i am 15 years old and a sophomore in
highschool. i've been dealing with bulimia
for almost 2 years now. i. my eating
disorder is a result of being an
overweight child, i still feel like a fat
little girl on the inside and i dont know
how to get rid of those feelings. recently
my boyfriend and i have been fighting a
lot, i told him everything about my eating
disorder (my story is on my profile) and
he told me that he never had expected that
from me. i have no self-esteem whatsoever,
he tells me i'm beautiful, but he's given
up because i dont believe him. i want to
accept his compliments, but i dont love
myself enough to do that. i'm afraid to
gain weight, and i know eating problems
only make you gain in the long run but i
feel like i cant stop, i need advice from
somebody about how to feel beautiful and
how i can help my bf understand the
problem, and how i can try to stop! how do
i stop binging? how do i stop the need to
purge? how do i accept my self? any advice
is greatly appreciated!
( weight and height were removed as
sometimes the statistics can trigger those
in recovery, removed by tinkinpink84)
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Taylore Marie
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Re: I Need Some Advice! Posted: 12-27-07 01:53am
wishing for the world
wrote:
i am 15 years old and a
sophomore in highschool. i've been dealing
with bulimia for almost 2 years now. i am
5'4" and weigh about 112 pounds. my eating
disorder is a result of being an
overweight child, i still feel like a fat
little girl on the inside and i dont know
how to get rid of those feelings. recently
my boyfriend and i have been fighting a
lot, i told him everything about my eating
disorder (my story is on my profile) and
he told me that he never had expected that
from me. i have no self-esteem whatsoever,
he tells me i'm beautiful, but he's given
up because i dont believe him. i want to
accept his compliments, but i dont love
myself enough to do that. i'm afraid to
gain weight, and i know eating problems
only make you gain in the long run but i
feel like i cant stop, i need advice from
somebody about how to feel beautiful and
how i can help my bf understand the
problem, and how i can try to stop! how do
i stop binging? how do i stop the need to
purge? how do i accept my self? any advice
is greatly
appreciated!
Well, it might sound cliche but admitting
the problem is usually the first step in
improving yourself. Now, I don't struggle
with eating disorders, but I do have my
own share of problems. I admire your
courage, and you have to realize that
regardless of what anyone thinks about
you, you are special, beautiful, and
unique. One thing I would suggest is
seeking either help from a counselor or a
close family member. Either way, I think
it might help. A counselor deals with
these and other issues on a daily basis
and can probably provide you with some
meaningful advice ( and no, there is
nothing to be ashamed of I used to
see them myself). Family members, that
are close to you, can often present
nonbiased opinions, and they might be able
to look at the issue from your
persepective and then together, you can
address the problem. One thing I have to
say, though is this: thin, fat, black, or
blue, people are people, and you should
embrace your personal identity. In regard
to me, I weigh about 90 pounds, and I'm a
freshmen in college!! now that sounds like
a real eating disorder, but I was born
premature and have always suffered from a
fast metabolism. Being this weight,
however, usually results in awkard stares
or an open concern from my relatives, but
I know that for my health, I have to eat;
I have to gain weight, so that I can
maintain a healthy lifestyle. You don't
want to put yourself in a position where
you have your boyfriend pick you up and
carry you to the bathroom. You have to
take into consideration your life. Bulimia
has been known to kill people, and anyway,
I think, even though I haven't meet you
that you seem to be a beautiful soul, and
I think you can be pretty without being
skinny. In any case, your boyfriend should
support you because if he doesn't, I don't
know that he can say that he loves you,
and a boyfriend that can't admit that, is
not a good boyfriend at all. I might also
ask your doctor for advice about how to
stop purging. Chances are, he or she will
be able to help you out and can assist you
in developing a nutritional plan to attack
the problem.
Believe in yourself!!
-Isaac
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wishing for the world
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Joined: 27 Dec 2007 Posts: 5 Location: ,
Thank You! Posted: 12-27-07 15:37pm
thank you so much for your advice, i will
take it to heart because i want to be able
to overcome this problem
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iwantmygfback
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Joined: 17 Dec 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 12-27-07 21:04pm
I cannot give you any advice on all about
your eating disorder, but I definitely can
help with your question about your bf. I
posted on this forum about a week ago
because my gf has an eating disorder. She
ended up breaking up with me, not me
breaking up with her. I did all I could
to support and understand her behavior,
but I could not get anywhere. I did my
best to show and tell her she was
beautiful, but I could tell it wasn't
making a difference. I don't have an
eating disorder, and no matter how hard I
tried, I could not understand it. I would
read and research, and talk to my gf about
it but it all seemed pointless. She
understood everything in her mind, and
there was nothing I could do to
understand, or help. What i am trying to
say is don't waste your time trying to get
your bf to see your eating disorder the
way you do. Talk to him about what he can
do best to support you and help you
without making it worse. I know what
worked for us was me not ever bringing it
up, but making it clear that I am there if
she needs me. I promise you that no
matter what you say to him..he will never
be on the same page as you. He will have
his own ideas and opinions on the eating
disorder, just as you do.
I hope that helps and I hope that others
can give you some advice on getting better
: )
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Taylore Marie
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Posted: 12-27-07 21:47pm
Well wishing for the world, it means a lot
that you said that!! I hope things go well
for you, and just keep believing in
yourself. It might take awhile to overcome
your eating disorder, but I believe in
you, and you should too!!
To hope, strength, and courage,
-Isaac
<3
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wishing for the world
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Joined: 27 Dec 2007 Posts: 5 Location: ,
Thanks Again.. Posted: 12-27-07 23:22pm
thank you guys for everything! it really
does mean a lot ! <3
I used to
see them myself). Family members, that
are close to you, can often present
nonbiased opinions, and they might be able
to look at the issue from your
persepective and then together, you can
address the problem. One thing I have to
say, though is this: thin, fat, black, or
blue, people are people, and you should
embrace your personal identity. In regard
to me, I weigh about 90 pounds, and I'm a
freshmen in college!! now that sounds like
a real eating disorder, but I was born
premature and have always suffered from a
fast metabolism. Being this weight,
however, usually results in awkard stares
or an open concern from my relatives, but
I know that for my health, I have to eat;
I have to gain weight, so that I can
maintain a healthy lifestyle. You don't
want to put yourself in a position where
you have your boyfriend pick you up and
carry you to the bathroom. You have to
take into consideration your life. Bulimia
has been known to kill people, and anyway,
I think, even though I haven't meet you
that you seem to be a beautiful soul, and
I think you can be pretty without being
skinny. In any case, your boyfriend should
support you because if he doesn't, I don't
know that he can say that he loves you,
and a boyfriend that can't admit that, is
not a good boyfriend at all. I might also
ask your doctor for advice about how to
stop purging. Chances are, he or she will
be able to help you out and can assist you
in developing a nutritional plan to attack
the problem.
