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Are women more superficial that men?

Judging looks, possesions, fashions etc

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replied December 28th, 2007
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Yes and no. Men are more visually drawn to women than women are to men, I think. But I believe women care more about their OWN appearance than men do. Maybe because we know we are being judged more by our appearance. My dh calls this "getting dolled up" (seriously, what decade is he getting THAT from?) and always says he doesn't care how I look, but in the same breath he always comments on my physical appearance (I like your butt, etc etc). I don't think I ever comment on his physical appearance, because I see completely past it at this point.
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replied December 28th, 2007
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I agree with what Sillya said. Women care about their images because MEN care. It's how our sexuality works. Women look good so men will be attracted to them. We're a little backwards in that sense, because in most animals, the male is the one competing for attention.
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replied December 29th, 2007
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yes.
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replied December 29th, 2007
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haha kidding. it's kind of a superficial question, no?
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replied December 29th, 2007
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'Getting dolled up'-I hate that phrase.

To be honest, I don't think it's so much to do with men. It is partly, so that men will be attracted to them and all, but I think the bigger reason is competition from other women and to make an impression. I'll make a special effort when I'm going somewhere nice or meeting someone I want to make a good impression to, so they will remember me, regardless of their gender. And I wear makeup because every other girl does, and I feel like it's some sort of competition between us to look the best, and that's my main reason. Maybe that's just me though.
To answer the question, yes, although men are becoming more superficial now, what with the special 'men' treatments at beauty salons, and the increase in mens cosmetic surgery etc. They still try to make it manly though, by putting in big macho font 'FOR MEN' on the front of the face cream even though it's probs exactly the same stuff inside. Razz
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replied February 8th, 2008
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sillyakchick wrote:
Yes and no. Men are more visually drawn to women than women are to men, I think. But I believe women care more about their OWN appearance than men do. Maybe because we know we are being judged more by our appearance. My dh calls this "getting dolled up" (seriously, what decade is he getting THAT from?) and always says he doesn't care how I look, but in the same breath he always comments on my physical appearance (I like your butt, etc etc). I don't think I ever comment on his physical appearance, because I see completely past it at this point.


Spot On!
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Eiri wrote:
I agree with what Sillya said. Women care about their images because MEN care. It's how our sexuality works. Women look good so men will be attracted to them. We're a little backwards in that sense, because in most animals, the male is the one competing for attention.

yeah, look in the bird world or the world of big cats...its the males of the species that are all hair and feathers...and of you look back in time, it was the men who wore big fluffy shirts and powdered wigs....
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replied February 8th, 2008
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I think they are both equal when it comes to that.

Men are equally as judgmental as women are.. more-so sometimes it seems. They'll not date a girl because she was an extra finger or her toes are uneven, whereas a woman will look beyond that a lot of times and try to see a man for who he is. I've never heard of a guy doing that. At least not personally. Maybe I just know a lot of superficial men? lol

Men always have and always will FEEL superior to women just because of how life started out. "We were made first." or like Homer said, 'Big fluffy shirts' and pompous wigs.

I comment on Robs butt but thats uncontrollable.. that boy has a NICE ass lmao. But i mean we're married, and if he DIDN'T have a nice ass i still would have married him. He married me WITH my flaws, as I married HIM with his.

All though I remember dating this guy Bart when i was 19.. he was a jerk. He hugged me one night and patted my tummy and goes, "think you could start doing some crunches for me? just a few its only a couple pounds." Keep in mind i had just gained the proverbial "Freshman 15" i just pet his face and said, "Think you could start taking a few steps towards the door and get a life for me? K thanks."

UGH.
i DON'T miss that boy.
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Unless they're not christian, in which case neither gender was created first. Maybe you've just been dating a lot of conservative christian men? They certainly feel like they're superior because of how the bible has been misinterpreted for thousands of years.
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Eiri wrote:
Unless they're not christian, in which case neither gender was created first. Maybe you've just been dating a lot of conservative christian men? They certainly feel like they're superior because of how the bible has been misinterpreted for thousands of years.


Eiri, I swear, you should be a psychiatrist. You nail it almost every time. I think your right....AGAIN!!!! Rolling Eyes Laughing Laughing Laughing respect 4you
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Eiri wrote:
Unless they're not christian, in which case neither gender was created first. Maybe you've just been dating a lot of conservative christian men? They certainly feel like they're superior because of how the bible has been misinterpreted for thousands of years.


that guy was a SERIOUSLY devout Christian.. his parents are traveling evangelists that have churches in New York and GUATEMALA. He wanted me to move down there with him and his family and i was like, NO. Hes a common crisp collar guitar playing white boy. Never would have guessed til you hear him open his mouth.
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Haha XD I'm psychic!
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replied February 8th, 2008
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In the bible men and women were created at the same time. You just gotta read the right part. Smile
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Very true. There are like two different versions of Genesis alone and they're both mixed in with each other. It's all very confusing and you can't rely on what someone else has read.
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replied February 8th, 2008
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In some circumstances yes, in others no. In general terms women go for money and men go for looks. The women want men that can buy them things so that they can look good for those men. On the other hand it's uncommon for eighty year old women to get with hot young guys but it's perfectly normal and accepted for older men to trade their aging partners in for "newer models". That's not superficial?

I'm always seeing/hearing men put down overweight women when they themselves have a high amount of lard and really shouldn't be pointing fingers. They have the attitude that it's fine for them to let themselves go but women must always be sexy and in perfect condition...even when giving birth. I see men complain about being present for the birth of their children because it's "unsexy" and they're traumatized about seeing their playground bloody and stretched.

If you look at most tv shows, you'll commonly see unattractive or fat men with thin, attractive wives. A lot of men who are far from physically perfect themselves expect to be able to have any woman they want and put down women who aren't physically perfect. It's an age-old exercise in shallow double-standards and yet a woman's love for fashionable shoes is seen as more superficial than a man's objectification of the female gender.

Personally I'll proudly be superficial about my boots and standards of cleanliness I expect of my husband. It's better to be superficial about inanimate clothing articles and body odor than to be superficial about human beings and the way they're made, especially if you expect more out of your partner in looks and fitness than you're willing to work for to achieve yourself.
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replied February 8th, 2008
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Eiri wrote:
Haha XD I'm psychic!


lol you are Wink
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replied February 9th, 2008
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Put the aspects of womens' superficiality (if that's a word) and mens' superficiality and BANG: You have some of the most terrible gay men I've ever met.

In all seriousness though, it all depends on the situation. Many men think that they're god's gift to the entire female (or male) gender. The ones who treat their twig and giggle berries like they're sacred vegetation etc. etc.

Women can be superficial more about appearance (though they can both intertwine with each other, I suppose).

Anyways, there's no real point to this.. I agree with most people on here.
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replied February 9th, 2008
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twig and giggle berries!!!! LOL Smile stop it, your killing me!!!Smile
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replied June 15th, 2009
As a guy at 34 who has gone from a poor, somewhat morally challenged, completely ripped wrestling/military guy from 18-24, to a very successful professional in my late 20's and 30's with a little extra around the waist, I can say without a doubt that women are more superficial than men are in my experiences, and it was quite a suprise to me. My comparison is done by looking at each in the their respective sexual primes though. Comparing men and women of a younger generation I would agree, but even that seems to be changing. As for 30+ people, I'd say the tables turn, and men are more concerned about a partner in life, and overall enjoyment. Women on the other hand, are looking for that cabana boy... there is a reason the term 'cougar' has become so popular
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