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Q: stuck in relationship
asked by: DanieManic on January 3rd, 2008
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I have been with one particular man for most of my life. I've dated him for 4 years. About a year ago he moved away so we have a long distance relationship. But for a the past few months he has been treating me horribly. He tells me he doesnt care if I die, he calls me a bunch of names, tells me he doesnt care about me, I dont deserve anything. And if something is wrong or if something bad happens to me, I tell him and he has no reaction to it. He says okay at the most. But then he tells me he loves me. I havent believed he loves me for the longest time. I know he did before though because before he treated me amazingly and showed me love. We were a strong couple.
I cannot take what he is doing to me. He hurts me too much, too often. I dont know what to do. I cannot emotionally handle to cut myself off from him. Even if we are broken up (we have broken up before for a short amount of time) he still treats me this way. I dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart and I need him but at the same time it hurts too much to continue with him. Whenever I try to leave him, I find myself coming back after a couple hours of crying. I dont know what to do anymore. Any suggestions? Please. Im stuck!
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Jude-Love
replied on January 3rd, 2008
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There really isn't anything to be suggested here. You just have to leave him and not take him back. You don't really need him and you CAN be happy without him, even if you don't believe that right now.
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mominashoe
replied on January 3rd, 2008
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I know you are emotionally tied to him, but he definitely isn't to you. I don't understand why he hasn't actually just said that he is breaking up with you and moving on to other people.

You need to just tell him that it's over and leave it that way for good. It will take a little time for you to heal, but it is better to start now than to keep putting off the inevitable and getting constantly hurt and put down at the same time.

Keep yourself busy with other things to help yourself get over him. Find a new hobby that will preoccupy your time and your mind. After a bit, look for someone else to give your time and your love to......someone who will care about you and deserve what you have to offer: because the one you are giving it to really does not deserve it.

Good luck.
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