What would you do if you had a very
controlling mother. Earlier this year when
the 2007-08 school yeat started I started
at a new high school even though i was a
sophomore. I had a crush on a kid in my
P.E. class that happened to play football.
At the homecoming game my mom was talking
to a couple of her friends behind where i
was sitting and i guess when she got done
talking to them she seen my crushs
parents. She went over to them introduced
herself and told them that i had a crush
on their son. Well come to find out the
stepmom and my mom exchanged fone mubers
and for about two weeks were talking on
how to hook us up. My mom finally told me
and then my crush found out. He was a
little mad but, one night after a football
game he called me!! He knew that i liked
him and told me that he didn't like me
like that so i was okay with that. Newayz
so i tld my mom that he called cuz her an
i have a very open relationship. Anywayz
ever since then everynight she would come
in my room and tell me to call him and
when i wouldn't call him, she would get
all pissed off at me and say how i am a
tease and all this caca. I love my mom,
but she tries to control my life so much,
and it would be that it is because i am
adopted. All her friends told her that she
needs to cut the cord but she refuses to
do it. I have a friend that lives two
doors the street from me and when i go
down there i have to have my fone wiht me
and i have to be home at a specific time.
Im 15 soon to be 16 years old and she
treats me like a 6 years old. I hate this.
I don't want to end up not talking to her
when i get older because she is too
overprtective of me. WHat should i do?!!?1
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-23-07 20:07pm
It seems really strange that she would be
so eager to hook you up with a guy at your
age, and then treating you as if you were
6.
I guess it is good that she cares, but of
course all these mixed signals are really
confusing you. Maybe she doesn't realize
what she is doing. She loves you like her
own baby still, but she's eager for you to
grow up and have a relationship as well.
It could be that she is going through your
teen-age years herself: they are often
difficult and it's hard to know where to
fit in. With these changing times, it
makes things even harder when parents try
to guide their kids through life.
I know I would be embarrassed if my own
mother had started calling up the parents
of guys that I had crushes on. A crush is
a passing thing and doesn't last. It
really violates your privacy to have a
parent gossip about your feelings,
especially when the feeling isn't mutual
with the crush. I'm glad the guy was cool
about it. What could you do? Sometimes
it feels so embarrassing when your parents
mess things up when it isn't even your
fault.
Forcing a relationship on someone is one
of the things that I have particularly
hated, especially when it is done by
parents. Only you will know who is going
to be the right one for you, not them.
They can suggest, but they need to stay
away. If she values your happiness and
loves you, she will understand this.
She could also be doing this to you
because she herself is lonely and wishes
she could get out more herself.
You could talk to your mother about how,
now that you are older, she might want to
consider letting you have a little more
freedom with your curfew and that you are
responsible enough to handle being away
for a couple hours without having to be
checked up on constantly. It's all a
matter of trust that you will have to
build up with her and you will have to
prove yourself.
