13 And Pregnant

Why do you want a baby? Do you think if your parents weren't around you could take care of yourself? Could you get a job and pay all the bills that they pay now? Could you do that and take care of an infant?

wow
how is the baby going to have a good life witha mother DAT SPELLZ LYKE DIZ?

you cant even get a jjob how the hell are you going to support your kid
for the sake of the child abortion or adoptions is the best offer

Ok, here is what you should do:

First, Stop being scared. It's not going to help you and it can cause you to have actual physical pains that you wouldn't have otherwise.

Second, Tell your parents NOW: 10 weeks is a good time to start seeing a doctor, especially if you are only 13. I am guessing that you haven't done that yet since you haven't told your parents. They need to know at some point....because they are going to realize you are because of your health or because you will begin to show. They are the ones that are going to have to help you with the pregnancy and your sincerity and truthfulness at this point is critical. If you feel that you cannot tell them to their faces, write it out on paper....tell them your fears and your misgivings and how much you need their help more than anything else at this time.

I know you want to keep the baby, but you can think about it for a while. Pregnancy lasts nine months and after you have talked to your parents, and considered all the possibilities, you might decide that adoption is the best thing for you since you are not considering abortion, which, once done, can bother you for the rest of your life.

I am very glad that you are mature enough to accept the consequence of a baby as a result of having sex, but at 13 you cannot provide all that a child needs, unless your parents want to take care of the baby almost full time. You still have a lot of schooling head of you and you will also need to get a job to support the baby.

Thirdly, Try keep as healthy a lifestyle as you can........This pregnancy is going to be hard on your body. You will be fine in the end, but you will be exhausted and need a lot of time to catch up from the strain, just as every girl would, but your body is busy growing too. It isn't much easier after the baby is born....you won't sleep much and most of your time will be spend feeding the baby, changing diapers, and holding him.

The rest is up to your parents and your doctor, and best of luck.

why isnt she considering abortion? where does it say that?

mominashoe - Thank you so much for the advice. I hadn't thought of the note. I'd also like to thank you for not criticizing me.

the_girlfriend- Since when did a parent's spelling have anything to do with a child? There are plenty of kids in my school whose parents are from Mexico and do not speak, read or write english, but that doesn't mean that they are bad parents. as for the short hand, it is the way I'm used to writing in text messages and on myspace.

futureshock - No I don't think I can take care of the baby and due to my age NO I don't think I can get a job, but I am not willing to have an abortion. I was pregnant before and I cause myself to have a misscarriage and the thought of me punishing an innocent life was something that I don't want to feel again. I have been given a second chance to make up for what I did and I'm not going to make the same mistake again. I know that I have people in my life to help me and that I'm not going to be alone. My child will not do without. It's just getting passed telling my parents that will be worst part.

you were pregnant BEFORE you were 13?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you are so worried about telling your parents which would be the right thing to do(may i add)! GO TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD you need to be aware of how far along you really are how do you know your 10 weeks and you need to get prenatal vitamins that YOUR GROWING BABY NEEDS. Also planned parenthood will talk to you about how to tell your parents they even offer to call them from the office but be mature and tell them face to face. Im not going to tell you to have an abortion or to choose adoption because its totally up to you. I think your nuts but who am i to say that you cant be good mom and support your baby???? Do the right thing...

while im here... theres the link you can find info on the where the nearest one is and you said you have a sister who had a baby( i assume shes older)? talk to her and i bet she we will be willing to take you and help tell your parents

http://www.plannedparenthood.o rg/

I agree with stefania, go to PP first. Get an ultrasound, a test, vitamins, a check up, etc. Discuss all your options with them. You'll feel more empowered and in control. PP isn't for just abortions - they deal with all aspects of pregnancy and childbirth.

Afterwards, you can talk to your parents about benefits and risks.

Although, to be honest, at your age the risk of serious, life threatening complications is very very high. You should seriously consider abortion. It's not the most appealing option, obviously, but if you get sick the chances of your baby dying or being born with defects are tremendous.

Yeah, I was pregnant about 4months ago and I caused myself to loose the baby. Afterwards all I could do was cry and I felt so depressed and kept thinking about what I had done.

My sister is older and I know from her experience about the vitamins. I received a gift card for christmas to use at walmart and I bought pre-natal vitamins, iron pills and calcium tablets because I don't like milk.

I assume I'm about 10 weeks because I found this pregnancy thing online where you put in the first day of your last period and it tells you how many weeks you may be. Mine said that as of December 30 I would be 10 weeks.

If I go to Planned Parenthood do I need a parent?

No, you do not need a parent.

How did you cause a miscarriage?

Depending on your state, you actually may need a parent for any medical examinations (like an ultrasound). Most states recognize medical privacy at 13, but some do not recognize reproductive privacy until 16, considering it's usually a case of statuatory rape. But for a sit down to discuss options and outcomes, you don't need a parent.

I caused it by continuosly hitting myself until I felt a sharp pain. Then it was like I started a very heavy menstrual cycle which was very painful.

I'm in Florida and I'm close to a Planned Parenthood center, so I think I'm going to at least ask some questions.

Thank you all so much for your advice.

Brianna, how hard did you hit yourself? What kind of marks did the hitting leave? The reason I ask is that you may not have caused the miscarriage. If a miscarriage could be caused that easily, millions of women would do it.

That is odd. I know girls who threw themselves down flights of stairs to try to self-abort [and failed].

On a completely unrelated side note that I have to share...My 5 year old just walked in to ask my something, then walked out. She has the cutest little butt in her 'sweetheart' jeans we got @ Children's Place. But her bootie is too big, and she has a mild case of maytag syndrome, lol. =)

OK i don't get the maytag part.



That's what I was thinking!

the PP around here don't give ultrasounds