Pleasure From Pleaasing Him? Posted: 12-14-07 09:46am
I posted this in the women's sexual health
board too...but out of 18 people who have
read it..no one responded...
So my boyfriend and I haven't done much
sexually...but I give him handjobs over
his shorts..and he fingers me. But
anyway...he says that it makes him happy
to know that I am satisfied...and he likes
getting me off because he feels
accomplished. And I can't say that I feel
the same way...Getting him off is
just...blah to me...lol...it's just
something that happens. Sometimes I feel
accomplished...but making him happy
doesn't make me happy it's just...blah.
(He is the first boyfriend that I have
ever had). I don't know why I feel this
way, or if there is anyway to fix it. He
went away on a long trip, and he hasn't
gotten himself off in over a week, and he
said he will let me do it this weekend
when he comes to visit me...and I'm just
like okay...but it almost feels like it's
a chore.
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Whaturmuva
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 105 Location: ,
Posted: 12-17-07 09:50am
Well you need to talk to this guy and be
honest. I know it would hurt to hear that
your partner no longer wants to be
intimate with you... but you can't go on
doing things that you do not want to do or
enjoy.
Tell him something like you want to take a
break from the sexual side of the
relationship and work on the emotional
side... it could bring the spark back.
But if you do this, you can't expect him
to bring you sexual pleasure either
because it would be selfish of you.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-17-07 13:33pm
Is there a reason for it?
I used to hateit when it was "my
turn to please." But I think that my
problem was that I wasn't exactly
comfortable with what I was doing yet.
Once i figured things out I got a lot more
pleasure out of doing it.
Are you sure you're really into this
guy?-- just wondering, you didn't say what
your feelings were towards him. Just that
he's your bf and you don't get pleasure
from his pleasure.
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meblonde01
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Posted: 12-17-07 13:38pm
I was going to ask the same thing.. are
you sure you love this guy? I feel when
you love someone it is a turn on to turn
your man and make them happy sexually.
But, that goes both ways.. I enjoy tuning
my husband on. sometimes its all for him
sometimes all for me and something both..
It should be exciting to you!
