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Q: I Dont Leave Any Man Alone With My Daughter...

asked by: gabby734 on December 25th, 2007

Experienced User

My fiance and I have been together for a little while now, I have a two year old daughter named Harmony from a previous relationship, he has no children. Harmony"s biological father is a total deadbeat!! He isnt in her life, he doesnt pay child support, he doesnt care. Jim(my fiance) makes sure she has everything she needs, spends time with her, makes her feel loved... well she has begun to call him daddy, she loves him as much as i do... but i have been taught by my parents to watch men around little girls and never to put men before your children... I dont think Jim would ever do anything to hurt my daughter, he is a wonderful man, He has just turned 40yrs old, and I am 20, he has been a firefighter for 10 years, and he is my soulmate... but because of how ive been raised i'm scared to leave ANY guy alone with my little harmony for the fear of something happening to her that could have been prevented... I mean I was appalled a couple weeks ago when I saw a story on the news about a guy who raped his 9 day old daughter, and she died from internal bleeding... I am so sure that Jim would never ever hurt her, but I am still fearful, am i wrong for feeling this way?

Replies(6)

Roberta777

replied on December 25th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Your Child Harmony

Is loved by you and it sounds like your man is a good guy. Just look at his work history. A firefighter sounds like a hero to me. I believe he will be a hero to you and Harmony.

We live in a world where there are so many dangers and scary things. It would be a better world if we could just trust more. Trust your man. I bet he is a good one. A keeper.

gingerelizabeth

replied on January 15th, 2008

Experienced User

if your going to marry him you need to trust him with your daughter
if you cant trust him alone with her the marriage would never work.

so follow your heart and if you dont think he'll do it he wont.

there are few people out there who would do such sick things.
it is nice to know there are parents like you out there though.

michelle1981

replied on January 15th, 2008

Supporter

I'm not in your situation, because i am with my kids' father, but if i were i would probably be just as cautious as you are. I don't blame you one bit!
It may be over-protective, but i'd rather be than find out a few years down the road that because of my actions(or lack of), my child has been molested.

If he loves you, he will understand.

I applaud you, Gabby!

MissElizabeth

replied on January 16th, 2008

New User

i feel the same way. i am with my kids' father but, even with his uncles and cousins i do not trust ANYONE around my kids except me and their father. its a terrible world now with terrible people in it, even people who have been married 10 - 20 years, have kids, and find out, the dad has been molesting his sons and daughters all along. Its sad, but the girl above has a point, its better to be over protective, than to be regretful in the end.

lilla

replied on February 2nd, 2008

New User

if you have a bad feeling then ya never leave your daughter alone w/any man.because a molestor comes in all shapes and sizes.

spyrogirlkim

replied on March 29th, 2008

New User

I have 3 daughters and I never left them alone with there Dad either.My oldest's Father Sperm doner whatever I still don't trust and she is 17.He was never there for her.I met my current hubby when my oldest was 8 months old.We have 2 daughters together and I explained when we got together why I wont leave the kids alone with him.He understood.Besides protecting the kids you are protecting you hubby(if some nosey body tries to cause nasty trouble with bad rumors) this happened to us.We worked through it and I told Judge there was no way cause I wont leave the girls alone with a Man.I had bad experance is my reasons.I never want my girls to go through what I went through as a child.You are a great Mom for being like this.If your Man loves you he will understand.Especially when he relizes you trust him but not everyone else.A rummor or trouble like that can ruin a good family that never deserved it to begin with.Its just dirty minds and jellous PPL.

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