About a month ago I was in a car accident. I was alone and although my car ended up on its side with the front and back each wrapped around a tree, I was barely hurt. The biggest injury I got was a concussion, which seems to be getting steadily better. My biggest problem is that ever since the accident I have been extremely irritable (not all the time, just on occasion) and I end up on the verge of tears. I was not a moody person before this happened. I also get creeped right out when I think about it. Is this normal? Is this part of the concussion?
Though I've never had to go through something like that, from what I hear, it's relatively normal. My good friend was in a car accident much like yours a few years back. His injuries were pretty severe, but I remember him being very different for awhile afterwards. He was always an easy going guy, but for a few months after his accident, he seemed moody and catty. It gradually got better, though, and he's back to his old self now.
i am glad you were there for your friend. i complelty understand the chattyness a little. for me its just trying to find my slef again nothing seems right. i was in a accident put me in wheelchair for five months. i can't seem to find anyone to stop and listen i understand that.
I was in a Car Accident over a month ago overseas, I was okay, just broke my left foot and Pelvis, which was really surprising because I got impacted on my side of the car, got my foot stuck in the door and survived, with only a little damage..
but every since after the crash, I have been so Depressed, moody, upset and stressed out, It's very unfair on the people I love, I seem to be throwing all my weight at them. I just have not been myself.
Before the accident, I was never like this. I am an out going fun happy person.
sure has effected me.
I've decided to go see a Physio. Just hope I get better soon. This is terrible.
I am only a Young 18 year old Female.
Hi 19822 Sorry to hear about your accident... I was in a head on car accident about 6 months ago and broke my leg and rib. For quite a while after I was having nightmares and flashbacks from the accident, or I would think about the feeling of the impact and would just feel very upset and panicky. So yes it is normal. I am also very nervous when other people drive me around since the accident (as I wasnt the driver). It will get better and also the irritability is probably from the stress and trauma of the accident I am sure it is nothing serious. Hope you feel better!
I am suffering from whiplash, nerve injuiry, damaged vertabraes c3,c4,c5,c6 for a year and a half. I've had 3 Epiderals to take care of the nerve pain that goes down my left arm and my thumb and two fingers still have tingling and numbing. The neck, back and side hurts worse throughout the day and doesn't allow me to sleep and when I do I wake up enormous pain. I have been depressed and feeling older than I am. Court coming up, now my anxiety over that is causing me a great deal of uneasy feelings. The accident caused by the other party and anger is there but not revenge. But the lawyer doesn't understand mental aspects of this, a mental health professional has not been considered because of previous mental disorder of MPD in my history and even though this injury has made me worse mentally it can not be part of the proceedings or the claims. It would be opening a big can of worms and I would basically be opening my whole life up in front of everyone. I'm up searching the web, found your site and here I am sobbing at my computer and wondering if I can ever be made whole again. All because of a man being careless, breaking traffic laws and running into us headon. I'm afraid also of driving, even while someone else is. I'm angry at most people on the road, because of how they drive recklessly and speeding all over the place. I'm bitter, sad, angry, fearful and my love life with my husband of 25 years is suffering since the accident. I've gained 22 pounds of unwanted fat. Getting a double chin, I can't excercise my neck. Just miserable and can't pick up things off the floor. Losing interest in all things. Pain medicine won't help, so I'm just in pain and drugged up. So I'm not taking them. My regular doctor is a new one, the one I had for 23 years isn't in practice anymore. The phykiatrist (sp) is no more at the clinic. Starting over with everyone and no one knows me anymore. I feel so alone. I can't get help I need for fear of discussing the case with anyone. My life is an open book but has to remain closed. I've tried the positive thinking, praying and even doing absolutely nothing. And even if there is monetary relief, it won't bring back my health or abilities. I've spent so much money on gas to go to doctors I can't eat right. My husband and I are eating on 3.00 a day after utilities and rent. I can see why alot of people don't take anyone to court, cause they can't afford to. I had to have an independent doctor and ride in our 20 year old vehicle for a 7 hour round trip. Thank God we made it, but now the rest of Feb. is shot all to heck and we'll be lucky to eat at all the rest of the month. And then God forbid if we'd like to go anywhere. But the driver of the other vehicle wasn't even driving his own vehicle, it was his bosses brand new truck. So he didn't care. Thanks for being there, anybody, just to listen to me.
Got into a huge accident in November, my car was rear ended and totalled. I hit my head on the wheel pretty hard and had some sort muscles for a few days, but the real thing that has stuck with me is the following: 1) I have flashbacks to the accident whenever someone is driving closely behind me, often I keep driving straight instead of turning when I need to out of fear that I may get rear ended again. 2) (and this one is the worst) I've begun to lose hair RAPIDLY - I am a 23 year old male and this isn't male pattern baldness - my hair is straight up falling out rapidly. When i do the comb over a pillow test for a minute, the number of hairs falling out far exceeds the average (which is ~10 hairs for 60 seconds of combing)... I'm wondering if I will ever grow that hair back... I feel very insecure and crappy about my hairloss. I never realized a car accident could have such a lasting impact on my life...
I was in a should have been fatal accident about 45 days ago I am struggling in had major internal injures but am grateful to be alive me and my dog where just living put lives and this a@@&&hole ran a light hitting me in my drivers side at 50 mph and rolled my jeep 3 times I don't know why I am alive and I feel bad for the man that hit me I do I know he didn't mean too but I will never be the same I need help all I do is cry my hair is falling out I haven't slept in 19 days will I ever be "normal" again all I can do is see myself in a casket! Help help help please
Dear whip smart.. Your not alone. I to live your life. I can't stand to ride in a car. I take meds to ride in a car to get to a doctors apppointment or to go anywhere since my accident. I have all kinds of problems now. But the insurance company says I am faking it all and that I am fine. I was diagnosed with a TBI and siezures now and much more It is a long road with a lot of bumps. they try to strave you out, they cut you off from your doctors and do all kinds of things Even so far as to take your medical away from you. . You see they want you to cave. They even send you to there Doctors who are paid off By the insurance companies to LIE. But wait they are called independent doctors.. LOL but they are on there list of who they send patients too. they examine you for about 10 minutes or less. after you wait for and hour or more. But wait. the insurance company sends them false documents about you for the doctor to write his report about you. NOW WHERE IS THE DOCTORS INDEPENDENT EXAM!! what happen to there oath. Oh wait. money talks more then morals. I just know that everyday I can look in the mirror everyday. I wonder if insurance company employee's and there all mighty lawyers have mirrors in there homes and offices. IAM NOT THINKING THEY DO..... keeping the faith I have accepted the new me whom ever that is. I am still learning. I was hoping to be much better by now. I guess I was hoping that I had a team player of an insurance company but I guess you never really know who's hands your in...
whip_smart & faithnhope:
i was rear-ended by a really drunk guy almost a year ago. we begin litigation next week. i have a cervical herniation as well as a torn, herniated lumbar disc. i bashed my face in the dash or something, a tooth fell out & another cracked(i didnt see it, i just remember the awful impact & the sickening crunching sound. thanks, flashbacks!). i have post-concussive syndrome, which is typically resolved by month 8 but mine is definitely not. migraines, vertigo, pain alllllll over my back every day. i had a cervical steroid injection, not for me. made the pain much worse. acupuncture has helped that, & my thoracic, but not my lumbar. i was in the middle of an internship when the accident happened, had to quit, lost all my hours, having to take a year off, go back this fall (2010). i am terrified i wont be able to do it, terrified that after 10 years of training & education, my grad degree wont get completed & i wont be able to do what i had planned for so long: to be a psychotherapist, helping those who have been abused. soma helps, but it makes me wonky & i canot work with clients that way.
my pain is great, physically. then, i have nightmares, flashbacks, & absolutely ptsd. i had the ptsd from a long time ago, but i am not opening that can of worms in this case. my att'y advised we share that my ptsd has been made worse, & we both refuse to discuss anything about my reasons for having originally developed it. my case is rather cut & dried- he was drunk, i was stopped at a stop sign, he passed out & hit me at speed.
the suing bothers me too. i feel like my body, my injuries, my very experience in life since this accident is going to have a price-tag attached to it, which is absolutely inappropriate. plus, this drunk driver lives in my town; i & others know he is a ne'er-do-well...he has a reputation. i dont even expect his auto ins policy limits (which will be handed to me) will cover my current medical bills, let alone my needed continuing care. forget about pain & suffering compensation. at least, that's how i think it's going to go down.
i am trapped inside my body, full of pain, & cannot get away. my mood is crappy, when i was concussed i'd just CRY, bawl my eyes out, out of nowhere. i'm crabby and rather inward. i lost my ability to remember things, lost brain functioning, & lost my ability to live my life the way i want & need to.
you are not alone. what has helped me is talking to friends about it (i spread it out, b/c no one understands unless they've been thru this, & they just want to help, cant, & get frustrated, i feel), finding good doctors (i had to find a new gp, chiro, pain mgmt specialist, acupuncturist & even had to get a new lawyer b/c my old one sucked. acupuncture helps, & chinese herbs, b/c i am really sensitive & they help but no side-effects. soma helps some. opiates thankfully do nothing. i do not want to get addicted to something in order to deal with this pain! meditation helps too, esp with the mood part, the mental state stuff. keeps me balanced. but it is very hard for me to be brave enough to meditate these days, even after years of practice.
i am glad i found & read these posts, it helped me alot to know other people have the same experiences & that my difficulties seem to be typical following a traumatic car accident. xo to you all, & be good to yourselves.
I flipped my suv..uhh lets see...almost 3 years ago..and still have unexplainable feelings about it. no car trouble like you people have, that's extremely unfortunate. my car just started controlling itself and passed into oncoming traffic and I hit a ditch that tossed my car a few times in the air..ricocheting off a tree and eventually plowing through an entire brickway entrance for a neighborhood...car was totaled completely..I walked out with a scratch from the broken glass. A week after the crash...I noticed 2 or 3 hairless spots under my chin. I gave it a couple of months before seeing a dermatologist. She gave me two shots under my chin, expecting them to vanish in a couple of weeks. They are tough to see now...but noticeable if you're looking for it. I didn't hit my head on anything in the car...I couldn't find much on the internet about "shock loss." I mostly saw people who were physically hurt in the accident somehow and shock loss occured..so I was just wondering if anybody has heard of or experienced anything similar...thanks in advance.
I was hit in the back of my car as i was slowing down due to a truck that lost..''it's load'' on the Freeway.
i was unconscious for 23mins, broken ribs, ruptured sleen, laceration to the liver, constant pain in my left leg now. However I am recovering physically, but afetr 7mths I am anxious about getting into a car, refuse to drive as I'm worried I'll be in another accident...I have terrible memories of a huge ''thud'' from the back, don't ask me how I know it was the back but i hear that thud often in my ears. I have dizzines now when lying down, due to fluid in the ears....If I watch TV or a movie and theres a car accident I just burst into tears. I feel stupid, why am I like this?
I am seeing a psychologist.....and have been told i have Post Taumatic Stress..........oh dear will life ever get back to normal for me?....I was in a 5 car pile up and had to be cut out of my car, and the thought of all of this going on whilst I was unconscious terrifies me........
I too had an accident a week ago with my car which was a 2007 ford mustang GT and it was terrible.I totaly destroyed the car after hitting two trees due to a truck hitting my rear end.I was lucky the airbags was working good because I was not wearing any seatbelt!I still have flashbacks of the accident and feel terrible of what happened,I could never even see photos of the car without crying.Luckily I was not hurt from the accident but still haunted in my dreams
I'm 18 and I just rolled my mom's explorer... This is the first accident that I've been in with me driving. I had two 15 year olds and an 8 year old in the car with me. They were all buckled up, unlike me.. I have a minor concussion lots of bumps and bruises and a sprained wrist... When we were done rolling I couldn't tell you what happened. I remember the end and the begining of the accident.. I am really sad but then I get to the poin were I am annoyed really easy. I was so scared to tell the cops what happened that I lied about how many people were in my car.. Now I'm in trouble with the law for false reporting and have to go to court. I can't sleep at night.
OH the other three people in my car are doing great nothing is wrong with any of them minus a bruise the size of a dime on one of their arms.
what should i do?
I am reading everyone's story trying to find out how everyone deals with their accidents.. I was in a fatal auto accident on 10/10/10 due to guys drag racing, causing me to run of the road rear end a pick up truck causing my car to 360 at 80 mph into a tree.. my car engine ended up inside the car.. ask me how i survived i don't know..all i know is i woke up to find out i broke my arm, nose, knee cap, damaged my lungs.. I under went all my surgeries but since then i haven't been the same.. my faces which is the biggest problem looks different cause of my nose which made me more depressed then anything else.. All i do is cry when im alone or when im thinking about it.. i dont know how i will ever learn to cope with knowing i will never look the same.. i have metal plates in my arm that i have to deal with forever.. Can someone who has been or knows someone who is going through this give me some advice.. i dont think i will ever learn to be normal again with friends and family.. and i lost my relationship to all this..
I have great sympathy for everyone who has so bravely shared your own car accident experiences.
I too have a story to tell. I was driving my boss's car and at somewhere I had never been to before, I didn't see a stop sign and ran into it. Luckily, nobody was hurt. It happened by the end of october. things became a little nasty because my boss refused to pay me for the work I was doing for him due to the accident. I just quit.
I felt stupid that how I can not see a stop sign. But, it happened. I have nothing else to do but to accept it. To accept that accidents happen. It can happen to any of us. People make mistakes.
Don't beau up yourself if you made a mistake or if an accident happened to you. You are still the unique you in the universe. You are still loved and cherished by family and friends.
I was in a car accident on Oct. 3, I was trapped for 2 to4 hours before being found. I don't remember the accident but I am noticing that I am feeling more depressed and am being easily taken advantage of due to my weekness from the accident. People who I thougth were my friends are using my vulnerable state to their advantage. I know there are other issues as well. Is this common to be depressed after an accident? I was in the hopital and rehab for almost a month!! I have felt very alone even though there are people around. It seems like the depression is just settin in, is that because I am finally alone more and don't have the company that I had????
I too have suffered from a traumatic accident. I found relaxation exercises by my physical therapist here in Boulder very helpful.
She also has a great article on Car Accident Recovery. If you live in Colorado, especially South Boulder, look her up.
I was in a roll over car accident 6 weeks ago. We blew the back tire out and automatically started rolling; the truck rolled 5 times before coming to a halt. I was thrown out of the vehicle; I suffered traumatic injuries (but getting better). 2 nights after the accident I started receiving flash bakes, irritability, and nightmares. It is gradually getting better. They say this is normal and it can last as long as 6 months to even a year after your traumatic experience. You will soon stop feeling the way you do now. Glad you were not severely hurt, you must be very lucky.
Today is May 25,2011 and my car accident was Apr 8,11. I am really having a hard time getting throug the recoveryt process.I was driving on a two way stree traffice block when a 22 year old kid was driving a 05 Chevy pick up truck he dropped his bagel in the truck bent down to pick it up and swuirved over the double yellow line and hit me head on with me going 45mph.He didnt have a scratch on him where I was airlifted out to another county to a trauma center where they found my ankle was completedly crushed, my spleen was bleeding out 4 pints of blood into my body, I had a broken neck fractures and a torn artery on the right side of my neck.My life was near ended. I have three amazing children 15,4, and 19 months and thank God none of them were with me. I spent over 5 days in ICU then went to a regular room for 5 days.I came home on Apr 18.I have been so miserable that I was the only person that was hurt in the accident.Not that I wish anyone was hurt but its hard to not be able to do anything for my kids without my hubbys help. Just until yesterday I couldnt even shower by myself because I wasn't allowed to lift my hands over my head because of possible stroke.Since be home my spleen being out has healed wonderfully my neck cast just came off yesterday but my foot cast is still on. But I find myself crying All the time. I went to my local ER on the 20th of May because something just wasnt feeling right in my cast. Yes there was an odor but for as much as Ive read there usually can be an odor. They did nothing but take xrays and send me home.I got into my regular orthos office wchich is an hour away on Monday and they said sure we will remove the cast and when they did they found a terrible terrible infection above the one sides wound area I was devastated.Now I have to go back tomorrow already and have the area looked at again. The doctor said if they can't get the area to clear up I need to go back into surgery AGAIN!!!!! Im soooo pissed that the kid gets to get up and go about his daily day everyday like nothing every happened and here I am possibly having to be back in an operating room! How do I work through all this nightmare????
I've read all the posts here and I want to send my sincere wishes that everyone finds some peace of body and mind. I can relate to all the emotional and some of the physical problems that people have written about.
I was walking across the street in a small town in the middle of a nice summer afternoon when a woman driving a Lexus SUV careened into me. I was i the middle of my crossing and had no time to get out of the way. I bounced off her hood, flipped on the ground several times slamming my body on each side , hit the back of my head on the pavement before stopping 15 feet away. I have to say it was truly a miracle I survived as well as I did. I have herniated discs in my neck and every single part of my body hurts- all my joints, the hand & arm that braced the initial hit to the ground, my upper & lower back. My head is in constant pain- my neurologist says it is from my neck injury. I am so angry. I'm the kind of person that really tries to see both sides of a situation but it has bee difficult to defend the driver. The day was clear. I'm not a short person (5'6") . I was walking slowly. It was a pedestrian populated area so anyone driving should be extremely alert and driving as slow as possible. I'm angry because the woman who hit me is a Law Professor & will wiggle her way out of any responsibility. I'm depressed that I can't do not only the fun things I have been doing all my life like aerobic classes, weight lifting, jogging, but I can't do simple things like Laundry, washing dishes, walking my dog without great pain.It has been almost a month and I am still in pain. I don't like to be drug dependent but I have to take muscle relaxers prescribed by my doctor. I hate that I have to even do that. I am fortunate there is the internet - friends check in and that cheers my day. I was looking for work when this happened so I can't get compensated in that area. This has delayed so much. But I do ask myself good questions: because of this change what can I do to make progress now that I hadn't entertain before? I could have died so easily. So if this is another chance how do I want that second chance to look? If a Higher source has seen that I have more to do that what can I do to figure that purpose and how can I get that started in my present condition? I know that I have a long road ahead of me physically. Now I need to make my world move forward as well.
I have been in a situation very close to yours... Crossing the road in a pedestrian area when a motorcycle hit me with about 55 mph... I wont go into details about the accident but i will say that fortunately i am alive with very minor problems (a metal rod in the leg and pain in the back is what can be seen)
I am thankfull for being alive but i am in a position of not only being afraid of speeding vehicles but i want to harm their drivers as well... Which is bad.. I am also thinking.. Was it a mirracle? Was it just chance? 2 years after the accident i still think of death especially when i try to sleep and fear conquers me for a while.. I hope the best for you all... Keep your heads up..