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24 Year Old Virgin Needs Help!! (Page 1)

I'm a 24 year old virgin and i am a guy. why aren't i posting this on the guys site, while you my understand as well. i like my films, music, pubs (when i can). i don't condiser myself medical question ugly, a little overweight. i was 21 stone, now im 18 stone. Back when i was at school i had a few girls who i knew but they wanted to stay as 'friends', that pissed me off. maybe it was me and i didn't push enough but i think they latched onto me to get to my friends. But my problem is i feel like going mad, everywhere i go i seem to see porn or sex. i masturbate everyday, it does my nut. Its on my brain all the time. I just wanna do it and get it off my brain, i know i should wait for that someone but i dont care. Although I think i could do quite well at it, from what i've read and seen. I just want some one who understands, whos in my shoes from the oppsite sex. If someone wants to chat via facebook or msn, just reply below.

PS. I know this isn't a chat forum but people on this forum seem to take issues seriously. thanks for reading.
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replied December 28th, 2007
Don't get sucked into the porno thing. It will mess you up for life!!! Don't beat yourself up for masturbating, but don't fantasize about anonymous women during it either, (another form of pornography that will mess up your future relationships and the sex life you have with your wife). Treasure your virginity and use this time to work on yourself and stive to be the best man your wife could want.
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replied January 2nd, 2008
It's not a bad thing to be a virgin. And "just doing it" to get it off you brain doesn't help. I think that you should wait until you meet the right person. I'm a virgin and as happy as can be, still waiting for the right somebody to come my way. Be proud of being a virgin and only having sex with the woman you love.
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replied January 2nd, 2008
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Yes do not have sex until you meet the right person. And I dont think porn is a bad thing and I have had great relationships where we watched porn together. If you are secure about youself, your partner and your relationship then porn can be fun and exciting.
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replied January 2nd, 2008
Its just my personal opinion, but i dissagree with porn in relationships as it shifts the focus onto pleasing yourself rather than your partner.
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replied March 7th, 2008
Why don't you just pay for sex then?
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replied March 18th, 2008
Jasmine, that was rude and uncalled for.

To the beginning poster, don't just give it away to give it away. I was one of those girls who grew up intending to be a virgin until my wedding night. Last year (my first year of college) I met a guy and just went down hill so fast. I don't regret losing my virginity, but I do regret losing it to HIM. don't just give it up. watch the 40 year old virgin, it says a lot about the situation Smile. you'll find someone! I know, i'm "the friend" too. it SUUUUCKS, but on the bright side, my relationships never become akward and when I finally find a spectacular guy, I won't take it for granted!
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replied March 24th, 2008
I lost my virginity for the sake of losing it, my best friend always made me feel pathetic for not having sex and found it funny to tell people which made me feel embarrassed - i was 17. so one night wen we were out i had a one night stand with some random guy. i hated myself for ages after. anyway i got rid of that 'friend' of mine and started over. dont feel pressured into anything a girl will have more respect for u for saving urself rather then u having slept around.
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replied March 30th, 2008
worry
don't worry. you will know when it is right. problem is, too many are doing it these days. diseases can be forever, such as HERPES. You don't want one. I always say: have the girl do her blood work first and show you the results. you can also go do that and show her. your time will come. masturbation is normal. don't make watching porn a habit it can interfere with real relationships.
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replied April 10th, 2008
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god i waited s long as i could and finally said whatever im getting rid of my virginity lol i was 22 when i lost it to my boyfriend at the time. and no i didnt feel bad,dirty, etc like most people. i even told my mom why i had jus wanted to get rid of it. she didnt flip she was supportive. now im in a loving relationship andno jus cause i acted so non chalant about losing it did it turn me into some promiscous person. im 24 and ive only had 3 sexual partners Smile its really your choice if you want to wait a little longer or jus get it over and done with.
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replied April 10th, 2008
Dont listen to them
Get out there
go to some clubs
and get some girls
dont waste ur time with porn
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replied April 10th, 2008
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i wouldn't dwell so much on your virginity or social status.

it's not such a big deal one way or the other, but if you're having trouble finding someone that you can connect with, take a look at what's stopping you. what is holding you back? is it the way you feel about yourself? how can you change that?
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replied April 16th, 2008
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As most of these said, there is nothing wrong about being a virgin. But maybe perhaps you have been deprived for too long and that isn't any consolation so if you really gotta lose it, just go out there and socialize more. It really isn't that hard to "get some". Especially in college life -_- .

Beating the meat every day isn't exactly a good thing from what I've heard. It can lead to desensitizing of the penis and you can only achieve climax from masturbation and not via sex with another partner. Moderation is best.

It sounds like you really want to lose it, and I don't think you are at a point where any of us can deter you and possibly wait some more months/years for that "special someone". So, go out there and meet some girls. Just remember to use protection, and don't expect too much on your first time.
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replied July 5th, 2008
im a virgin and i have the same feeling, like its always on my mind, i live with other studenst who have had sex, and talk about it all the time, and i just sit there in the corner feeling so left out. i have thought to myself that i just want to get it over and done with, so i haven experiences to share and dont feel so silly.

but i have been thinking, and your virginity is someone so special to you, treasure it, please dont give it away to anyone. if your in a relationship and one of you is a virgin then you are resepected, if you go out to clubs, all the want is sex and nothing more. take your time, please dont feel ashamed, its something you should be proud of, im proud. its something that not many people i know have. thats what makes me differnent, its frustrating because people think that people who havent had sex know nothing about it, thats why we get so frustrated, just because we havent had it, doesnt mean we dont know whats involved right?..
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replied July 5th, 2008
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Wait till you meet someone special then you can learn with her LOL and she will understand if you really really suck the first few times. .
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replied August 10th, 2008
Hey man I was in your shoes just a year ago. I was struggling to lose my virginity at 23. I ended up having a couple one night stands at the bar. Afterwards I felt so much different but better. I felt more natural reaching out to people and followed up with more dating. I was really uncomfortable around women in the beginning and felt I was always going to lose out on women.

Finding your life partner takes skills and courage. Too many people sugar coat finding your love. But for guys you need to learn how to escalate a relationship and set the course for the both of you. You have to learn how to take it to the next level. There are very logical ways of doing this. I've done a lot of self help and have made nearly every dating mistake imaginable. Any questions, give me a ring.
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replied September 5th, 2008
you know what SLYER?? u just need to cool down your only 24??? there's no rush, masterbation with vasiline will make it feel like real sex eheheh, that's what i herd. it's so normal, guys these days are very horny, you just need to grow out of that stage and focus on studying or any future goals plus u said something about over weight?? maybe u should head to te gym, when u run or exercise it releases this HAPPY HOrMONE, don't depend on masturbation to make urself feel better. u just need some times, Patience is the key in life. if u still a virgin when u reach the age of 30 n up no worries GIRLS prefer MATURE MEN who know's how to respect them so u better work on that. too much porn gets abite outdated/boring, u shouldn't do it everyday, u should save it for occasional times it will make it feel more exicting. oneday when u have a g/f and she finds out that u masturbate all the time it's very UNATTRACTIVE/turn off,, and that time might be a little bite too late to stop your habbit becuase i found out that guys are usually vounerble, it's hard for them to get over something they've been enjoying and doing for a long time..
my Advice for u is to do something about ur selfestem, u should try to make yourself feel happy like doing different activities and changing you habbit, like changing your hairstyles, working out, studying hard(girls prefer intellegent men who has abite of more money than they), eating habbit(trying new ethnic food). if u let the sex drive to take over u then u might become crazzy and become a sex killer/offender, that's scarey.... don't ruine your life for sex...lol...
let me tell u something scarey.. do u believe in spirit/ghost?? they might be watching u...
well, hope for the best, hope u change your life style
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replied September 19th, 2008
well the truth is, it is a little odd to be a virgin at 24. Women will look at you weird if you tell them that. Women don't really want a virgin, anyway, so its good to have at least a little "on the job training." MY suggestion is go to the skankiest bar you can find, pour drinks into the sleaziest thing there and take her home. Then(wear protection) muddle through it. You probably hate it, and it will probably disappointing. But sex is like pizza, even when its really bad, its kinda good. As for porn, it can be addicting, but so can sex, and porn doesn't give you herpes.
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replied September 24th, 2008
i was 12
i was 12 when i lost it and i come completely regret it. i was at a party and one thing let to a next. well i all i have to say is wait for the right person i i wish i did. but i can't undo the pasted. like i have had a lot of one night stand because i was never really in to the dating seen till i meet my boyfriend but al i can say is i wish i waited.
good luck on what ever happens danni
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replied January 10th, 2009
i love sex
you only live once bud. Get laid ASAP. our missing out huge. I am glad I slept with a girl when I was 14- or 15. one or the other. Its a very hot fun thing...you sir are missing out
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