This is his problem and not yours. There is no reason why you should have an abortion and you are right in thinking that doing so would be very hard to get over. If you both wanted the baby before, then there is going to be a time when he is going to come to his senses and want it again...hopefully that won't be too far long in the future. Don't listen to the people who are telling you these crazy things. If you want the baby, you should keep it. If it does indeed turn out that you cannot resolve anything at all with your husband and you are definitely unable to support the baby, there is still the choice for you of adoption. There are also programs to help out mothers who do not have the means.....but your husband is required to help you out by law as well.....

Don't blame yourself for some unknown problems he has. He is drinking a lot, so no matter what his mental state was before that, he is not going to be thinking very logically at this time. He sounds very unstable and it is good that you have re-located at least for the time being. Living in fear is not healthy.

Work things out with your sister as best you can for the meanwhile and hopefully she won't mind your extended stay. Your husband must support you and the baby no matter where you are, so there is no need for you to worry about your own job loss and lack of as much finances.

Maybe you can call a psychologist and meet with him together and discuss your situation with him. Do not go back to living with your husband until things have safely been settled.

Good luck and keep us posted.

mominashoe is right. i think some guys just get scared when, well, reality hits them in the face. My sister is 29, and she has a little girl who just turned 2 in september. My sister me this guy online, went to meet him, and a couple years later had Mary. They never got married. even though i think he was messed up to begin with i think it got worse when my sister was pregnant. and he kicked her out alot. and she lived 4 states away. he never kicked her out when she was pregnant, but when mary was less than a year old, i think around 5 months, he kicked her out. and after a few months she got back together with him and went back down south. and not long afterwards he kicked her and mary out again. he claimed he didnt want the baby, and gave her less than 24 hours to get out. he wouldnt even give her her stuff. so she has lived with us for a few months, then with a friend, then went to a homeless shelter until she got her act together. now she has been living in her own apartment with mary for a half a year now. and she does get help, but she is much better. even if things dont work out, there are people and programs out there to help single mothers. ^_^

Adoption is a great option for you! I am lookin to adopt a child, and would love to talk to u about the situation! Please pm me.

It goes across every economical situation. I know somebody who was married to his wife for 13 years, just kept telling himself he was unhappy. Seperated from her, got involved with me, gave me HPV, then on top of everything else, got involved with his business partner.

In the meantime, he got found out by his wife when she caught them together and had the strength, courage and love to go ask him to come back home. He did. He got her pregnant.

Now, he has divorced his wife and their baby son is going to be born in six more weeks.

I talked to him yesterday and I cannot understand how he could be throwing away not only his wife but now his little girl and unborn son. He says, "I just want to be happy." Happiness does not come at the expense of people who love you.

He, himself, was born to his mother when she was 16 years old and raised by his grandparents. Maybe they just overcompensated and gave him everything.

We all have hard times in our lives.

I know I had a terrible first husband. I kept my child (didn't know anything I could do but do that and I am glad for that decision. It was never an option. I was married and it was our child.)

You sound like a very intelligent young woman. There are lots of options for you. Please, if you love this person, try to get him counseling. If it is not love, make a safe place between the two of you and your little baby.

Good luck.

I hate to sound like a b****, but I'd sue his pants off for child support.

its not your fault its his.. i know little about it but you'll do great on your own if you have too. if you truely want the baby, the you keep it. . only you know whats right for you