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Is Virginity Important Till Marriage?
Posted: 12-22-07 06:33am
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Is virginity still important till marriage
in this society?
Guys,do you mind if your wife is not a
virgin?
Will guys not want a non-virgin as their
girlfriend?
Girls,will you still protect your
virginity till marriage for your future
husband?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-22-07 16:30pm
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Um.. I thought I was going to, but then I
got a boyfriend 
I suppose it depends on the person. I have
a friend in college who hasn't even kissed
his girlfriend and they both planned for
their first kiss(neither of them have ever
kissed anyone) to be at their wedding. And
they are both seniors at college by the
way.
To me its obviously not something I worry
about, but for my friend it was an
extremely big deal.
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Posted: 12-22-07 18:14pm
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It's really important to my three college
roomies to wait until marriage for sex.
But they are really religious. My one
roomie is waiting until her wedding day
for her first kiss too....whatever floats
their boat. It used to be important to be
a virgin on my wedding day..but not for
religious reasons. But now I don't really
care. I had also hoped my first time would
be with someone else in which I was their
first time...but my boyfriend is not a
virgin...so I had to get over that idea
real quick.
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Posted: 12-22-07 18:17pm
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I look at this way anyone can give it up..
it take will power and something special
not to.. 
I has sex before marriage, But I think it
would have been something speical not to..
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Posted: 12-22-07 18:39pm
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I'm not religious at all, but I kind of
wanted to wait. I just wanted to wait for
the right guy, the one I really loved. If
that meant waiting till marriage, then so
be it. I found my man though, we love
eachother sooo much. And he knows that I
wouldn't have given him my virginity if I
didn't love him, so he says that made our
first time that much more special. He's
always saying how he plans on marrying me
in the future...so if we do, technically I
won't be lying when I say my first time
was with my husband 
He'll be the only man I've been with as
well
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Posted: 12-22-07 21:12pm
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My wife wasn't a virgin and neither was I,
so I guess neither of us minded. It's an
individual decision and obviously more
important to some than to others.
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Posted: 12-22-07 23:35pm
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yeah i wanted to keep my first time for my
husband too.
i rejected him a few times too...
but things got too "hot" and passion and i
lost it to my boyfriend. n we only dated
for a month plus,coming two.
kinda regret it,but there's no turning
back.
HELP! i am feeling so "dirty" and guilty.
and i am quite sure that we wont be
getting married!
i am so lost!
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Re: Is Virginity Important Till Marriage?
Posted: 12-23-07 11:05am
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| oink
wrote: | Is virginity still important
till marriage in this society?
Guys,do you mind if your wife is not a
virgin?
Will guys not want a non-virgin as their
girlfriend?
Girls,will you still protect your
virginity till marriage for your future
husband? |
No, virginity really isn't important in
American society. 80% or more people will
have sex before marriage.
I did not protect my virginity for
marriage, I protected it for love. I don't
care if my husband is a virgin or not;
it's basically impossible to find a virgin
male over the age of 20.
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Posted: 12-23-07 11:09am
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| oink
wrote: | yeah i wanted to keep my
first time for my husband too.
i rejected him a few times too...
but things got too "hot" and passion and i
lost it to my boyfriend. n we only dated
for a month plus,coming two.
kinda regret it,but there's no turning
back.
HELP! i am feeling so "dirty" and guilty.
and i am quite sure that we wont be
getting married!
i am so lost! |
My only advice is let go. Are you in love?
Then so what? You had sex; it's no huge
deal. Even if you're not in love, it was a
learning experience. The emotions you give
your husband will be all your own, and you
will still give him your body. You are not
"soiled" or "ruined" or dirty. Sex is a
natural human behavior.
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Posted: 12-23-07 14:14pm
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perhaps this should be in a debate forum.
it is not important to me
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Posted: 12-23-07 14:33pm
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The debate forum seems like a good place.
Mod, what do you think?
For me, I was really glad I wasn't a
virgin before I got married. I like to
try my shoes on before I buy them to make
sure they will fit right and be
comfortable, as I really want to wear
these shoes until the day i die. There's
no sense in wearing shoes that don't fit
right or don't look right on you for the
rest of your life just because you didn't
try them on first.
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Posted: 12-23-07 18:41pm
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| sillyakchick
wrote: | The debate forum seems like
a good place. Mod, what do you think?
For me, I was really glad I wasn't a
virgin before I got married. I like to
try my shoes on before I buy them to make
sure they will fit right and be
comfortable, as I really want to wear
these shoes until the day i die. There's
no sense in wearing shoes that don't fit
right or don't look right on you for the
rest of your life just because you didn't
try them on
first. |
nice 
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Posted: 12-23-07 21:50pm
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Maji was your guy a virgin before you?
If not how did that make you feel that he
wasn't one but you were?
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Posted: 12-24-07 00:41am
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wrote: | Maji was your guy a virgin
before you?
If not how did that make you feel that he
wasn't one but you
were? |
I'm pretty sure he wasn't a virgin before
me.
And I didn't mind too much.
I didn't really know what to do our first
time, as I had no sexual experience
whatsoever.
So if he was also inexperienced, we woulda
probably layed there awkwardly for a while
before anything really happened
It was a very special, bonding experience
for the both of us.
I couldn't believe how comfortable I was
being naked with him, I've never been
before, even as a little girl.
And I loved the way he said he loved me
and that I was beautiful, and how he asked
me to trust him and promised everything
would be ok.
So whether he was in the "v-club" or not
didn't give or take to the specialness of
it all.
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Posted: 12-24-07 00:48am
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I am the same way as you Maji. If he had
not had some idea it would have been very
weird. He is my first and we plan on
getting married sometime soon.
To me virginity is important but not till
marriage. As long as you treat it as a
special moment and do it with a person you
love that is all the matters (to me)
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Posted: 12-24-07 11:08am
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i only asked because i was in the same
situation. I knew i loved him and whatnot
and i was glad atleast one of us had some
experience lol.
after the fact though i sometimes felt
resentment/jealous that he's been with
other ppl and i haven't. Like he has
things to compare me to. And i say i saved
myself for him but he didn't at all.
Anywho 5 years later i'm fine with it but
it did take a lot of growing and maturing
to realize that it didn't matter.
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Posted: 12-24-07 15:23pm
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my boyfriend and i were both virgins and
we lost it to each other so it made it
even more special. i definetly don't
regret doing it so soon, i just wish i
wouldn't have to worry about the
consequences which i wouldnt if i was
married
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Posted: 12-24-07 15:33pm
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i wanted to wait until marriage, but my
boyfriend and i decided to go for it. we
have been dating for almost four years now
(lost our virginities to each other after
6 months) and we are getting married
tomorrow. it really does depend on the
individual.
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Re: Is Virginity Important Till Marriage?
Posted: 12-24-07 20:59pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | | it's basically impossible to
find a virgin male over the age of
20. |
I object! But then again I'm 19 and I
still got a month so maybe you might win
=P.
To the original poster, no virginity isn't
important (according to contemporary
society), majority of Americans (at least
of my generation) at least don't keep
their virginity past like what, 16? Eiri
is correct, of my male friends of my age
and up, I remain the only virgin save for
a few others, but they aren't exactly
social and don't interact with women much.
As for my lady friends, I'm trying hard to
think of one... Eh tough luck, my head
hurts hehe.
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Guys,do you mind if your wife is not a
virgin?
Will guys not want a non-virgin as their
girlfriend?
Girls,will you still protect your
virginity till marriage for your future
husband? |
As for those questions, personally
1. I would like my first to be a virgin
for sentimental reasons (since I'm one
too), but that is unrealistic thinking
particularly as I grow older, I can't
expect to hope I'll find one as time goes
on.
2. Again, it is unreasonable at my age to
have high hopes for looking for a virgin
girlfriend, I wouldn't mind having a
non-virgin girlfriend (though I don't want
her experienced with too many guys
either). I don't want to feel like a
number =P.
Congrats to you if you deem it important
to save your virginity to marriage though,
it is a unique thought of mind in this
era. Stay happy and don't regret
regardless of which option you choose!
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