You have to very clearly tell this to your gf. Tell her you guys can get married after she graduates from school and then have a baby sometime later, when you both are ready. . She can either abort this pregnancy or put the child up for adoption.

I wish you well.

Give yourself time. A baby is a very big thing to accept in your life, especially if it's not planned, and it's really a normal thing to have misgivings and be afraid.

If you are just thinking that she MIGHT be pregnant, don't worry too hard about it until you find out that she is for sure. You wouldn't want to worry about something that isn't taking place.

If she is pregnant, you should talk to both yours and your gf's parents together and tell them your wishes, which they should respect, seeing that she will not have the baby until after she graduates and you are almost a "completely legal" adult. Hopefully they will be able to help you both out in some respects. Telling the parents early on will ensure a greater possibility that you and them have a mutual trust and respect for each other.

If you are both ready to love and care for this baby, that's all you need to be good parents. Every time I get pregnant I'm scared too and this is my 7th pregnancy and 6th full term pregnancy and I've been married for nearly 10 years. You'd think it was old hat for someone like me, but each baby is a change in my life and there are many things to consider. It is the responsibility that you are realizing, but this is very good that you know that it is there, because this is no small thing: a human life.

The only thing that you would need otherwise is the finances, and there are programs to help if you don't quite have the means to do it. Otherwise, I'm guessing that you are a working guy, so you should start making more money to provide for the little one, because it isn't going to be cheap.

Be a good and supportive partner for your GF. She wants the baby and you wanting it too is the best thing for her. You have 9 months of pregnancy to come to love this baby growing inside of her and also that is enough time for you and her to consider that if you can't handle it, there is always adoption.

I wish you all the best

Moninashoe, we both read the same thing and got something completely different from it. I focused on this part:

I was mainly considering that he part where he is saying "I don't THINK I am ready" means that maybe after the initial shock of the situation, he will calm down a bit after it registers what it means to have a baby in his life. If she wants the baby, there is no reason why they should terminate the pregnancy. It is not as much up to him as it is to her.

Sometimes the initial thought of what has happened triggers just an overall panic attack and crazy views of what the future holds, since it's just such an unknown thing, all new to him, and a pretty big responsibility. This is perfectly normal.

Sometimes people forget that there is time.....9 months....before the baby is born where they can either decide to keep the baby (which is what mom wants to do) or give it up for adoption, which they might decide on later because of difficult life circumstances, or they just feel that they aren't quite ready yet. They don't want to terminate now and be sorry later on. You can't undo that. I wasn't thinking that was something they were considering as an option.

But in this case, the parents might also be able to help out as well. They might help her take care for the baby while she adjusts too. There is just plenty of time to think about it is all I'm saying

seeing as i couldnt sleep this morning i went to her house we live very close i just walked (i needed the fresh air), i walked in nd went upstairs. I came to find her sitting up awake i got in bed with her i told her that i was nervous, she agreed that she was also. We agreed its one way to take life on the fast track but if it comes out positive that we are going to keep the baby. Her confidence in me reassured me that i can do this financially, physically & mentally and that i will be a good dad. she bought a test a few days ago and she said she was just too nervous to take it alone. She took the test after reading the directions for 20minutes and it was positive. As of now were deciding how to tell our parents. She made an apointment for planned parenthood to get vitamins? i think thats what she said untill we tell our parents and start seeing a real doctor...

Great! I wish you both the best.

Good for you. Best of luck.

what a morning you have had! i hope things work out, go get some sleep! good luck on starting a family!

Good luck! n dont worry about it. you do have a long time to sort your head out b4 its the real deal and a baby in your arms. its nice to hear about a young couple gettin it good. congrats!
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Hope it goes well. And yes she needs to get to the Dr to get prenatels and they will tell her what to expect. Tell your parents soon, cause for us they were our biggest supporters. Well after the initial shock! It only took them about a day to know they needed to be behind us in what we chose to do.

Good luck and take care!

Good luck to the both of you!