Hey there, I had the same feelings for a long time. It wasn't until the month before I turned 20 that I found someone. The trick here is to get a hobby to forget about these things. I turned to helping kids in my area and teaching them sports. Not only did I help kids in need, but I enjoyed what I was doing and it really was a confidence booster that made me happy.

Don't become bitter because that wont help anything, actually become friends with these women. Get to know them as a person and have no expectations, magic happens when you least expect it.

Here is my story, it was the end of October 2006 and I had completely given up on relationships. I didn't need one or want one and I was just trying to focus and enjoy what I did have. I was mentoring kids and going to college, it kept me busy. I started talking to people online and randomly started talking to one girls in particular. I had no expectations nor any ideas about a future (I hadn't even considered the possibility of meeting someone online). We talked for a few weeks and one joke about meeting turned into the real thing, but it was more of a friendly meeting. Before I knew it I was struck, and I'm happy to say 13 months later I am still struck.

Forgetting about relationships allow you to think clearly about what you really want, and it lets your true good qualities shine instead of the qualities you think you should be showing.

I wish you the best.

19 is very young. You have a good life ahead of you. Don't put yourself down in the dumps about the relationships that aren't happening...yet. Some people just take longer to find that one special person, and this is normal. Actually I think it's really healthy.

What you should do is concentrate on developing your talents, go to college, excel at your workplace, read some books of academic nature on the side....or whatever it is you want to do. Give yourself some life experiences to enhance the person that you are. That will make you a richer, more interesting person.

The right one will come along for you soon enough. Just focus on other things for the time being and all of a sudden she'll be standing there admiring what you've made of yourself.

I also know that I shouldnt worry about being in a relationship....but whenever i see an attractive girl thats where my mind always ends up at. After that I think of how lonely I'am....and then it leads be back into depression. Thats how it all starts....I'm trying not to have a pity party but I have to get these things off my mind and replace them with peoples advice..

Women can sense a man that is depressed or not as confident. By always feeling bad or depressed you are pushing away all of the good things that are out there. Try to give yourself positive feedback after you think something bad of yourself. Like "gosh that was stupid" instead say "man I messed up, but maybe next time I will do better" or "No ones perfect anyway" Say good things right after you say something bad. Pretty soon you wont put yourself down so much. Also please try not to be jealous and angry. Nothing can get better until you let go of your jealousy and anger. Now how do you do this? I really dont have a true answer. All I know is that once you feel better about yourself you will start to attract positive enerygy and positive people and eventually potential dates.

You need to be positive to get postive in return. I know this sounds crazy or impossible, but just give it a shot. What do you have to lose.

Try telling yourself "I am lovable and competent"

Well you also have to tell yourself too that all because they are attractive doesn't mean that they are nice girls and you will get along with them

So chipper up m8, there's one out there for everyone.

Does anyone have anymore advice for a lonely and bitter soul? please I'd appreciate it.

Yes, as a matter of fact I do.

Firsts, focus on yourself. Keep working out, keep a positive attitude, and tell yourself affirmations: that is GOOD stuff. Throw out that old recorder in your brain telling you you are not attractive or good enough ..... STOP.

This positive thoughts I am a good person. I am smart, I am athletic, or whatever you feel your good qualities are.

Eventually something will happen for you. also, women like confidence. Act confident, do not act weak and unsure of yourself. girls do not like that. and...some on......19???? My gosh, I understand your worry, but I am over 50. I have lots of years beyond you, and I can tell you, you are so so young.

I also suggest that you do not delete friends who are girls off your sites. Have you set up a myspace? Also, get out, don't sit infront of the computer. Go to cafes, jog at a park setting where there are others. Do you have guy buddies? If so, go out with them every chance you can.

BE Patient. my one son did not have his first girlfriend till he was almost 19. She was a doll, but was so immature, that after a year with him, she dumped him. I was sad for him, but he has many girlfriends since. He was small and had acne in highschool...he had some tough times. Guys many times just mature later. What you are experiencing for a young man is normal. Don't focus so much attention on that, but focus on yourself now, and being confident, and it will attract girls. A sense of humor is a must.

Keep us posted. would love to hear how you are doing.