I have schizophrenia.I am on medication
and I am symptom free for the last 2
years.I got married 6 months ago.Before
marraige I had told my husband that I
suffered from severe depression with
hallucinations and got treated for
it.After marraige I told him that I
suffred form schizophrenia.
He says that he loves me inspite of it.I
keep feeling guilty that I dint tell him
before.I also feel scared that I would put
him through a lot of pain if the disease
took a bad course.I sometimes think it is
better if we seperate.He on the other hand
wants to stay with me.I dont know what to
do?
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poisonangel168
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Dec 2007 Posts: 32 Location: High Ridge, MO, USA
Re:should We Separate? Posted: 12-19-07 11:05am
I suffer from severe psychiatric symptoms
as well, and I would advise you to stay
with your husband, as long as you are
happy with him. It can be hard to tell
your partner that you have such a serious
condition, especially when it is
psychiatric because you may fear that they
will think you are "crazy", and flee the
relationship. I don't think that it
matters that you didn't tell him your
exact diagnosis prior to marriage-at least
you had the courage to disclose to him
that you suffered from severe depression
and hallucinations. What I do think
matters is that you found someone who
loves you despite your illness, which can
be a really difficult thing to do. I think
that if you stay with him, he will be
supportive of you if your symptoms worsen.
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lonestarguy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 592 Location: , Hoosierland, USA
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Posted: 12-19-07 11:26am
I agree with poisonangel. As a male, I
probably would have appreciated that you
told me before the marriage, but if he
says he still loves after you told him,
then stay. You recognize you have a
problem and now, he does, too.
It was a difficult step to tell him at any
time, because you risked the chance that
he would leave you. But, he didn't. Which
means to me if you start having a bad
course with the disease, that he is there
to support you.
You are very lucky as poisonangel said to
have found someone who doesn't think
you're "crazy" and didn't flee. You have a
controllable disease and you're not crazy,
so enjoy life with a great partner.
