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Q: I'm Not Coping
asked by: Dannzibelle on January 2nd, 2008
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I thought i was but i'm not. I've just gone backwards and now when i've come on here to get all my feelings out and try to get some advice Mika's just woken up and is screaming at me. I'm a terrble mother, i don't want my baby. Every night she screams for two hours until i finally give in and let her come into bed with me, meaning that i don't get a good sleep and am exhausted for all the next day and then because she won't go to sleep in time she wakes up later so then doesn't get her three solid meals a day and isn't in a routine like i've been trying.
Everyday i have to put up with my dad asking me when i'm moving out, how long is it going to be until i move out, can i get Mika to be quiet while he's trying to watch tv, why have i left her in the lounge while i go into the kitchen etc etc. He couldn't make it move obvious that he doesn't want me here if he tried.
I miss Dom so much. I hate not living together, it's tearing us apart, our relationship is in ruins right now.
We were promised somewhere to live and were told we would have somewhere before Christmas without a doubt, we're still at our parent's. Dom's mum's moving hundreads of miles away in a few months and if we don't have somewhre of our own he's going too. And he won't have a job after friday because it was temporary.
I really don't know what to do, i try to be positive and upload photo's etc and all those other things but deep down all i want to do is cry, i just don't know what to do anymore.
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rosejackson
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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are you on the council or anything that can house you? because if you are, you can get your dad to write that he is chucking you out. doesnt sound nice, but you and dom will be placed in emergency accomodation together, which will be temperary until they find a suitable place for a family to live in
i know things are hard now. things will get better. keep strong
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Becky
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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Danni I am so sorry you are going through this. i went through exactly the same thing with Layla and I am sunk in depression too now. Would you like me to come down and visit you? I could come pretty easily on the train or drive down with Robbie. I am free tomorrow or Friday. I think it is much better in person to talk....

Give me a text or speak on here
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acruz
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I am so sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. I wish I could help you, babysit or something...but you are too far away Sad Please do not think that you are a bad mother...you love and provide for Mika and that makes you a great mother. Please keep your head high! pm me anytime if you want to talk. *Big Hug*
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Idony
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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i sent you a pm hun

~alicia~
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Dannzibelle
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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rosejackson wrote:
are you on the council or anything that can house you? because if you are, you can get your dad to write that he is chucking you out. doesnt sound nice, but you and dom will be placed in emergency accomodation together, which will be temperary until they find a suitable place for a family to live in
i know things are hard now. things will get better. keep strong

We're on it already. All they can offer is a bed and breakfast where you have to be out by 9am and in my 5pm. There's no other flats or houses available because they give them to jumkies and scroungers.
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rosejackson
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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the council should usually offer emergency occomodation (eg a hostel) until they find you somewhere else. a bed and breakfast really isn't suitable for a family to live in. have you tried being on the housing association? that's what housed us when william was a week old.
i hope your situation gets better. try not to blame yourself. has dom tried getting a job at a supermarket? they usually offer jobs on a daily basis, like asdas and tescos? even as a trolley boy for the time being. any type of income helps. or even a paper boy? brings in a few extra pennies a week
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NotEnoughForAnyone
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I'm sorry things are not going the way you need them too. I hope it gets straitened out soon hun. I wish I had some advice but I got nothing but hope for you.
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jessesgirl
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I'm so sorry to hear about this.
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Becky
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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If it's not convienant for me to come up I could always just give you a call on your mobile. I don't like to just call randomly but if you would like me too, i will
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Shanyan
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I am so sorry that your going through all this. Don't ever think that you are a bad mother....you are doing the best you can!!!!! I hope that things get better for you and Dom. If his mother moves and he goes with her is it possible that you and Mika would be able to move with them?
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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hun you are a good mom. you are just going thru a rough patch right now we all have been there in one point in our lives des had colic and that was not fun and dereke was gone allll the time so he was never home to help i had to do it on my own which sux big time. just hang in all will get better soon have you talked to your dr again yet??? is there anyone who could take her for a while so you can just rest for a while? i wished i was there for you i would help you
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Bridget
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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i'm really sorry, danni. i hope things get sorted out real soon for you.

you are not a bad mom.
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mamaTT
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I hope things get better for you soon.
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moldedbymercy88
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I don't know what to say other than I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine how much it would hurt if you were ONLY dealing with your dad making you feel unwelcome. I can't imagine everything at once. I'm so sorry.............
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monkeygirl22
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I'm sorry Danni. I don't really know what to say but I do hope things get better.
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Dannzibelle
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I think my dad realised how horrible he's been. He's being a little nicer but in honesty i can't blame him for being mean, i mean who wants to live with their 16 year old and her 6 month old. I just hate the situation i'm in but i can't complain, i chose to keep Mika and i knew it would be hard
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-Tanya-
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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You aren't a bad mother Danni. So many mothers have been there.

You can pm me anytime you want. I know what it's like feeling like you just can't do it. Not even wanting to be a mother, and feeling like the future is completely hopeless. Talk to me if you want to.
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Katrinadoodle
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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fairytale007
replied on January 2nd, 2008
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. You shouldn't have to deal with stuff like that. You're a great girl, and you deserve only the best. I know how it feels to always be asked when you're moving out. It sucks.

And know that you're not a bad mother at all. It's hard to take care of a baby, esp when you're young. Don't be so hard on yourself..you're a great girl and doing the best you can with Mika. Hang in there. We're all here for you. Smile
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