i can only think of talking to him. Talking is the best way to solve these kind of situations. Obviously your husband is at fault here for yelling at ur son like that, if anything u should tell him to yell at you cuz the poor kid was just doing what u were telling him to. My dad used to be like that to me and my mom but he has changed to a better man now cuz my mom would talk to him and eventually when i got older and landed a place on the wrestling team i had the guts to tell my dad howmuch i hated him for yelling at me in the past. But im sorry u cut urself during this whole issue, im pretty sure that was just an accident. But definately talk to ur husband about the situation. New Years is for new beginnings dont start it off shaky.

Thanks impulser23, I did told him that - don't take it on my son instead of me, I told my husband that my son is just following my order and I told him "do you know why my son listens to me more is because I don't scold him like you do". I told him also:"you don't like your dad to do it to you when you were young right so now don't do it to my son".

You are right I don't want to start a new year shaky, who likes it anyway but then I can't help it when it involves my children.

Ugh, what a situation.

I'd just wish you a a Happy New Year too, but it looks like you need more than just that.

Your husband needs to be more understanding. You could even just get rid of the TV for a while and I know for certain that this would help your communication. Even if it's just for a day, hide it, get together as a family, and talk about the issues that are keeping you from being a very happy and united family and what you can do to solve them.

I'm not saying TV is bad, but it certainly keeps people apart sometimes.

Don't worry about not having a good enough start for the new year. Just because you put up a new calendar on the wall doesn't mean that things have to be perfect or cannot be. Every day, every minute is a fresh new start, so don't be discouraged when something goes wrong.

Maybe your husband just needs some incentives, just like you'd do for kids. I don't mean a sticker chart, lol, but when he's good to the family, do something special....when he's not, ignore him. Don't even give him the satisfaction of having you around and talking to you or your son, especially if he's verbally abusing your son. Just leave quietly. Let him realize by your actions that if he isn't going to be a mature adult and father, he can't be included in family activities or have the advantages that a husband should have, not even a home-cooked meal.

Good luck and happy beginnings, no matter what date they happen to be

My husband and I have an agreement about the aork that we do around the house. He helps washing the dishes and it makes both of us feel good to participate. Don`t feel that you have to carry the burden of all the house keeping... this is the 21st century qfter qll. Is your husband fairly modern and open to helping you out?