I think I am finally ready to end my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for 20 years. There are several things I love about him. He is compassionate, loves animals, is fun to be around, is generous, and helpful. The reason I want to leave is he is verbally abusive. He puts me down a lot. And he brings up things I have done in the past, years later, and picks on me about how bad I am for things I have done in the pase. Recently I have been asking him to leave if he really feels I am so bad. He has a temper. He has never hit me, but he has threatened violence in the past and come close. I recently lost 25 pounds. I am 5'6" and went from 176 to about 150. He says I am too skinny now and should go ahead and lose more weight. He is 100 pounds overweight. I do not understand why he always picks at me. But I am finally tired of it. I have been with him since high school. I am afraid to be alone. I left once before, moved across country and went back with him after two months. I think maybe I didn't grieve the end of our relationship properly and had no support from people that were nearby. I think I am ready now. I have been second guessing myself for a while. When things are good they are wonderful, but it is not enough anymore... What do you all think? In 20 years there is a lot more. If you want more info, ask me...