My Girlfriends Past Is Bothering Me (Page 1)

her past shouldnt bother you
shes with YOU now not any of them
if shes commited to YOU then stop the worrying
and you dont have to have sex until your ready to
this is up to you not her to decide
if youre not read then dont do it

Your right why should i care? if she isnt doing that anymore it shouldnt be of a concern and it is totally up to me im just unsure of how doing it that one time can just make everything fall apart i think im putting too much thought into it

lol yeah

she loves you if shes commited and you love her and she loves you then the past doesnt matter

yeah if you think doing it with her just once is going to tear you apart then you're most likely not ready for sex with her yet. you shouldnt do something that doesnt feel right to you despite what anyone else may say to you. when that feeling goes away, you'll be ready :]

yeah thats basically the situation i just feel immature and unexpereienced and it isnt that big of a deal to her as it is to me and i just want it to be special and meaningfull

i think i can see why u r scared of doing it no doubt you care alot about her but the fact can be u r just not ready for sex it doesnt mean u care about her any less its just u're not ready and maybe u could also be scared about the STD's there is a chance she could have got some and just cause she did that stuff in the past doesnt mean she'll do it now, i'll done things in the past i have totally regret but maybe now she is trying to better herself and learn from her mistakes. just cause she did it with whoever doesnt mean she still will she has the choice to stop and like her u have the choice to wait and u can never be too careful with those STD's remember u can get them even if u dont have sexual intercourse. i am sure ur gf is awsome have u tried and tell her how u r feeling ?

i think i can see why u r scared of doing it no doubt you care alot about her but the fact can be u r just not ready for sex it doesnt mean u care about her any less its just u're not ready and maybe u could also be scared about the STD's there is a chance she could have got some and just cause she did that stuff in the past doesnt mean she'll do it now, i'll done things in the past i have totally regret but maybe now she is trying to better herself and learn from her mistakes. just cause she did it with whoever doesnt mean she still will she has the choice to stop and like her u have the choice to wait and u can never be too careful with those STD's remember u can get them even if u dont have sexual intercourse. i am sure ur gf is awsome have u tried and tell her how u r feeling ?

To be honest, I think you are extremely disrespectful to get on here and refer to her as "slutty" for being with SIX MEN. Hopefully, she'll read this and get a clue about you.

Give him a break, he wants a good opinion on what's happening, not an opinion on a watered down version.
Sex should be a completely mutual agreement, not a way to test the relationship. another way of looking at this is that 80 year olds with no sex drive still want to be with each other even though they don't have sex. In my opinion it just shows how much you love her and its not just a sexual attraction relationship that will fail with time. If she is dressing up "slutty" as you called it, just remember that she's doing it to please you. Just tell her you want to leave it for a bit.

Eh, I'd dump any guy who wrote this about me.

-shrugs- Hey so eer why are we twitchy? One can't be "slutty" because she has been with only 6 men? I thought to be such extends past then the number one actually has sex with, but the manner in which it was done, how often per partner, duration between a new partner, etc. We don't know the exact case of why the Original Poster coins the term slutty, so there isn't a need to take things to heart and get so offensive? Besides, to a virgin, 6 partners might seem tremendous to somebody who is completely inexperienced.

To the Original Poster, could you spend more time on your writing, I couldn't understand some of the things you want me to answer because they were all in one huge sentence. I think you are asking us why despite your feelings you do not wish to have sex with her? Well, I'm not sure if it is about being ready, but you could be intimidated by this fact that she is vastly more experienced then you are. Especially knowing her past, perhaps you feel like you can't compete? Good luck with your decision man. Keep us posted

I think you should wait until you are ready for sex also. When you are truly ready it will all fall into place. You will still be nervous I am sure but it will feel sooo right to you that there will be no second thoughts. You are having second thoughts now because you arent truly ready. I know how this must feel. I too was very inexperienced and I met a very experienced man. I felt very insecure. I was not ready, but I has sex with him anyway because I figured thats what he expected. His previous partners were open and willing. DOnt let this happen to you.

She sounds like she really cares for you and that you really care for her. JUst take it slow, there is no rush. If you have sex and your not ready it WILL change things. 6 men is not a lot and like Mikolas stating it all depends on the circumstances.

Are we trying to help or criticize him here?

That's why I'm saying not to take what he said to heart, he came here for help, not to be picked on for a few ill chosen words.

I already said what I thought. I don't think he needs advice, I think his girlfriend does.

lol ooh ok is this a private arguee or can i give the wee boy a bit of help?? lol

to be honest i dnt think you should worry if your both in love.
but yet ive slept with 7 blokes. i'd hate to think that the next one would be worryd about what ive done in the past. it would make me feel a bit shamefull. dnt worry her experience is not going to outdoo yours. its all about how much you like them to enjoy it. trust me i know randoms might be good at the sex part but could rate low in the fact that u dnt know him well lol

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I think you could be ready to have sex and the only reason your not is because her past scares you. you love her and you havent has sex yet because..You don't just want to be another one on her list? and the thought of her having random sex makes you feel dqweezy in the stomach. I know when i first got with my partner, everytime i thought about his sex life before me it makes me feel sick.

If you LOVE her then thats a serious relationship your in and they take alot of maturity. So be mature about it, she's with you not them, she wants you.

your girl's past shouldn't bother you, since you accepted her in the first place. because you love her, it means that you no longer care about her past. the same point that you should do it to her when you are really ready to do it, not just because you are pressured by her experiences. at above all, when you decide, make sure that in the end, you will have no regrets.

love your girl for who she is, not with who she was before.

make her feel that you are different with those other guys that she has been with. if both love and respect is there... believe me, it's worth it!