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Q: Question On Possible Pregnancy
asked by: cdun on December 12th, 2007
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Hey everyone, I feel that I am unnecessarily worrying about my situation but I felt like I would seek a second opinion. I am 17 and my girlfriend is 18; while she is legally an adult, I feel that a pregnancy at this time would qualify as a teen pregnancy. My girlfriend and I made the decision to have sex after dating for several months. On that special day we had sex three times, and each time I used a condom. I put them on correctly. How noticeable is a condom breaking? Would I feel it immediately? Anyways, I don't think any of those condoms broke. Also, my GF is on birth control. She has never missed a day, but she sometimes forgets to take it at the same time everyday. Would that affect the probability of her getting pregnant drastically? We had sex three months ago, and because of her BC she only has a period every 3 months. Two weeks ago I penetrated her without a condom. Although we had been drinking, I came to my senses and pulled out of her within two minutes. I def. did not experience an orgasm. Would any pre-cum be enough to get her pregnant, despite her BC? I very rarely have pre-cum anyway, and I had already orgasmed several times that day (further reducing the likelihood). The only reason I am worried is that her period is due this week and it is a few days late. I honestly do NOT feel that she is pregnant. It is finals week after all, and it is common knowledge that high periods of stress can cause a late period (among other things). However, my girlfriend tends to worry about EVERYTHING, and just the idea of her being pregnant stresses me out. She is firmly against abortion (religious concerns) -- although I would prefer abortion, I know that the decision is legally and morally hers to make. I would feel responsible if she was pregnant. It would ruin our lives (short term at least). She would have to drop out of school. If she did have a baby, it would be taken care of. She assured me her parents would be supportive, and I know that mine would be as well. I am a freshman at Ga Tech, and I am a pre-med major. Although I am 17, I am extremely mature and would NEVER abandon the mother of my child. It takes two to tango, and 50% of the responsibility is mine. She would not want to marry me just because of a pregnancy, but I would feel obligated to do so. I suppose I would continue to date her until she felt ready to marry. Anyways, I am sorry for the extremely long winded post. I have been studying for finals and I couldn't sleep because I was so stressed out. If she is somehow pregnant I guess that is what God felt was best! I also apologize for telling you my whole life story lol! Just wanted to reassure everyone that I would not be the typical father (from what I have seen) and just ditch the mother! If anyone has read this far, thank you.
I appreciate everyone's help in this matter. Guess I will go study some more...?
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Katrinadoodle
replied on December 12th, 2007
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It's 6:45 in the morning, so I'm not going to attempt to read all of that... I am going to say that she's probably NOT pregnant... but I'd take a test anyways. I got pregnant while on the pill and using a condom. Granted, the pill was ineffective because of medication I was on at the time, but at least a negative test would ease both of your minds, right?
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Mabel
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Birth control condoms = highly unlikely she is pregnant.

Actually, even just birth control pills make it unlikely she is pregnant.

If you are pre-med, you know that birth control pills prevent the release of an egg (no ovulation). If there is no egg, there is NO WAY possible a person can become pregnant.

Additionally, while some people do become pregnant with pre-ejaculate, and the pull out method is never advised as birth control, you are talking major, major odds AGAINST pregnancy with pre-ejaculate. Especially considering the pill usage.

That said, have her take a pregnancy test 3 weeks after your encounter. Use first morning urine for best results. And trust the answer. If it shows negative, take that as she is NOT pregnant. Then stock up on more condoms. Spermicide is an additional measure that will further protect you both.

Good luck with your exams!
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Verizon-y
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Quote:
Also, my GF is on birth control. She has never missed a day, but she sometimes forgets to take it at the same time everyday. Would that affect the probability of her getting pregnant drastically?


His girlfriend has been taking her pills at varying times each day. I found this answer several places:

"If you are on a progestin-only pill, it is VERY important you take it at the same time every day. Even a few hours difference can cause pregnancy."

So I guess it matters which type she is taking.
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Mabel
replied on December 12th, 2007
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It does depend on what kind she is taking. But it does not change the advise. He does not need to worry about something to the point of not sleeping when, at this point, there is obviously not a single thing he can do about any of it.

The only thing she can do is take a pregnancy test a few weeks after this 'pre-ejaculate' encounter. The chances of pregnancy are LOW. Regardless.
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cdun
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Thanks everyone for the reassurance. I do know that BC prevents ovulation, but I was more concerned with the fact that she had taken it at different times. I have told my GF that the probability of her being pregnant is infinitesimally small, but that doesn't stop her from worrying until she gets her period, or the test is negative. You are right in saying that all I can do now is wait, and try to not lose sleep over it! However, I think we will decide to stop having sex. I subscribe to the belief that if you can't deal with the consequences (like an unwanted pregnancy), then you shouldn't be engaging in sexual activity. Although I feel that condoms and birth control are effective means of preventing pregnancy, that one tiny chance is more than enough to make me consider my responsibilities. She is waiting till Friday to take a test since she is scared to find out the answer before she is done with finals. Anyways, once again, thank you for your responses and your words of encouragement concerning my exams! I wish everyone the best, and enjoy your holiday!
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Little Miss Oops
replied on February 18th, 2008
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update??
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Verizon-y
replied on February 18th, 2008
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I know, it would be great if more people would update us!
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bellax0x
replied on February 18th, 2008
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cliff hangerrr
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Little Miss Oops
replied on February 22nd, 2008
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dang still no update? jeez
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Verizon-y
replied on February 22nd, 2008
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lol! It must have been the news they were hoping for.
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Little Miss Oops
replied on February 25th, 2008
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i guess lol i really like hearing updates on people..... but no they can't do that lol.
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Verizon-y
replied on February 25th, 2008
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I know, updates are great.
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Little Miss Oops
replied on February 25th, 2008
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yea lol. hey tell me if this sounds rude to you or not:


bbfeet9 wrote:
You said he couldn't "pop" you. How do you know that? It's not always painful and some women don't even bleed when they lose their virginity. Before you start experimenting with something that is this important, you need to get better educated. You need to get yourself to your doctor, get a physical and first and for most get on some birth control. I'm sure you do not want un unwanted pregnancy nor an unwanted disease. Please see you MD, and stop messing around until you know what your doing.
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bellax0x
replied on February 25th, 2008
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a little. but its more just being upfront and blunt
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Verizon-y
replied on February 25th, 2008
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ditto.
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