relationship counseling

Yup, we did it recently because we came to a point where we were fighting constantly and believed each other was always the one at fault for the problems. I must say that so far we have only gone to one meeting and we need to go back again but that one hour that we have gone to (about a month and a half ago) has worked wonders for us! My husband believed that he was always right and everything was my fault...well we found that this was all because of underlying issues and he was frustrated with me for things in the past. He also has problems with hearing me, he listens but doesn't hear me...so everything that I said was spelled out for him in ways that he could hear me it was amazing! The counselor told him that he needed to let go of things from our past and live with today and to stop blaming me for things in the past because we will continue to hit this wall. Since the session he has worked so hard at it and we have not gotten in one fight. That's pretty amazing for us because before that session we couldn't go 2 days without a fight! He thinks more before he speaks and reacts and he has really stopped blaming me for things because he has learned that those things can't be changed. It isn't rocket science but i suppose hearing it from someone else actually helped and having it spelled out for him made it better....mind you counseling was his idea and he thought we would go in there and be told that I am the problem...lol...guess he learned otherwise. I think it's absolutely wonderful!

Yes. We went to marriage counseling before we were married. My husband is reluctant to talk about our problems with someone else but sometimes I want to have the help of a third person, neutral party to balance the conversation. We have been married for a year and are learning now how to communicate together aithout the help of a 3rd person. So I definitely think counseling helps for building those commuinication skills which are the essence of our relationship.

Communication is the most important skill in the marriage. Love is the heart but communication is the blood. I married catholic and in our marriage preparation classes they profusely discussed how important the communication is and now married I can see how this is true.

I am going to counseling with my hubby next week. I have gone to therapy myself and it had helped so much, so I have total faith in counseling for couples and anyone really. Just give it a try, it cant hurt.