Sexual frigidity - desire for sex Is B R O K E N! Posted: 12-30-07 23:59pm
I have ALWAYS been a very "touchy feely"
type of person. Just one touch would have
me going! I've loved sex! Sex,
masturbation, pornos etc, but ever since i
found out i was pregnant, the "want" to do
any thing sexual is G O N E! And I don't
know what to do to get that urge back! I
miss it terribly!!!
I haven't had sex in about 4 months! I
know the boyfriend is very irritated about
that! I don't even want him touching me,
let alone, us having sex! He can't even
gently give me a rub my back without me
flinching at the thought of him trying to
pull a smooth move! I almost feel, as if,
I'm disgusted at the thought of us having
sex!
Our "sexual experience" hasn't been the
most memorable! Its always been "rushed"
and "quick". I've always had a problem
with that! Could it be, with the change in
my hormones, I'm just needing a little bit
of "buttering up" before sex!
I don't know from experience, but I've
heard of this type of thing happening.
It's the mommy in you that's uncomfortable
with having sex with the baby there (in
you). It's healthy to have sex while
pregnant though.
Maybe talk to him about how you're
feeling. Start slow with gentle kisses and
work up to 'the deed'. Have a romantic
date to start setting the mood. Maybe that
will help?
Sorry I don't have more ideas for you,
hope this helps. Good luck!
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jaynemae
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Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 51 Location: Washington, USA
Posted: 12-31-07 15:24pm
i'm pregnant too, and during the first
couple months i absolutely did not want to
do anything sexual, although i'm usually
ready to go at the drop of any piece of
clothing. i am now almost in my second
trimester (only about a week away) and my
craving for sex has returned. wait until
you start getting those very vivid sex
dreams and you wake up and find your
partner not there to help you...i don't
know how far along you are, but i believe
it will pass for you.
i'm pregnant too, and during
the first couple months i absolutely did
not want to do anything sexual, although
i'm usually ready to go at the drop of any
piece of clothing. i am now almost in my
second trimester (only about a week away)
and my craving for sex has returned. wait
until you start getting those very vivid
sex dreams and you wake up and find your
partner not there to help you...i don't
know how far along you are, but i believe
it will pass for
you.
I too am reaching the second trimester!(4
days away). I actually have experienced a
few of those "vivid sex dreams"! But I'd
have to consider them a bit odd! There are
days that i feel that "urge" for sex might
be coming back, but then theres days where
i just feel I'll never be horny again!
My hunny and I are moving into our one
place beginning of January. Since that is
right around the corner, I'm hoping
everything will be back to normal! My sex
drive has always been high, and I miss it!
I was up and willing to do anything and
everything, but ever since this little
bundle of joy, I have N O S E X D R I V E!
But I sometimes feel, its more then just
the low sex drive. When i first found out
I was pregnant, I started feeling very
distant from my hunny. Almost, as if, I
had lost interest in him. I noticed that
lack of interest, and he did as well! It
was a strange feeling. I loved him
immensely but that "interest" was gone. It
was as if, the "lust" between us two had
faded away. I was disgusted with every
little thing he did. The way he dressed,
the way he acted, the way he looked, the
way he walked, the way he burped, the way
he talked, laughed, slept, etc! I couldn't
get a hold of myself. He is a very "lovey
dovey" type of man, and that disgusted me
as well! I couldn't even bare to hold his
hand without me softly pulling away so he
wouldn't notice! And him lingering for a
kiss just sickened me! I just looked at
him in disgust. I just felt like i wasn't
interested in him any more, and I couldn't
put a finger on the reason "why"!!
Well, slowly but surely I'm starting to
feel "myself" again. That feeling of
'disgust" is fading but i was wondering,
has any one ever experienced something
like that? Having a huge amount of love
for the man in your life, but after
finding out you where pregnant, you where
just sickened by him?
I feel terrible that I have ever once felt
like that. He loves me unconditionally. He
would do anything for me and it just hurts
inside that i could ever feel that way
about the man that I truly love!!!
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-31-07 18:04pm
I've felt that way before, but it wasn't
from pregnancy, it was from hormone pills
I was taking for a surgery (a surgery so I
can get pregnant someday). I love my
husband more than anything, and he took
good care of me, but when I was on those
pills, even the thought of kissing or
hugging or even barely touching made me
ill. I hated feeling like that. We didn't
have sex for 2 1/2 months because of those
pills. When I finally got back to myself,
sex was more fun and special because of
the absence of it that we'd had. I'm sure
you'll get your drive back, and then some,
your hormones are just a little wacky
right now.
I've felt that way before,
but it wasn't from pregnancy, it was from
hormone pills I was taking for a surgery
(a surgery so I can get pregnant someday).
I love my husband more than anything, and
he took good care of me, but when I was on
those pills, even the thought of kissing
or hugging or even barely touching made me
ill. I hated feeling like that. We didn't
have sex for 2 1/2 months because of those
pills. When I finally got back to myself,
sex was more fun and special because of
the absence of it that we'd had. I'm sure
you'll get your drive back, and then some,
your hormones are just a little wacky
right now.
I'm very pleased to know that I am not the
only one that has gone through this type
of situation! Slowly but surly, I am
getting back to my old self so i know this
is just a "stage" that I'm going through
but i must admit - its been rough!
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-31-07 18:19pm
I know what you mean. It's hard to love
someone but not want to show it
physically. It's upsetting and frustrating
and you feel like you're all defective or
something. I'm glad you're feeling like
yourself more, have fun now that you want
to again!
I know what you mean. It's
hard to love someone but not want to show
it physically. It's upsetting and
frustrating and you feel like you're all
defective or something. I'm glad you're
feeling like yourself more, have fun now
that you want to
again!
OMG yes! Defective is the best word to
use! You just feel lost! And the icing on
the cake - having to rush it! That wasn't
to thrilling to me! But since we are
getting our own place very soon, I'm not
going to have to worry about the "quickys"
any more! I'll be actually able to enjoy
it! So thats a +! Woo hoo
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-31-07 18:46pm
Your own place will help a ton, I'm sure.
You'll be more comfortable, have more
space, and time, etc. Sounds like
everything's going to be getting better
and better for you!
Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 51 Location: Washington, USA
Posted: 01-01-08 01:03am
do you guys already live together with a
roommate, or is this a first time really
living together thing? i was with my guy
for about 2 years when we moved in
together. man i thought i knew all the
annoying things he did and how messy he
was. now that i live with him i know the
truth! it has caused some arguments, but
nothing too major. just remember, you
have a lot of changes ahead and both of
you will need a lot of patience.
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 01-01-08 19:01pm
jaynemae
wrote:
do you guys already live
together with a roommate, or is this a
first time really living together thing?
i was with my guy for about 2 years when
we moved in together. man i thought i
knew all the annoying things he did and
how messy he was. now that i live with
him i know the truth! it has caused some
arguments, but nothing too major. just
remember, you have a lot of changes ahead
and both of you will need a lot of
patience.
Very true. Living with someone at the
first is very hard, even after a year or
two it's difficult. But it will definitely
help with sex-no more quickies hopefully,
or at least a lot less.
I had assumed you guys were living
together, just not in your own place. Good
luck either way!
I GOT MY MOJO BACK UP AND WORKING . YESTERDAY FELT
GOOD! THERE WAS JUST A BIT OF TEASING
GOING ON, BUT THE FACT THAT I WASN'T
DISGUSTED BY IT JUST MADE MY DAY . WHO HOO
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 01-01-08 19:11pm
That's awesome!!! I'm so happy for you!
What a relief, I'm sure!
Oh it was a major relief! I mean - there
wasn't anything really "exciting" going
on, but for that "sensation" to appear was
a big +++!
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 01-01-08 21:45pm
I know what you mean. When mine came back
I cried I was so happy and relieved.
Nothing 'exciting' was happening with my
'comeback' either, but to have that part
of you that you think is lost to come
back....very good feeling.
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sillysallie1990
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 308 Location: ,
Posted: 01-02-08 02:45am
lol i wish i could find my sex drive...
and i am not even pregnant. I just never
want sex. and it hurts my boyfriend i
think. I just cant help it.
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impulser23
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Joined: 14 Nov 2007 Posts: 122 Location: ,
Posted: 01-02-08 03:50am
sillysallie1990
wrote:
lol i wish i could find my
sex drive... and i am not even pregnant. I
just never want sex. and it hurts my
boyfriend i think. I just cant help
it.
poor guy hahaha o well, sex shouldnt be
the first thing on guys mind, for me its
keeping a good relationship outside of
sex, then sex every few weeks maybe.
Relationship built on sex eventually goes
down the caca hole.
Back to topic: Starsexxxie, im glad ur
feeling the groove again. Maybe to
actually hit it off, umm take a bubble
bath with ur lover....bubble baths solves
everything for me =P
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sillysallie1990
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 308 Location: ,
Posted: 01-02-08 17:17pm
impulser23
wrote:
sillysallie1990
wrote:
lol i wish i could find my
sex drive... and i am not even pregnant. I
just never want sex. and it hurts my
boyfriend i think. I just cant help
it.
poor guy hahaha o well, sex shouldnt be
the first thing on guys mind, for me its
keeping a good relationship outside of
sex, then sex every few weeks maybe.
Relationship built on sex eventually goes
down the caca hole.
Back to topic: Starsexxxie, im glad ur
feeling the groove again. Maybe to
actually hit it off, umm take a bubble
bath with ur lover....bubble baths solves
everything for me
=P
Are relationship has
never been based on sex lol thatnk god. he
was my best friend for three years before
we started dating and he is my first and
we have only had sex like ten times.... I
just dont really get into it.
