Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1122 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Can I Please Just Vent? Posted: 12-28-07 16:54pm
Hey everyone I am losing my freakin mind
right now. I think I am having a panic
attack! I am so confused and mad and
resentful right now!!!!!!!
My hubby and I have been having problems
non-stop for like 4-5 months now and it
just keeps getting worse and worse. I
cant go 1 hour before I want to just
strangle him. I seriously want to kick
him in the face I get so mad. I wish he
was different and I wish things could be
like they used to be. but I know they will
never be.
I have to get back to work so I will post
a little later. I wish it would just
stop, I want it all to just end......
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-28-07 17:01pm
It can. Divorce. I don't know what's up
but if it's this frustrating, then
something's wrong.
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Flurries in the air
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Joined: 07 Nov 2007 Posts: 388 Location: Chicago
Posted: 12-28-07 17:19pm
counseling would help better than divorce
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gettingthere
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Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 50 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 12-28-07 17:34pm
Maybe both of you need time away from each
other. Go on a vacation, or visit
relatives/friends and spend some time
alone, away from your husband for a few
days.
Try and see if this would help.
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1122 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 12-28-07 17:46pm
Yes I have been seriously thinking about
going to counseling for this. Maybe even
couple counseling. I have done it before
and it really helped. I think its me who
has the problem. I think I may need
medication. I have a pattern and I have
always had this pattern even as a kid. I
cannot what so ever control my anger and I
usually hurt myself, something or someone.
I am not suicidal, but i do have thoughts
of cutting myself or hitting something.
Its like I need an outlet. The problems
started when we let our friend Doug live
with us. My hubby turned into this lazy
obnoxious man just like Doug. They both
didnt work for the 3 entire months Doug
was here. I was paying all of the bills
and going to school. They would stay out
all night and wake me up during the week.
They never cleaned or helped out. Also
Daniel and I were in AA for a long time.
Our entire relationship had been built on
being sober. Then last march i relapsed.
I have been using (drinking) since
then,but I never told anyone. Then Daniel
relapsed in October. So all of these
things have changed and the result is that
we just arent the same people anymore. He
is different than the man I fell in love
with and I am not the same either. So when
he drank I put the entire blame on him.
We nearly broke up because he drank again.
We finally got past that and I finally
told him that I had been using the entire
time. Now we are both drinking
occasionally at parties and stuff. I am
not even sure if the drinking fits into
all this. I just feel mad because now
that he drinks and parties he doesnt do
anything again. He got fired again and
has lied to me repeatingly. He only lies
about small stuff but its still a lie and
it still hurts just as bad. He isnt sober
even one day now. All he does is smoke
pot all day. So we cant seem to find any
balance lately. Even our sex life has
taken a down fall. I just get so mad at
him, like why does he not see the same as
me anymore? Why are things so different.
I try to have heart to hearts but I feel
like I am never heard.
Like his friends coming over during work
nights. or asking him to be sober
sometimes. or asking him to not smoke pot
in the house, or asking him not to lie to
me anymore.
He just doesnt think these things are that
important. I am very sorry if this post
is very long. I cant see a therapist and
I cant call anyone to talk. The only one
that I have to talk to is Daniel and he
just cant help me with these issue because
they are about him.
Thank you to all who actually reads this.
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misssemsem
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Joined: 28 Dec 2007 Posts: 68 Location: ,
Sorry to Hear Posted: 12-28-07 18:17pm
i think counseling will be more better and
try to calm down dont loss ur patient and
try to remember the good moment and good
situation for ur huspend and the good
moment that u sepnd it with him
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Hart74
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Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 532 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
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Posted: 12-29-07 05:26am
Yup I agree with some of the posters
counselling will help and maybe stay away
from each other for a while will help too.
Absent makes the heart grow fonder?