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disappointed by husband Posted: 12-29-07 11:36am
Have anyone feel dissapointed before? I
have I found out that my husband bought a
new set of tyres and rims for his brand
new car which he claims to be ours. I
don't car much about the value of the
money but I felt dissapointed that he have
to do it sneakily behind my back - I only
found out about it when I checked our bank
account. I felt left out, I'm the last one
to know, I got no one to talk to about it
except here. He said that I got no right
to argue about it since I bought a lot of
stuff, I said I did that with his
permission and knowleadge. It might look
like a small problems to anyone else but
to me it's a big one, he doesn't include
in as his other half.
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misssemsem
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I Really Feel What U Feel Now Posted: 12-29-07 19:48pm
may be as u said its small problem to some
people but i feel the same feeling when
some thing like that happen with me . i
feel it when my fiance buy some stuff on
our new apartment i feel its no need for
it and he said the same to me that i not
have the right to argue with him with
direct way but in the end he said it to me
with nice way i first i feel its big
problem but after time i try to forget it
cause i try to make my self busy with
another thing and forget that one and the
life go on so try to dont bother ur self
and he already buy it so u cant change it
so no need to tired ur self with argue
with him
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bitzy
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Posted: 12-29-07 23:36pm
i think it is important in a relationship
to consider each other in all
matters,however, sometimes you have to
know when to give some space to the ones
you love. At times i smother my husband
because i expect so much of him and alot
of the time, i find myself disappointed.
I think we need to step back a little and
try harder . It depends on if your
husband does this all the time, never
considering you for when a decision needs
to be made. you have to write down the
pro and cons- see what is really bothering
you. Maybe it's a good thing, that he
takes the time to care for your new car-
if it is new why does it need new tires
and a rim? well maybe he is so happy
because maybe both of you finally could
afford that car he wanted so much. Be
happy together-don't get mad, make the
point to talk about making decisions
togethor on the big things...that you will
let this one slide , with a smile or joke-
don't harbor on the small things-pick your
battles- learn to forgive and know women
are a whole lot stronger than men - so
just move on - and tell him you still love
him.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-29-07 23:43pm
i would be MAD
thats both of your money
he definatley should have confided in you
about it first
im so sorry tini
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rose_liz
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Posted: 12-29-07 23:50pm
i totally agree with you. its one thing to
go out and have fun and spend some money.
but when its a big decison like rims and
tires for a car that is group decision
right there. i would definately be mad if
my boyfriend did something crazy like
that.
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Hart74
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Posted: 12-30-07 05:35am
Thanks guys, I know it may be a small
matter to him it's nothing to be fuss
about but as for me whatever I do I
consider the other party feeling,
blessings and opinion - that's what it
call respect and courtesy to each other no
doubt he didn't do it often but when he do
it it concern the whole family like the
other time when he became a gurantor to
any Tom , Dick or Harry the guy ran and he
got to pay more than S$ 30K. Money to me
is just a number but what important is
trust once you break it you have a very
difficult task to mend it.
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Birch
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Posted: 12-31-07 00:09am
Number One Most Important Relationship
Rule:
Separate Bank Accounts.
This immediately eliminates all potential
arguments over who is doing what with
who's money.
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Hart74
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:21am
Birch
wrote:
Number One Most Important
Relationship Rule:
Separate Bank Accounts.
This immediately eliminates all potential
arguments over who is doing what with
who's money.
Thanks Birch I'll keep that in mind.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:23am
birch has a great idea lol
i would NEVER be able to share an acct
with travis
wed go insane
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Hart74
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:27am
Hahahaha me too but here we do need an
account together for some transaction like
housing, utility bills etc however I do
have an account a personal one I mean and
I know that he have not one but a few with
money that he can't withdraw (his mom kept
it since birth)