Your mother cannot force you to have an abortion. It is your body, your baby and your decision. Don't let her interfere! Sometimes I really am infuriated with parents who feel they have to control their children's lives......especially those who know that their children are having sex, but then can't seem to register the fact that even if their teen practices safe sex, there is always a possibility of pregnancy.

If you are a senior now, and have just become pregnant, you will deliver the baby after you have graduated, and maybe even 18 by then. Your mother should support you, but if you need help, there are mother and infant programs that you can take advantage of until you are able to get a job and support yourself and your baby...or find a reliable partner. The best thing to do right now is to finish your schooling.

In extreme cases, you could also find a supportive relative or friend that could help you out with your decision and give you a place to stay if your mother isn't understanding.

counting out the months i would be due in september and i turn 18 in july. my boyfriend is very supportive but doesnt know how to handle everything the right way he tries to be there for me but boys dont really get it. His family is very catholic and the first time around he didnt tell them untill after i had the abortion his mom cried and said the baby would have been beautiful so that gives me hope that i will have support this time. i just want to do it right...

That's wonderful that your boyfriend is supportive and his family as well. A baby is a really difficult thing to register, especially if you weren't expecting it, and there are so many things that will have to be done to make things go smoothly before and after the baby so that you are both happy and healthy.

Don't worry, it looks like you are speaking up for yourself this time and doing it right!

Perhaps his family is the answer to your problem, since the baby is their family too.

If you really wanted to do it right, why wouldn't you have finished school and gotten a job so you can afford to give a baby what it needs? Also, why wouldn't you have waited until your boyfriend proposed so your baby could have been born into a married family?

thank you so much

that would be the right way to do it but with the circumstances and having regret about the abortion i want to keep the baby and do the best i can to give the baby a good life we didnt plan to get pregnant again but we both think this could be our second chance to make things right

Well I hope it all works out for you. If your bf's mother gives you any grief, remind her what she said when she cried over the abortion.

Hi, I'm Samantha. I'm 18 years old. and i had a abortion a week after my birthday. and it was the hardest decision i had to make. but i had to do it. due to the fact of some of my habits & knowing if i had the kid there wouldve been a big chance of birth defects. and also because of my habits i was broke. also the father refused to take care of the kid & he stopped talking to me totally. i was depressed and me being depressed wouldnt help the baby either. but now, im with the best man ever. and i am hopefully once again pregnant and never happier. all im trying to say is i know how emotional you probably got after having an abortion. i ended up leaving my moms home and moving in with my current boyfriend. and i know i made a mistake, and it kills me everyday. i wish i never did what i did.

Why was it a mistake? You probably would not have met the man you are with now, and you wouldn't be having this baby.

For me and maybe its like this for you too... not all days are bad its the days your alone and yout thinking about things and that pops into your head and all you can think about are the bad things and you cry, hate yourself and you cant do a single thing to change it thats my all time low. If i could go back i would and think many people say that. I truly think you did the right thing it seems to me that you sat down and thought about where you were at in your life and what kind of life you would be bringing the baby into. Everything happens for a reason. Im glad your happy good luck with your boyfriend and possibly your new baby.

stef, why do you want a baby so badly at such a young age?

i have asked myself this before and this what i think it is...one of many post abortion symptoms is wanting to have another baby to replace the one that was aborted. I think i have that severly... but its not just that its also that i have a boyfriend that loves me and i want to spend the rest of my life with, also my ex who i was infatuated with and i thought i was in love with has a baby with his new girlfriend. also from having to tell my parents before that i was pregnant i know how they are going to act and i can make different decisions on how and when to tell them.

hay i just red your wee story there! and i'm sorry that your mum went mental! i supose she thinks shes looking out for you but really she's scard you by makin you have an abortion.
i'm catholic and being catholic doesnt always mean ye need to be married b4 the kids lol its an old stereotype lol things are all up to date now like divorce lol.
you prob catch my drift.

but to be honest i hope everything goes well.
xxxx

The reason marriage is essential before children is just common sense. It is impossible for one person to work a full time job that makes enough money to pay for everything while simultaneously caring for a newborn. This is why there are 2 parents. 1 to take care of the newborn at home while the other gets the job and pays the bills. Sometimes the two people share those responsibilities and both work and both care for the child.

Women who have children out of wedlock must have someone else to take the place of the "husband" to raise a child. That may be the girl's own parents who pay for everything while she lives at home. Or it may be "society" who pay taxes and some of that tax money goes to welfare, etc., so the girl can take care of her child and live on her own. Society therefor is the "husband".

Since the parents are burdened with an additional child to care for through no choice of their own, using the parents as "husband" is not fair to them. If the girl leaves home to raise her child alone, all of us as a "society" then are burdened with helping her by having money taken out of our paychecks and then given to her. This also is unfair.

The only scenario that is fair is if the two people responsible for making the child in the first place take care of it and pay for everything themselves. That scenario is usually called "marriage".

Not trying to rain on this but you do realise thathaving another baby wont replace the one that was aborted. A new pregnancy wont make the pain you suffered from having an abortion you didn't want just stop. I am sorry if that sounds harsh but I just wanted to point that out.

As for the rest if you do conceive then just make sure you stand your ground this time and don't let your mum push you into anything.

Best of luck

abortion is not wrong
it doesnt make you a horrible person
it makes you responsibe to a certain degree if thats what was best then how is it horrible?
i dont think any less of you because you had one and you shouldnt eitther
your 17 yrs old
im 16 and i have a daughter whos a little more than a month old. and its the hardest thing ive ever had to do. its not easy and its not all fun and games to have a kid.
however if its something you can phsically emotionally and FINANCIALLY handle then this is your decition. just remember first there are lots of factors that come with kids
IF you and your bf broke up could you support the child by yourself without his help?
if the answer is no then it may not be a good idea to evne THINK about haveing a kid right now

your mom cant force you to do ANYTHING
its your body
your vagina
your baby
so its your life and your choice

good luck

You know how you feel about the abortion is how I felt. I could never be alone,that's kind of the reason why I moved out. But now after reading a lot of these posts I think what I did was right and what you did was to. You wouldn't of been able to give a child the life they should have. I support you and I know that symptom you are going through I went through it.haha and oddly enough we are both pregnant again. I feel like I'm not making any sense I'm sorry my head is elsewhere

but i thought you took a test and it was negative?

I agree about abortion not being a bad thing. I was very grateful that I could have one when I had an unwanted pregnancy. Now I have a little girl and I wouldn't change a thing.