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impulser23

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Posted: 01-06-08 12:09pm

Eiri wrote:

What about children born without a hymen? Are they NEVER a virgin?

What about a girl who breaks her hymen when riding a horse? Is she no longer a virgin? What if you do gymnastics or dance and break it that way during the splits? How about riding a bike or using tampons? There are dozens of ways for girls to accidentally break their hymens, so the hymen is NOT a representation of virginity. You need to re-think your opinion because it is flawed.

No, there's nothing wrong being a virgin. I was a virgin until I was 20 and very proud of the fact. However, I didn't loose my hymen right away. I was NOT a virgin any more because I'd had completely penetrative vaginal sex, but my septate hymen was still complete. My hymen was just a string over the middle of my vaginal entrance. These hymens are very hard to break; but since I could have sex with it in place, I didn't worry. Eventually it broke on its own during sex and wow, did it bleed! But that didn't suddenly mean I wasn't a virgin anymore; I'd lost my virginity months ago.

SO no, a hymen means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

=( sorry i thought it did, im goin to go cry in my little corner now T-T

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Posted: 01-06-08 12:16pm


You don't have to react with sarcasm; but do think about it with open eyes.

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Posted: 01-06-08 17:34pm


i didnot see any thing wrong to tell him that u still virgin that is some thing nice i think he will love it that he will be the first one with u .most of men so happy with that and love it . by the way iam 26 and still virgin and my fiance happy that my first sex relation will be with him after marrage . he will be happy with it in god willing dont worry so tell him

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Posted: 01-10-08 03:29am


Okay, I have a question for you bslucy...Do your friends give you crap because you are a virgin? My friends don't but some of my fiance's friends find it funny to say "She doesn't put out for him at all." We've been together for four years, and he is not a virgin but has done it once and when it started he knew that it was wrong, so he told the girl, who was pressuring him because HER friends were pressuring her (she was also a virgin) if they could stop and they did. Since that moment happened he said he would wait until the right girl came along, and it is ME obviously since he proposed. We haven't done it, and his friends know it. One girl in particular always give us crap about it and make me feel guilty. One night he and I went to pick up pizza and they were 20 minutes late making it so we had to sit around and the pizza place was about 5 blocks away. We come back and she says "Damn, you guys took so long I thought you guys stopped and finally did it for once!" I am scared too, and he knows it and luckily he is supportive and says he will wait as long as I have to. I was just wondering if you were getting some crap like I am, and I am 20, and just to let you know, our friends all are married or have kids....well, all but maybe 6 of them

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Posted: 01-10-08 14:32pm


Guys are like that. Ugh. Guys can be stupid. My husband, (who is incredibly sensitive and loving and romantic) still feels the need to discuss our sexcapades with his buddies. And he's 24. I don't think they ever grow out of it.

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Posted: 01-11-08 21:10pm

Georgia59 wrote:

Guys are like that. Ugh. Guys can be stupid.

My husband, (who is incredibly sensitive and loving and romantic)

Dang you are lucky!!

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Posted: 01-14-08 11:43am


He really is great, and I am lucky. That's not to say he's without his faults though!! lol.... he is still a guy after all.

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Posted: 01-14-08 11:58am


some men have no shame.

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Posted: 01-15-08 11:52am


Speaking from a guys point of view... very difficult to tell if a girl is a virgin or not. The bleeding myth is because guys are doing it wrong, the pain myth is because guys are doing it wrong. Any girl here will tell you that if a guy is gentle and there is more than enough foreplay, their isn't any reason other than the guy that it wont be the best experience of your life. If you relax and think about pleasure over pain, you'll get exactly what you want.

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Posted: 01-15-08 12:01pm


Yay! Finally a guy who knows something.

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Posted: 01-18-08 20:11pm


regarding the size/pain/stretching thing.... I was a virgin until I was married, at 23. My husband is... normal sized... but my vagina is VERY small. I'm not a small girl (5'8, and size 12) but the gyno told me at my exam just months before the wedding that I was VERY small. So no matter what the precautions/foreplay/lube it still hurt a little bit the first few times. And I think the vagina does stretch a bit (not alot obviously) but a little bit with childbirth. I've heard that men can tell the difference in their partners from before and after childbirth, that it feels not as tight. though it could be a myth. But I have noticed when there is a space of time between intercourse (like during my period) say, we haven't had sex for 2 weeks for whatever reason, the first time after that break it always feels tight and hurts a tiny tiny bit. Just tight and pulling, not major pain. bu tI always joke "wait, honey, go slow. remember, I'm back to virgin status" when that happens.

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Posted: 01-21-08 11:56am


Do you have a hymen? Just wondering. Some people have pretty tough ones that don't quite go away, even after sex. But thanks for the info. I have also heard the childbirth will change the vagina, but I don't really know. I don't have kids and won't ask my mom lol.

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Posted: 01-27-08 08:25am


I just wanted to say that I had to get my hymen cut during surgery because it was so tough and there was only a tiny hole in it (and was affecting my periods)... I physically was not able to have sex until after the operation. In the surgery they just made the hole a little bigger so I still had to "break" my hymen the first time and it was still very hard and very painfull... But definatly tell him you are a virgin... the first time I had sex I hadn't told my bf that he was my first and then later I decided I wanted him to know but he didn't believe me

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Posted: 01-27-08 11:08am


Virginity is a gift you can only give once, but you can only give it if he knows he's receiving it!! So whether he knows or not, it's still gone forever, and that special moment is lost... So I'd tell him 100%!!

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Posted: 01-27-08 11:19am

purrfection wrote:

I just wanted to say that I had to get my hymen cut during surgery because it was so tough and there was only a tiny hole in it (and was affecting my periods)... I physically was not able to have sex until after the operation. In the surgery they just made the hole a little bigger so I still had to "break" my hymen the first time and it was still very hard and very painfull...

But definatly tell him you are a virgin... the first time I had sex I hadn't told my bf that he was my first and then later I decided I wanted him to know but he didn't believe me Sad

Why didn't they cut it all the way? That seems so mean!!

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Hi, I am getting married in less than a month, and my fiance was not a christian years ago and he had a relationship for 3 years in which he was sexually active. I have been struggling lately with the thought that he would be thinking about his previous experiences with his Ex while he's having sex with me. Or the fact that he has nothing to explore with me because he has already done it. they broke up 2 years ago...and she was the only woman he had sex, and now me...I think about it all the time, and i don't want to sleep on the same bed that they did, or use the same sofas that they did as a couple. Please if there is any desent man out there that can tell me if I'm struggling over stupidity or tell me how man think, please!!! Here is an email he responded to when i wrote him about me being troubled... "My little princess. First of all, I'm going to answer your email because I feel like I should clear up a couple things. I love you. PERIOD. I know you're always doubting my feelings for you, just because of things you've found out about my ex....but thats the thing..she's my ex...and honestly I NEVER think about her, or going back to her. I know that you're my number 1 and always will be. It troubles me to think that these types of thoughts go through your mind. I hate that you think you have to be a "better person" when you're around me. You don't have to try to make me laugh or smile or anything...you just naturally do!!!!!!! You don't have to try, just be yourself. I love you for who, what, when, why, how, you are! I just can't explain to you how much you mean to me...I don't know what to SAY or DO to get you to stop thinking like you're second best. I'M NOT SETTLING FOR YOU!!!!!!! AGGGGHHHH!!! I dont like that you think that....I MADE the choice to marry you based on the holy spirit, and what I thought God wanted me to do. I know why he introduced us...I know why we're married. I know what he wants us to do for each other. I know why I love you. Why the heck would I feel SO strongly about a girl I just met? (when we first met) Thats sign number 1. You're perfect for me. You're beyond what I've expected. God has given me such a great gift, that honestly.....I don't deserve. But he has blessed me with your body and your soul to share the rest of my life with. And for that....I am eternally grateful to Him."