My husband has been a heavy drinker (at
least two (hard) liquor drinks everyday
for the past 3 years, with exceptionally
HUGE binges about twice a month. We have
been separated for 9 months because of his
inability to accept his drinking problem.
He has agreed to stop drinking and has not
had any alcohol since Christmas night,
granted it has been about 48 hours, he
says he has no symptoms of withdrawl,
should he be experiencing some, he thinks
he can just stop and that's it. Anyone
with experience on this? I'm assuming he
should be freaking out by now?
My husband has been a heavy
drinker (at least two (hard) liquor drinks
everyday for the past 3 years, with
exceptionally HUGE binges about twice a
month. We have been separated for 9
months because of his inability to accept
his drinking problem. He has agreed to
stop drinking and has not had any alcohol
since Christmas night, granted it has been
about 48 hours, he says he has no symptoms
of withdrawl, should he be experiencing
some, he thinks he can just stop and
that's it. Anyone with experience on
this? I'm assuming he should be freaking
out by now?
I to undercut what you are saying but 2
hard liquor drinks everyday is not really
a heavy drinkers.. he probably felt some
withdrawls after each one of his binged
drinkings..
I think everyone is different. Some people
have withdrawls some don't.
I use to drink. And when I drink to much I
didn't feel good the next day, and all I
wanted to do was eat. But when I stopped
drinking and got through the first day of
not eating everything in site. I did not
have any withdrawls..
I thik the bad withdrwls come from
drinking 4-5-6 drinks everyday.. But like
I said everyone is different..
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PghMom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2007 Posts: 36 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Hmmm. Posted: 12-28-07 06:44am
It doesn't sound like 2 drinks made of
hard liquor a day are a problem. Binges do
happen and withdrawal is not necessarily a
requirement. My husband and I both saw
that we were abusing alcohol. He would
drink 4 rum and cokes pretty much every
day and he quit, no problems, no
withdrawal. He hasn't had any alcohol to
drink in 3 years. I ,however, went in the
opposite direction and continued to drink
and I would binge pretty much everyday
(easily drinking a huge bottle of wine or
a bottle of vodka) for three years and I
had withdrawal for 3-4 days when I quit
drinking almost 4 months ago. What
exactly is your situation and how big of a
guy is your husband? Has he lost work
because of drinking? Has he been
physically or emotionally abusive to you
because of his drinking? What do you
consider a HUGE binge? Is that having 6
drinks or is he constantly drinking on
those days? Or are you uncomfortable with
the fact that he drinks anything period?
Do you drink alcohol or are you suffering
from an addiction in which case he is not
helping by drinking? Either way, from what
you said, his alcohol intake doesn't sound
high enough to produce severe withdrawal
symptoms like shakes, sweats,
hallucinations or nausea. But everyone is
different.
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gwizkid35
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2007 Posts: 2
Bigger Picture.......... Posted: 12-28-07 09:41am
Okay, I thought about my question and the
facts and here it goes. My husband does
not just drink two drinks of hard liquor a
day, by two drinks I mean I catch him
standing over the sink slamming an 8 ounce
glass of whiskey without mixing or chasing
and I find empty bottle EVERYWHERE and
when he binges he will drink an entire
fifth of hard liquor for 5 or 6 days. Is
he abusive, VERY both physically and
emotionally, that is why we are not living
together. I am TOTALLY embarrassed but I
only knew him for three months before we
married and then once he moved in with me
and my two daughters he was COMPLETELY
different and it has been one NIGHTMARE
after another. I agreed to see him and
help him with his problems and so far this
being day three no symptoms of withdrawl,
that is so strange to me! The situation
gets worse because I am positive he is
bipolar and drinks because he thinks he is
managing his symptoms. Yes, he has been
prescribed medication and after two or
three days refuses to take it. Of course,
I find out his horrible destructive past
over the past year and I guess I'm just
trying to help him........am I fighting an
endless battle?
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doyouthink
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 1
Bigger Picture.......... Posted: 01-03-08 14:30pm
There must be a reason you married this
person, marriage is not something you just
throw away. No one is perfect and everyone
has faults, I would suggest you get help
and work things out.
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kmabethy2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 55 Location: ,
Posted: 01-04-08 16:41pm
i almost have to say yes, you are probably
fighting a losing battle. if he has issues
being abusive, and he is a heavy drinker,
there really isn't anything you can do
about it sadly you can stand by
his side, and cheer him on, but you don't
have to tolerate abuse along the way i've been in a few
abusive relationships because i felt like
i didn't deserve any better. it's really
hard as well to marry someone in a short
amount of time. take it from me, i married
my husband a month i believe after we got
together nothing to ashamed
of though i really hope all
works out for you on this, and i'll check
back to see if you've responded as well
hang in there, and
remember, don't allow abuse or anything
while your husband is going through this
it's not your fault
and he has to sort through his past by
himself with a professional someone who is
trained to deal with peoples problems, it
would weigh you down too much hope this helped
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samanda99
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2007 Posts: 17 Location: New delhi, India
Depends Upon What He Cares For More Posted: 01-08-08 06:26am
It really depends on what he cares for.
Drinking or you.
you can stand by
his side, and cheer him on, but you don't
have to tolerate abuse along the way 
i've been in a few
abusive relationships because i felt like
i didn't deserve any better. it's really
hard as well to marry someone in a short
amount of time. take it from me, i married
my husband a month i believe after we got
together 
