question? Just because you are young doesnt mean you cant get married.. being in love has no age requirement. If you can see yourself with this man for the rest of your life, go for it.

Dont be that person that sits back and beats themself up from wondering 'What if?' be the person that can say you tried.

^_^

I do really love this guy I would LOVE to marry him but I'd like to be at least 18. He told me he understands why I'm upset and that he would want me to go with him because he hates being away from me more than I hate being away from him. But I could stand being thousands of miles away from my family and friends, everyone I love more than anything in the world... lol I'v actually told him that absence makes the heart grow fonder because he gets upset he cant be here for me and to go through this experience with me....

I agree that staying home is a better choice for now, and he hasn't even made a decision on if he is or isn't going to rejoin. I do need my family to help me through the first part of this because it wont be easy at all, especially at 16.

I think I'm going to tell him if he wants to rejoin that is fine (though i'll hate it) But that I need to be here for now.

Thanks, He was in the army before, he could just go to school and get a great job but I do think he misses the army. If he really feels the need to rejoin and fight for what he believes i'll support him

Well, the ONLY reason marrying him is out of the question right now is because i'm not so sure my mother would go for it. I can see myself with him if not for the rest of my life then for a VERY long time.

I've beaten myself up before for not doing something I should have and I HATE the feeling. I think If he does decide to rejoin I will go for it. I love him enough and I know he loves me more than anything in this world. Like you said at least i tried

thats a tough one, my husband chose to join the army for the reason to take care of us, the pay is good, and they help you out alot with anything u need. deployments suck. just got through one with my husband and he is back but injured but hes ok. it does suck being away for so long but i had to do it, i stayed with my parents while he went through basic and stuff. we got marrie whenhe graduated basic. the only difference wil be if he joins and you arent married he wont get paid like he has dependants. like me and my husband got BAH while he was away after we were maried wile i was livng in florida still. DOes he live on his own right now or not? maybe just have a sit down and discuss the pros and cons of the situation, alot join the military for the stability of ajob and steady paycheck plus when ur maried u get health insurance through tricare. and the dental is really cheap also. we pay $11 a month fo rme and my husband. are u on medicaid? hopefully u figure it out, i know the ins and outs of army lol.

you never know.. us moms have a habit of surprising our offspring lol.

She might just see how important it is to you, and seeing as how ur already pregnant she might support it even more knowing you and that baby will be taken care of.

stay with your family because if anything ever happened between you and him youd be stuck.

He lives with 2 roommates. I do think he want the stability of a better job. That is cheap! I am on a for of Medicaid. I only get insurance until I'm 19. I'm sure him and I will figure something out. I'll have him take a weekend off soon and have him come up...

Oh and for my mom not going for it, I think I'd be 17 by the time he rejoined anyways so I think i'd be ok to marry him at that point.

yeah, parents can change lol, my parents did, they used to hate jason now hes there favorite son in law lol. sometimes our parents are afraid to let us grow up and do things on our own.

Lol. yes, my mom does do that a lot. She wants me to be on my own and I want to be on my one I hate that she has to take care of me and that she'll have to take care of my son as well. She may go for it.

i think you and him need to try and spend more time together before he jumps up at his chance to rejoin etc, and figure out where the both of you are going in the future to make sure this is what you are gonna do. You dont just wana jump up into something and then regret it but u also dont wanna pass it up then wish you did it.

this is one of the reasons i was second guessing it and saying i'd wait till i was 18.

yeah , well even out on our own is not to bad, iknow that if something happened iam always welcome at my parents house, its not like uleave and your never allowed back there, but i just think u two need to try and spend alot of time togther to talk things over and not just jump into things.

Well, soon we're gonna be spending a bit more time together (i normally only get to see him for 2 days) His boss is giving him a week off so he can be here and help me after this baby is born. You're right I don't want to jump into something then maybe regret it. But if I don't do it i don't want to wish I did. I hate being in situations like this

Like i said dont be that person that looks back and regrets not going for it.

If it doesnt work out you always have family to come home to.

If it does work out, awesome!

Don't let people talk you out of doing something just because of the what ifs. If we based all of our decisions on that, we'd never leave the house.

yeah thats like sooo complicated, but it seems like u got timeto figure it out though so hopefuly the decision jumps out at you one day, thats awesome that he get s a week off to be there for u after th ababy is born.

Yeah i'd always be welcome back home but as soon as I'm out of the house my mom and step-dad are selling the house and moving to Arkansas. We are trying to spend as much time as we can together. We need to have a long talk. Maybe he can get this weekend off and come up for a visit so we can at least talk some stuff over.

I will have to think about this really hard.

I'm pretty positive we'd work out.

I normally don't let people talk me out of things because of what ifs....


Yeah I think it's cool his boss is going to give him a week off... She's awesome.

look hun
im going to tell you the honest truth: your trying to rush your life
stop and take a look at what your about to do. seriously. i moved out of my house when i was FIFTEEN because i thought it would be so great living with travis and that it would all be prefect. seriously i miss my mom and my family so much its not funny. life is NOT worth rushing dude. it already goes by fast enogh. why make it go by even fastre. living with someone WILLC HANGE your relationship. and sometimes it can even make it worse. seriously. its not fun and its not all awsome all the time. you have to learn to grow up so fast and change your life for that person.
dont be ina rush to get married either. because divorce is a B*(#%. and if that happened it would be even more stress on you. and that child. and the last thing either of you need is that
right now your ina good spot. dont leave just because you love him. seriously listen to what im telling you. i miss everything i left behind. dont do the same thing i did
sure i love travis to death but me and my mom have grown apart so much its not funny. dont do that to yourself it hurts. really really bad


wait a few years and THEN get married.