Schizophrenia Forum - Is the Future Bleak Or Bright?
Medical questions     Health forums     MarketPlace     log in    

Is the Future Bleak Or Bright?

New Topic  Reply  Ask A Doctor - Offline
Medical Questions-> Health Forums -> Schizophrenia -> Is the Future Bleak Or Bright?
Medical Questions
Author Message
stacia

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2007
Posts: 5
Is the Future Bleak Or Bright?
Posted: 12-23-07 22:24pm

Hi everyone; I'm way new to this whole Schizophrenia thing, I'm hoping at least one person can read what I expect to be pretty much a novel and perhaps try to help out because this is a pretty hard time.

For around a year and a half, I was in a very serious relationship with a boy; despite the length of our time together, we had even been talking about marriage. He had mentioned previously that he had had Schizophrenia when he was younger (diagnosed some time between twelve and fifteen, I'd say; never got the exact date), but because he shrugged it off and I didn't understand much about it, I shrugged as well.

Progressively, our relationship started to completely deteriorate to the point where I knew something was wrong, but couldn't quite put my finger on it. We'd get in fights where I'd be so frustrated with his arguments (that absolutely made no sense at all, mind you) that he'd claim that I was Bi-Polar and that I needed to see a doctor.

Fast-forward to a bit over a month ago, where we completely fell apart. It ended in a short phone conversation in which I said I wanted to go on a break and he completely shrugged me off about the whole thing. I resolved to never talk to him again, even, didn't even call him to tell him the break was permanent because I knew he'd twist it around. During the month while we were apart, I heard a lot of things he was saying about me, and for the sake of anyone reading, I'm not going to repeat the words he called me. Suffice it to say that they were pretty cruel.

Since then, we became reunited after a drunken phone call he made to me, telling me that he's never been this much of a mess in his life. Three days later, he contacted me to tell me that he realized that he still had the problem that he thought he had "overcome." Hebephrenic Schizophrenia. It's funny that the moment he told me that and I googled it, I might as well have seen his name in 18,200 sources.

We've slowly become more close through this past week; I'm helping him stay on track and he's seeing a therapist twice a week as well as taking Haloperidol. He continues to tell me that I'm the only one for him because I was the one that refused to let him screw everything up. When I left him, he realized that the problem was him, not everyone else.

Part of me really understands that he couldn't help all of the thing he did, and although I'll never forget the things he did, I almost forgive him. I hate to say this, but I love him still. He tells me that it's a lifetime of difficulties and an unfixable, yet manageable disease, and I want to be there for him. He has no problem with this; he's been begging me for over a week now but I told him that I need time. A lot of time; to think about the situation. At least six months, I said (I'm not sure if that's long or not, it just seemed reasonable). Most of my friends don't agree with my thoughts of getting back together with him, but I can't help but think that this can be managed. He's such a wonderful and great guy when he's not under the influence of that disease.

He's got what seems like unending willpower to battle this; is there any hope for us?
|
Philo

Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2007
Posts: 331
Location: Montreal
Thanks: 4
Thanked:0

Posted: 12-24-07 19:33pm

No one here will predict the future for you. If you are currently happy, stick with him and see what happens. It's not like you're getting married tommorow, right?
|
irChris777

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Dec 2007
Posts: 23

Posted: 12-25-07 13:12pm

dont mess with him anymore trust me youll regret it if you have a kid with this dude or something and have to deal with him the rest of your life. dont have false guilt about not wanting to be with someone that says things like that about you then gets drunk and loves you all the sudden. and the "love" you feel for him youll feel for the next hot guy that walks through the door tomorrow- its a fleeting selfish infatuation.
|
stacia

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2007
Posts: 5

Posted: 01-22-08 00:07am

irChris777 wrote:
dont mess with him anymore trust me youll regret it if you have a kid with this dude or something and have to deal with him the rest of your life. dont have false guilt about not wanting to be with someone that says things like that about you then gets drunk and loves you all the sudden. and the "love" you feel for him youll feel for the next hot guy that walks through the door tomorrow- its a fleeting selfish infatuation.


I think it's kind of obnoxious that you actually just said that, it's a shame I didn't see it until now. In the entire time I've known this kid he only drank during the month that we were separated. It's kind of odd that you're telling me to not mess with him anymore because you state in other posts that you've suffered from Schizophrenia. Why don't you have compassion for people that are like you? There's no false guilt here. I could walk away any second if I didn't love this guy and didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him regardless of his mental disposition. Leaving to find "the next hot guy that walks through the door tomorrow"--now THAT'S selfish.
|
Related Topics
This Forum This Category All Forums
Jump to:  
New Topic   Reply
Medical Questions -> Health Forums -> Schizophrenia -> Is the Future Bleak Or Bright?



We comply with the HONcode standard for trustworthy health
information:
verify here.