My boyfriends been back from the military for a almost 2years. He never went to the shrink because he.s too stubborn and proud. So ever since he.s had nitemarès. When I first met him he wouldn't stay over because he was embarrased that I would look at him weird cause he talks in his sleep and twitches and sometimes shakes.

For the past 2months he.ll take a few hit of marijuana before going to sleep, not enough to get him stoned but just enough were he.s sleepy. I did notice such a dramatic change in his sleep. I'm happy cause he wasn't talking, crying out, thrashing etc. He sleeps like a rock and wakes up refreshed and full of energy cause he can finally sleep well. But for the past 3 days I asked him not to smoke cause I was getting worried.

And the nightmares came back, the crying, the hard twitching, and shaking his nightmare got soo bad once, he was on his side and I had to hug him from behind and try to drag him out verbally from the dream he was having. I think he was dreaming from when he was on the battlefield cause he was groaning orders and calling out his fallen buddies names :'(

He told me yesterday that he.s thinking of finally going to the shrink and I'm glad. Is it wrong that I want him to smoke just so these horrible nitemarès can go away for a while? Anybody going thru this with there guys or girls? Any tips?