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Q: Beating Depression On the Holidays
asked by: CarolDiane on December 10th, 2007
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Ya know, I think to myself, not only about Mike and all of you, but about myself. How can we really overcome our depression this time of year? It's worst then any time of year.
I will speak for myself here and say, instead of looking at all the good things in life, I tend more to look to the past and the horror I have gone through over the years. I am know I am not alone. And believe me, I have some hard times I look back on. Almost loosing my son from over-intoxication and having to do CPR. Me almost dieing twice. Finding out my mother has lung cancer and don't know when this will be her last holiday. I always try to be as positive on this board as I can. But the truth is, I am just like you. I am struggling to get through this year. Hoping that next year will be a better one for me. It brings tears to my eyes to know that so many of you out there are going through this with me. Crying or Very sad
I sometimes really don't know what to do. I have so much going on right now and it just keeps piling up more and more. I did'nt want to even decorate this year. I wanted nothing to do with lights and trees and holiday cheer.
This is one Moderator that is going to come clean and tell you I am going through a severe attack of depression right now. So, just hang in there with me and we shall overcome. Uping my dose of Lexepro? NOT! What is that going to do. Hide the problem till it wears off. Only thing we can do is try and make the best of the holidays and just all be glad we are together in this.

Love Ya!

Carrie
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Mike East Texas
replied on December 10th, 2007
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I'll deal with this holiday, like I have dealt with most of the ones in the past. I'll work. I have a job that is depressing. I'll be depressed now. I'll be depressed next summer. I was depressed ten years ago. I'll probably be depressed ten years from now. It's just another date on a calendar. The only thing that bothers me is that people seem to get grouchier, the closer we get to Christmas. Besides that, it's just another number on a piece of paper, hanging on the wall.
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Running
replied on December 10th, 2007
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The way i see your depression is your dreams and desire's arn't really working out for you. You want one thing to go the other way and it goes the other...and you can't really do anything about it. THat's apart of lifes changes. adapting to change is very hard.

-the kid
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Mike East Texas
replied on December 10th, 2007
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Surfing
Your dreams is like surfing. You know you will be happy if you can just catch that wave. Instead, you keep missing them. Until, a rip tide hits you. You find yourself washed up on the beach. You don't know how you got there. You have to find your board, and paddle all the way back out there, all over again.
I lost my board.
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CarolDiane
replied on December 11th, 2007
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The funny thing guys is that I dwell my depression on the past at this time of year. All that has happened in years past. Kinda reminds me when the "Ghost Of Christmas Past" came to Mr. Scrooge". I remember all the heartache and I start to cry and get depressed. It's like I can't get out of the Matrix of the past, and I am stuck there forever. I have no real concern about my future. In that respect I feel and live the Serenity Prayer. Wisdom to change the things I can. But, knowing the difference and being able to handle them when they come along. Future has never bothered me that much. But when today becomes yesterday is when the trouble starts.
I know. Live one day at a time. And I don't even drink! Razz
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nameless720
replied on December 11th, 2007
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best thing you can do is live with no plan. If you don't worry about the future, then you will have no surprises, good or bad. and if they are good, then they will be even more of a surprise.

Just try to keep yourselves busy as you can. Set a schedule and fallow it. Give yourself lots to do, and be sure to treat yourself! Not saying you have to go buy a new car, but do something nice for yourself.

take it or leave it.
Like I'm in any situation to be giving advice on depression now, lol
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Mike East Texas
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Christmas is not the time to be happy. It's a time to hold on to your pocket book. Because everyone out there is out to take your money.
The real happiness is the after Christmas sales, and clearences.
That should be the official depressed persons holiday. It begins on December 26th, to December 31. One full week of cheap celebration. Everything is on sale, and Christmas is over. We should have a Christmas is over party.
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CarolDiane
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Mike East Texas wrote:
Christmas is not the time to be happy. It's a time to hold on to your pocket book. Because everyone out there is out to take your money.
The real happiness is the after Christmas sales, and clearences.
That should be the official depressed persons holiday. It begins on December 26th, to December 31. One full week of cheap celebration. Everything is on sale, and Christmas is over. We should have a Christmas is over party.


OMG Mike, I love it!
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CarolDiane
replied on December 12th, 2007
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Running wrote:
The way i see your depression is your dreams and desire's arn't really working out for you. You want one thing to go the other way and it goes the other...and you can't really do anything about it. THat's apart of lifes changes. adapting to change is very hard.

-the kid


Running! Great to see you posting as a helper. Bravo kid. Keep it going well ya. I love it when I see this happen. More! More!
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Mike East Texas
replied on December 15th, 2007
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Ghost of Christmas Passed
Ghost of Christmas passed.
He visited me the other day. He took me back 15yrs ago. My family was celebrating Christmas. I had to work away from home. I was was living in a camp trailer in a very trashy trailer park. The white people were so trashy, blacks, and latinos didn't want to live there. I sat there without a telephone. Beside me a couple of tweekers were screaming and hitting each other. Behind me it sounded like the pervert there was raping one of his little boys. Eleven year old twin girls, going door to door asking what can they do for money. Their mom only slept. Unless she was hooking for her live in boy friend, so they can have drugs.
I said, "Merry Christmas", and finished drinking my bottle of cheap vodka.
What I feel today feels worse. Except, I can't have the vodka.
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CarolDiane
replied on December 16th, 2007
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You know, it is really had to live with depression being BiPolar or not if you don't have a support system you can go to. Let's just say if there were two BP or depressed with life people living together. Neither can go to the other for support or uplifting when they are down. I don't care if it is a husband/wife, mother/sibling or whatever. It is best that by practicing "Hard Love" to maybe consider counseling and if that does not work. I hate to say this but, maybe it is best to part was so both can have some space to recover and find themselves. I am going through that right now. I am BP and drepression and my son ( whom I live with) is also seeing a phyciatrist and one depression meds. What is a person to do?
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Mike East Texas
replied on December 17th, 2007
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to Do.
Hang on to that loving son.
I am able to help many people on here. Because, I can see the things and opportunities the have, that I don't have. I am envious, jealous, of what most of them have, and have going for them. I have so little, and little going for me. I am able to open eyes of others. If there is anything going for me, I just can't see it. I don't know if they can make me see something I can't, or there is really nothing to be seen. Right now, I think there is nothing to see, to keep me going on.
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CarolDiane
replied on December 18th, 2007
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Give it time Mike and you will see it. It's right in front of you! Wink
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void_
replied on December 24th, 2007
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i know that the spike in suicide rate does not spike in the holiday season. because that is when one feels obligated to put up a facade, adding to that those people get invited to parties, almost forced to socially interact.
but the spike really appears at the end of the holiday season, when there are no more parties to go to. all the problems reappear; time to pay taxes; anyways this is a loner blabbering...
heard it in a session about su i cide. =P
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