Hello,

Sorry for the long post:

When I met my husband I liked that he was very ambitioius. He told me how he was trying to go to school and how he was trying to get himself together.

At the time he did not have a job, car, or place of his own. I was only 19 so you could imagine how I didnt see the signs that he may not have been as ambitious as me(at the time I was on my own and in college. I am currently finishing graduate school). He enrolled in school (to finish his high school education) and I helped him get a retail job.

The job was supposed to be a temporary thing while he finished school. He has since quit school and been working at this job going on 5 years. He has totally lost his ambition. He always complains that he wants kids and a house but I always ask him to finish school so we can have a stable income and buy that house.

The reason I am not comfortable having kids is because I rarely see my husband. He often works 12 hour shifts and his income varies depending on his sales. in the last 3 months he has been moved to 3 different stores around the area where we live.

Whenever I talk to him about his career and try to plan our future he gets angry and tells me I am nagging him. I have been going through this 5 years and he has not done anything for our future. I am breaking my back by going to school, trying to start a business, researching, and planning,etc... on my own. I just feel all by myself on this.

I should also mention that he never cleans anything (refuses to wash a dish). I know it sounds petty but I feel like everything is on my shoulders. I just dont want to have kids because I feel like I would have to raise them on my own as well.

I am only 24 years old now I feel like I made a big mistake in getting married. I cant even talk to my husband like a adult without him leaving or emotionally abusing me. We have gotten counseling, seperated, etc. When we were seperated he promised that he would be more serious about our future but he goes right back to the same old thing.

Is this how marrige is supposed to be? Do you think I have enough reason to get a divorce? I just dont want to waist time.