ok, if he's been with someone, he's a candidate for having an STD.
being handsome has nothing to do with it; super models get STD's too!
anyone can get them!
and you cant just go giving your virginity to anyone, there's gotta be something there. You'll feel terrible later if you just hand it to him.
If you were in a relationship and in love, it wouldn't be as wrong,
only he'd still be in a position to be accused of statuatory rape.
You're a minor and he's an adult.
It was wrong of him to even ask if he could take your virginity.

he is considered an adult if you become sexually active with him, he could get some time and be branded as a sex offender for the rest of his life.... Plus once you let it go you never get it back, its a gift use it wisely.... "hold on to your innocent, use ur common sense... your worth waiting for" blessings come with patience

u shouldnt sleep with him....yeah sounds great to me. When you give someone your virginity you cant take it bak no matter how much u want to. And he will play u like a toy and throw you away. So naw dont do it.

HOLY... is this post for real? NO, don't have sex, not with him, not with ANYONE!!! You're TOO YOUNG. If you don't even have your period yet then you're not even biologically READY for sex. You're still a child. Children should not have sex; that's called pedophelia. This man is sick in the head. You need to report him to the police for even suggesting sex with you!! Tell your parents, tell a school counselor, tell anyone!! I fear for your safety.

He pretty much wants to take ur virginity for the novelty of it (sick!), and I'm pretty sure he doesn't love u. Is he even your boyfriend? If he's 18, then he should know better, and I definitely think he is taking advantage of you. DON'T DO IT!!

Please dont give this man something as special as your viginity. He just sees this as a opportunity to have a young girl that hasnt been touched. A lot of older men, well all men who want to have sex with kids, just see this as a game.

You deserve to be with someone who will appreciate you and your body. Please make it special. he sounds like he is just trying to pressure you into it. Please dont fall for the pressure to have sex. I gave up my virginity when I was 13 and I gave it to my 1st puppy love. He was 18. I never saw or heard from him again. he used and abused me then threw me away.

I can never get that back, ever........

WOW... Question, where are your parents???? Listen 14 year old girls should be focusing on school. I know you feel grown but in reality you are not. Ask yourself is he worth for you to get pregnant, or get sick??? Is he going to support you if any of those things happen??? Now if you ask him those questions he'll say yes, but he doesn't mean it. Men will do anything to get in your pants... face it he is 18 you are 14 do the math... I'm 24 years old on my third child, do you really want to sacrifice your youth to raise a baby... what about your future. Trust me sex can wait... and you are worth the wait. REPORT THAT S.O.B

also, having sex that young can put you at a higher risk of getting cervical cancer. you don't want that, either.

Sex should be the last thing on a 14 year old mind, dont be like every lil mistake the walks the halls of your high school, dont let some guy talk you in to a few minutes of him getting an easy lay, be smart, and the RIGHT guy will come along, VERY later VERY. i hope youve learnedsomething from the magnitude of the other replies fom this.

I diffidently think you should not do that, please. To speak on what was said earlier about the stds. Look don't take a chance, it is nothing to play with, I KNOW. You would never want that in your life as much as you may seem "cool" or "fit in", don't do it. And don't just give it up to no one until you know them and you know they will treat you right. It may sound cool, or you may just want to fit in, but from experience it is not all you think it is to be. Be careful. I know you don't know me or what i go through in life but i messed up, or rather should I say I made a mistake, but i suffer everyday from an std, and its not just cool. It has messed up my life. Please don't do it. I know you have to be beautiful and think about that. All i'm saying is to me it would be a better choice not to do it. Please be careful and take care. If you have more questions about me please feel free to ask.

Yea definately do not have sex with this man. He is 18 one year younger then me but god ur 14! When i was 14 i was doing good in my biology class studying for regents, and SAT(im chinese so my parents had me on a leash). Also ur virginty is only there once. You lose you there goes innocense. I didnt lose my virginity till i met my gf 2 month ago, im 19. And plus that guy cant be too smart to ask u to have sex with him when he knows he can be liable for rape.

Plus another very important thing that i learned from losing my virginity to a loving gf is that sex happens when 2 people care about each other, it isnt like porn when those girls and guys moan and groan like banshies, but it has passion in it. It shouldnt require the other person to have to ask you to have sex. If this guy really likes you then he wouldnt need to ask, and you wouldnt need to be posting in this forum if u loved him back.

Iie. As much as I like giving teens more reasons to abstain, that sounds like false information. If you can find some reputable sources proving this, I'll consider it.

i actually read it one of those pamphlets at the dr's office. i found some info online though to back me up a little bit.

http://www.cancerhelp.org.uk/help/default. asp?page=2755#sex

"You will quite often hear that women who have a lot of different sex partners or women who started having sex young are more likely to get cervical cancer. But really, this is only true because the more men you have sex with and the earlier you start having sex, the more likely you are to pick up an infection with a high risk (cancer causing) human papilloma virus (HPV). And so then you are more at risk of developing cervical cancer.

It is not correct to say that women who get cervical cancer have it because they were promiscuous (slept around). After all, you could have only slept with one man and still caught the virus if he had it. If he's had lots of partners, that will increase your risk because it indirectly exposes you to possible sexual infections from lots of other people."

http://www.netwellness.org/healthtopics/gy necology/cervicalcaprevent.cfm

http://www.cwhn.ca/resources/faq/hpv.html

http://www.pdrhealth.com/disease/disease-m ono.aspx?contentFileName=BHG01ON05.xml& ;contentName=Cervical Cancer&contentId =21

"Women who started having sex at a young age (before age 1 or who have had multiple sexual partners are at increased risk for contracting HPV, a risk factor for cervical cancer."

okay, no she probably wont get cervical cancer just from sex, but if her partner has a disease. he told her that he has already had sex, and i doubt that he would be her last partner. this is just some info, if you want more, let me know.

I'm still wondering why exactly women who have sex under age 18 are more at risk for contracting HPV. The second link isn't working.

Because they're less likely to use protection? I'm not sure. Or maybe because if you start young you will probably have more sex by age 30 than most?

I'm just guessing. There's no way that younger girls are simply more at risk unless it has to do with other factors, like protection.

from the sites that i was looking at it said because people who start having sex young are more likely to have more partners and that increases the number of times the chance to get an std, also the number of times s/he may have unprotected sex. the original info i got from that pamphlet was from 2 years ago (when i started going in for pap smears) and may have had different info from it. the main thing that stuck out in my brain was that having sex before 18 increases your chances of getting cervical cancer. it also had a section of having sex before 15 could cause other problems. i still do not believe my previous post was a lie. a little less informed, but not a lie. even those links i put said that one would be more likely to get cervical cancer if she had sex before 18. granted, i'm not telling everyone to wait until they are 18, but that the sooner they have sex may increase their chances of getting an std or something worse. i was just putting out what info i knew. sorry if i upset anyone, i was just trying to help.

It is illegal for him to have sex with you. That is statutory rape. This man is a sicko stay away from him he is not safe to be around, I have never known an 18 year old that wants to have sex with a 14 year old, let alone one that has not even started her period. THIS IS NOT NORMAL!!! You need to tell some one you feel comfortable with, parent, teacher, older sibling, friend's parent or older sibling...etc.

just as everybody else have said, please dont do it. he only wants it just for the sake of saying he took your virginity. basically another "notch" on his belt.

i hope she read all of these posts. I hope this girl didnt make the biggest mistake in her life.