Ok so me and this guy broke up a while
back i mean it got ugly and now we are
almost cool again.... but hes a marine and
im here and hes coming home from christmas
and we are talking about hooking up as
like friends with benifits is this a good
idea??? or should i just walk away i mean
at one time i really loved this guy then
we broke up the first time started dating
againg and i cheated on him he cheated on
me we broke up again... please someone
some advice?!!!
I would not do this. Being intimate with
this guy is only going to bring back
feelings and put false ideas into your
head. Friends with benefits will only
bring you more pain.
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Aunt WeeWee
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Posted: 12-19-07 14:04pm
I agree. If U R friends w/ benefits, it
will only cause U more pain, cause it will
make U want more w/ this person. If U
think U can jus strickly B jus friends w/
benefits, & not feel anythin else 4
him, then thats a different story.
About 3 yrs. ago B4 I got w/ me bf, this
guy and I was friends w/ benefits, & I
feel N love w/ him. I wanted so much more
w/ this guy, & he claimed he did 2,
but cause of certian reason we couldn't B
N a real relationship. I swear I cried so
much over this guy. B N friends w/
benefits wasn't worth tha pain.
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utchic2
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Posted: 12-20-07 00:26am
thank you guys i really needed yalls
advice
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Makoto
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Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 279 Location: Japan
Posted: 12-21-07 11:16am
I think go for it. If you think you can
handle it emotionally, go for it. Just do
not fool yourself into thinking you guys
can have a real relationship.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-21-07 14:57pm
eh, the problem is that someone might
think they can handle it emotionally but
it just doesn't work out that way-- the
whole situation could easily backfire
because she had feelings for him in the
past.
utchic2, I would just find someone else.
If you've had feelings for this guy in the
past its going to make this really tough
for you. Is the idea of getting back
together with him something that might
come up?-- I don't know anything about
your past relationship so I don't really
know how deep your feelings were.
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JENNIFER7188
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2008 Posts: 9
listen to me i know what im talking about from experience Posted: 05-09-08 20:51pm
WHOAH! ok i dated a guy in highschool..
and its been about 3 years since then..
we've hooked up multiple times since the
break up.. and then we didnt talk.. and
then randomly we both ended relationships
with other ppl.. and we randomly agreed to
do the FWB thing.. its been about 3 or so
months we've been doing the FWB thing.. at
first it was a little rocky.. then it got
smoother.. but now im just losing all
interest in it.. I think its a stupid
idea.. sex with your ex should be
spontaneous.. and if you both know you
don't want to "be together" you just want
sex from eachother.. just ask yourself
this: "is the sex really worth it?" and if
you answer yourself with "no ive had
better or i dont want to waste my time
doing this." then you probably shouldn't
do FWB with an ex.. FWB isn't suppose to
be confusing but it can be with an ex..
although you know its nothing more than
sex.. it's still a waste of time I think..
go get some fresh meat girl!!!! not ex
meat!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-13-08 10:45am
I would no to do it. It's not a good
situation to keep tampering with at all.
