It's like that for me sometimes too. I haven't really figured out why some times we do it I don't feel that great and other times it feels great (though I haven't yet experienced the big 'O'). I think a lot has to do with my attitude that day and how relaxed I am. You can't have a lot of other life stresses on your mind-that'll take away from the experience.
Do you kiss during sex? That helps me a lot, kissing on the lips and on the neck and ears. Maybe some dirty talk would help too?

He's honestly been the best lover that I've ever been with. He takes his time with arousing me, he's never been much of the type to just 'jump in'. He kisses me, sucks on my neck, ears, and breasts. He pretty much gets me to the point where I'm just dying for him to get inside me -- but when he does I end up disappointed from the lack of feeling.

I know it's not a self-confidence issue, I'm completely relaxed around him. I know he loves every inch of me and I never doubt it.

But I do know that when he gets deep inside of me, it feels as if he hits a wall or something but I receive a slight pleasurable sensation from it. Maybe he's not large enough?

if you're on bc, maybe it has something to do with that? I really don't know. The only lover I've ever had is my husband.

I actually am on birth control. I've been on it for 6 months before I even lost my virginity. I actually started taking it to relieve the bad cramps I was experiencing.

Getting off the birth control is not an option because my cramps were so bad that I would stay home from school. It often ended in me becoming naceous and throwing up.

I was giving some strong painkillers but I take so many that my doctor said it could've thin the lining in my stomach and cause some serious bleeding.

That's scary, you'll have to be careful with that. I'm not sure what the problem could be with not feeling the sensations during sex.... do you feel much when he fingers you?

i don't receive pleasure from that neither. not even when i do it or if we use a dildo. all my pleasure is basically all clitoral.

that wall would be the cervix...before i was preg. i loved it when my dh would go deep enough to hit it! are you on top a lot? sometimes its better when you're on top and in control, at least that way if it starts to feel good one way, you can keep on going!

when i'm on top, it definately hits the cervix .. but sometimes it's just not enough to keep me going.

It's NORMAL for the only true pleasure to come from the clitoris!! You gals don't have anything wrong with you. I've never vaginally orgasmed either. I can't. Most women can't!! It's OK to stimulate the clitoris during vagina sex, that's how most women orgasm!!

erir is right
its completely normal
only 10% of women can actually have a vaginal orgasm

Not one of my girlfriends has ever gotten off with just the penis (myself included). This is very common. However sometimes if I am on top and laying completely flat on my hubby and we have sex that way I get plenty of clitoral stimulation from his pelvic bone and that gets me off hands free for him. Try that, then you will get clitoral and vaginal stimulation all at once and everyone is happy!

Read some of the other posts on this page about the same topic you should find some good info.

it's actually normal not to feel a lot of pleasure vaginally-trust me when i say i know. make him pleasure you before hand either orally or with his fingers until you orgasm and then try. even if you aren't stimulated again vaginally, the after effects should last long enough to provide a fair amount of pleasure.