So I'm not really on here wondering if my girlfriend is pregnant, I just want to know if anyone on here has ever known someone that has gone through this scenario:
My girlfriend called me a couple weeks ago because she hadn't had her period for five days, and we had had sex. Now, I know the condom didn't break, so I assured her that everything was fine. But of course, I became all anxious for the rest of the day, even though I knew everything should be fine. On the sixth day, my girlfriend calls me, telling me that she got her period, and that it was normal, and everything was cool. I was sort of thrilled for a while, but after about a day I began to think of all the different scenarios that would actually make it possible for her to be pregnant (for example, I understand that some women can actually have periods while being pregnant, which still does not biologically make sense to me o.O!). I talked to my girlfriend and she assured me that she feels fine, and everything is normal. But I still can't shake the feeling that something is wrong. It's probably just me over-worrying about nothing (I tend to hope for the best but expect the worst), but it keeps wracking my brain. I've heard of couples going through this when they want to become pregnant, but I definitely DON'T want a pregnancy, so it doesn't make sense. Does anyone know what I should do about this? I mean, I've thought about asking my girlfriend to take a pregnancy test just to ease my anxiety, but I think that would be insulting to my girlfriend, making her think that I wouldn't trust her opinion or knowledge of her own body. Is this at all normal?
I am 18, she is 18. And I assume she is not on birth control because her parents are insane, and would throw her out of their house if they found it (strict roman catholic, her mom gets pissed if she sees me kiss her daughter). Another reason could be because she might not know how to get it. Her parents try and shelter her as much as possible from the real world. Although, I think after this, birth control's a must-have.
she can go to planned parenthood by herself or you could take her
anyone can take her
they will give her FREE bc and WONT tell her parenst
you dont have to be a specific age
just walk in and talk to someone there
they will help you.
I know what it is like to be in a strict roman catholic environment. I am sure that if she is having sex under these conditions, she is not likely to have normal cycles, and getting on birth control, although an obvious answer to you, may just put her on even more of a tight end because it adds another secret that she will have to hide from her parents and register as being "ok" in her own conscience, which would not be an easy thing to do.
If she is 18, it won't be too long before she is not living in her parents home. Remember that you can have just as good a relationship with a person without having sex and that there are other ways to have a good time and see if you are compatible. If you aren't willing to try that, maybe you aren't there for the right reasons. But do try waiting til later for sex.....even just for the sake of being more at ease (especially on her account) and not having to worry.....because we all know that even if you do use BC, it's still possible to become pregnant, and this situation tells me that even if she was on BC, you would still obsess over everything if something was a little off.
I am 18, she is 18. And I assume she is not on birth control
You assume? This really is the kind of thing you should know if you're sleeping with someone!
She can get birth control without her parents knowledge and, considering your post, I would strongly suggest it as condoms aren't 100% even if they don't break!
Ok, I think some people are making assumptions about my relationship tat are totally wrong:
1. I don't have anything against roman catholics. I was citing the fact that a strict religious household usually has problems with pre-marital sex.
2. I am positive that she is fine with sex, because we've talked a lot about it (in fact, after she had her period and we were both relieved, we had a long talk, and she wanted to make sure that I was alright with still having sex, because she didn't know what my feelings were after that scare).
3. Sex is not the only thing we do when we're together. In fact, it's pretty far from it. If I only was interested in sex, there is no way my relationship would have lasted this long.
4. We didn't start screwing right when we met each other. I know some adults find this hard to believe, but not all teenagers are as promiscuous as MTV would have you believe.
I've thought a lot about it, and I think I am over-obsessing about this due to a lot of other crap that's been happening in my life, mostly friend, family, and final exam related. There's also the fact that I basically didn't know anything about the menstrual cycle, other than the fact that a woman has one. However, I researched and learned a lot from this whole thing. This is sort of a follow up, in case any other scared guy with a situation similar to mine finds this forum.