There are so many reasons why this could be happening. Personally I can't satisfy my husband with oral...why because he doesn't like the way I do it and that's fine with me honestly because I hate doing it anyway lol. But seriously he can guide me all he wants and I still end up doing it my way not meaning to but I do. Try out just laying there when you are having sex and letting him do all the work but get into it as well. Just don't try so hard. Sometimes when we try too hard at things we fail.

i personally think its a mental block you have during this activity.has anything sexually traumatic happened to you?

I used to have that problem with my current boyfriend, you just have to experiement, try looking up techniques online and try them out.

This is coming from a guy perspectives, so I hope this helps:
-When you guys have sex, do you ever try to talk dirty to him? If not, you should try it because by talking dirty, it could help build up the excitment in him and give your sex lives a bigger thrill. Many girls feel uncomfortable trying it because some say they don't know how, or they do no want to embarass themselves in front of their lovers. But I highly recommend you should give it a shot.
-Also, when you guys make love, does he have to tell you what position he wants or vice versa? If you guys do that, then maybe you should be more sponatenous about it. For instance, if your changing positions then you should immediately go to the one he likes or the one you perfer. Sometimes guys would prefer it if the girl is incharge by taking control on what positions they want. That might excite him as well. I hope this helps.

Am unable to cum after my abortion in april....it's seems, that I pee (gross)vs. cumming and I dont know what to do. I still feel like am been satisfiyed and my husband is still cum'm, but I want to kno whats wrong.... :/

I suspect you're giving in too easily. Men don't need anything more than a comfortable location, and friction to achieve orgasm. An average man can achieve orgasm by grinding against an inanimate object. You would have to be remarkably distracting to actually prevent a man from reaching orgasm. It would be possible that there's something about your vagina anatomically that doesn't give enough stimulation but you can't get him off with your hands or mouth either. I really believe if you communicate clearly with him to find out what he desires and patiently stick with it that you can make him cum very easily with practice. Don't give up!

I thought my partner and I had good sex, every time we have sex he tells me how much he enjoys it, recently i found out he watches alot of porn and has various dating website emails. When i confronted him about this he was defensive, unfortunately we eneded up in an arguement, as most do the irrational talk came out. I asked him if i sexually satisfied him, he did not reply, later on in the arguement he stated "maybe i dont like sex with you as much as I make out". This has had a major detremental affect on my willingness for sex. I have tried to block this out and have had sex since, I had to stop half way through as i felt so uncomfortable. I did however try and explore his fantasies by dirty texts, then asking him to tell me his, this was ignored. Since then I spoke about the categories of porn he was looking at to get an idea of what he likes which again made him defensive, he replied I like alot of things that you don't know about, automatically this has made me uneasy. Due to my insecurities of sexually pleasing my partner our sex has gone down hill. If I look objectively at this, the act of sexual intercourse has become a task instead of enjoyable which males can sense. Try making an effort,cook a meal, buy some sexy underwear, maybe dress up in something sexy when he gets into bed. Let go of all the anxieties you have and realise he is with you for you, don't go straight to his penis, explore each others bodies, talk dirty with him, tease him. Maybe watch porn on your own for tips and techniques, variation is they key. Talking about sex is positive but too much thought about this can make it pressurising. your self esteem and ego has been damaged and until you get it back you will give off a tense presentation during sex.