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Husband Lying About Money Posted: 12-28-07 06:03am
Hi guys, I need your advise on somethings
I know that I might be married for nearly
10 years next year, but that's what it
call marriage life, ups and down.
Last night I discovered that my husband
have some money in his wallet which was
not supposed to be there, when I asked he
seems reluctant to tell, this morning I
asked again, he said that he was supposed
to pass the money to someone. Recently he
took out some cash he told me it was this
amount, after a few days I recieved a note
from the bank saying it was another
amount. I know he lied but I try not to
confront him with it but it's killing me
inside.
I can stand most of the things that he do
like not wishing me on my birthday but I
can't stand being lied to.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-28-07 06:37am
well first off i think he needs to tell
you what hes spending the money on
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 12-28-07 08:41am
You don't think it is illegal activity, do
you?
Follow him, or get a friend to with a
camera.
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Hart74
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Posted: 12-28-07 09:55am
He insist that the money was given to him
from a friend for him to pass to another,
I don't think it's anything illegal but he
likes to help other and get himself into
trouble instead without telling me - I
only get to know about it afterwards. I
HATE it when the family will be put in a
difficult position like the other time
when he became a gurantor, the debtor ran
he got to face the music. I can't trail
him one because I don't have a licence to
drive second I don't know anyone who is
willing to do it. He said that he don't
need to tell me or give me an explanation
on what he will do as it is his money, I
don't care much about the value of the
money but what is the money for, how did
he get it, from who and why he didn't tell
me rather then I found out about it
myself.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 12-28-07 11:01am
Well, that isn't right for him to call it
HIS money.
If you're married, the money is shared.
That's why everything gets divided 50/50
during a divorce.
You have every right to know what is being
done with the money.
As for where he got it, it sounds really
fishy to me that a friend gave him money
to pass on to another friend. Why is that
necessary?
Why couldn't the friend just give it to
the other friend theirself?
The only reason I can think of is illegal
activity.
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Hart74
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Posted: 12-29-07 05:08am
You're right Marianne0558, try talking to
him and put it in his thick numb skull. He
is a MCP at times. He side his good for
nothing friends most of the time I'm tired
of arguing with him when it concern his
friends.
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Posted: 12-29-07 06:26am
Husbands and wives should never have
secrets from each other. EVER. If you
need to hide something from your spouse,
chances are, you aren't supposed to be
doing it.
He needs to have more respect and care for
you than anyone else in the world, even
his own self.
Why is it that you do not drive? You need
to get a license so that you can take care
of yourself, because this might be only
the beginning of something serious. If
he's hiding the money situation from you,
there could be quite a few things you
don't know about, especially if you're not
getting out much.
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Hart74
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Mominashoe Posted: 12-30-07 06:06am
Thanks you get it why don't he and please
don't tell me that we are women and he is
man. I just don't understand him even
after he get the car he still not content
with what he have! I kept on failing my
theory test but now since I just pass it I
am definately looking forward to take the
final test and start driving he told me
"When you start driving I want you do
drive me to and back from work" How's
that? He take me as a maid/driver. He once
said that one of the room that the
children occupied a pigsty.
