To be quite honest, I would think there was something wrong with a man that age being interested in you. He's too old for you and he has a girlfriend, so it doesn't matter whether you were 14 or 21.

well, right now I don't think so. Eventually maybe because I believe age is just a number. I'm 16 and have a thing for some one who is 26..that's 10 years! my mom keeps telling me to go for it but I'm scared to.. (if your mom is ok with maybe start as friends and when you turn 16 try it out)

At 21, he is too old for you. He's experienced quite a bit more in the world then you have at 14. Enjoy being a teenager while you can.

I agree with that.. plus he has a gf... like I said, i believe age is just a number but at 14 dating THAT much older than you can turn real bad real quick.

iam agree with amom3 u still so young for him and try to enjoy every part in ur age u will find him differnt thinking differnt way and i see the big problem that he already have girlfriend so what u will be to him? second girfriend or what? try to think that point that he have already girlfriend

If he has a g/f, it's not worth it at all. Seven years isn't a huge difference way down the line, but at 14 that seven year gap can be huge. There is a very big difference in the maturity level of a 14 and 21 year old and the things they like to do.

When i was either 15 or 16 i dated a 21 year old. My dad totaly freaked! but my mom was okay with it. It wasnt realy any diffrent from my other relationships, we didnt have sex or anything, he was like a normal guy and tryed to get me to but we never did. We dated for 5 months, he was my longest relationship at the time. and i had a realy good relationship with him. My dad even started liking him!!! (which is way unusual for my dad liking anyone ) I say, if you ever have a chance with him when he's single, and you feel you both like eachother alot than go for it! If you dont like him you can always break up with him. Just be cautions and remember that he probably has way more experiance than you, and only do what you think your ready for.

Being 16 years old with a 21 year old is still a pretty big age gap but at least it's considered legal (I think) under certain circumstances in some states. We are talking 14 years old and 21 years old.

Please don't go down this road. Date someone your age or slightly older and enjoy being a teenager. There is a HUGE difference in life experiences and maturity level as someone has already mentioned. Well, if there isn't much of a difference between maturity level then that is not a good sign either. Yikes! There may be an attraction there but just because it's there doesn't mean you should move forward. I STRONGLY suggest stop obsessing about this person.

Also, he is a 21 year old busboy? Where do you live?

There is more to the story on this guy then you know.

lol im 17 and im with a 24 year old. i can't seem to date younger guys or "guys my age" i find them to...... immature. lol well around here anyways. when i was 16 i was dating a guy that was 23. age doesn't matter to me like ive said a million times before my grand parents were 21 years apart and had 13 kids together (technically 15 but 2 were miscarriages at 7 months i think) so to me age is nothing but a number

dang! and I thought my mom and step-dad being 18 years apart was bad lol..

yea lol i'm glad my grand parents got together and had 13 kids together or else i wouldn't be here considering the fact that my mom was the 13th kid!!!!! lol

lol... wow. My mom is the 8th kid and they almost stopped before her when they had my uncle (my grandpa just wanted a boy) but they kept trying and just ended up with girls lol.... My uncle was the 3rd or 4th kid

Don't take offense to this- but at 14, you're still a kid. He's an adult.

Think of it this way- if it was really meant to be, you'll meet up with him again in 10 years when age won't be as important.

lol yea i agree Georgia59 take life as it comes, don't rush anything. your a kid, act like a kid because you'll never get it again and 10 years from now you'll look back and say i wish i had acted my age instead of grown up. Trust me i'm only 17 but i wish i could be 13 or 14 again lol no worries

age is just a number, but he has a GIRLFRIEND. You need to leave him alone. be the bigger person and just ignore him. There may be attraction between the two of you but that doesnt change the fact that hes with someone who is probably his age.

Completly forget about this guy for the simple fact that he is with someone.

Also the maturity level is what matters most. Hes21 he probably likes to drink or go to the bar once in awhile. Maybe he likes to play pool or gamble. You cant do any of these things. You may like to hang with friends go to the mall and shop while he is an adult and has responsibilities that you dont right now. There just are a lot of differences. These differences can and probably will get in the way.

I know this from experience. I was 15 and he was 23. But you cant help who you love and a lot times things do work. But he has a girlfriend

I know how you feel! When i was 14 all the guys were so immature, I dated older too. I mean right now I'm 20 and my fiances 28 : )

You have to be really careful though, I'm not sure what your laws are where you live but statutory rape is something you have to be very careful about. I'm not saying your gonna jump into bed with him, lol, but it's something to consider.

I agree, you have to be the bigger person and ignore him. And I've got to say poor girlfriend : ( I mean I'd be really upset if my fiance was givin another girl eyes.

Why bother meddling with this?
I am not one to say stay away seeing as i am in an age gap relationship right now myself, however it seems to me like you two hav'nt really even gotten to know eachother.
Trust me, you will find other people out there and get that same instant attraction feeling at first glance..without the worries of age difference and relationship status.

I think that you should stay away from this boy.He has a girlfriend.End of story.
Age is just a number,in fact my boyfriend is 32 and I am 19,I see no problem with that gap while others do.
This guy,no matter how many years apart you guys are,is in a relationship.Do you really think it would be fair to the girlfriend if you two hooked up?
Just imagine if you were in a relationship with a guy and found out that he was hooking up with some other girl.You'd be upset right?
It's times like these that we really need to step outside the situation and walk a mile in someone else's shoes.

1. He's 21 and you're 14. That's disgusting. 7 years is fine when both people are over the age of 18. Right now, he's a sick sick disgusting man who is attracted to little girls.

2. He has a girlfriend, which is another no-no. Don't steal people's boyfriends.