My Friend Is Pregnant, And I Want 2 Help Her.....

Her boyfriend can't force her to keep the kid. She can give him custody, or have her research adoption anyways. I don't know if he can keep her from giving the baby up for adoption, but I do know he can't force her to keep the baby in her custody.

It's good that you are giving her the support of a friend. When she tells her parents she should just tell them how it is and say that although they may be upset with her for the pregnancy, what she needs more is help, love, and the proper care. Most teens don't even want to be where she is in the first place, so it is enough for them to be in the situation without the parents being upset about it.

If she feels too scared to say it in person to her parents, she can write it on paper and give them the news that way....and in the case of parents who are not very understanding, this way she will be able to say all that she needs to say.

Once her parents know, and as long as they are understanding, a lot of the pressure and worry that she is feeling is going to greatly subside. It is arguable that the BF would have any custody rights at all since he is a minor and cannot provide child support. It is a good decision that she give the baby up for adoption, or maybe perhaps her parents would love fostering child as well.

There are many options to be considered and she has a lot of time to think about what she wants to do. She just needs to know that is isn't the end of her world and that there are many others in the same situation as she is and that there is help for her.

IF she is getting too depressed, you should tell her parents or a counselor because depression can be very harmful and deadly....so just keep a look out for her.

You are a good friend to her, so keep up the good work.

Minors can and do have to provide child support, and the father can have custody. His parents don't need to be involved at all.

Oh, and on a personal side note, it doesn't sound as if the BF is exactly the best choice for her. He sounds a little too controlling to me. I may be wrong in my hunch here, but he should be put out of the picture.

I agree with mominashoe. It doesn't sound like an equal balance of power in that relationship.

To my knowledge, there is no legal way for him to force her to keep the baby. She can abort or give it up to adoption and he has no right to say BOO.

If HE wants it, then she can give it up for adoption to HIM, thus wiping her hands of any financial responsibilities - or any at all for that matter. If the BF wants the baby that badly, then he can raise it all by himself.

That's right. He can raise the child by himself. Somehow I doubt that is his true aim, though. He sounds like he is a future wife-abuser or at least a domineering/controlling personality.

Thanks U guys!!!!!! I think she might change her mind and keep the baby. i agree w/ all of U guys. Her bf is older then her, and he is Bipolor. ( i think that how U spell it) I don't like the way he traets her @ all, but U kno how teens R, they don't want 2 listen 2 any1. (I do that myself) (lol) She told her parents last night. Of course they were upset, but they will help her threw it. She juz really wants 2 go 2 college, and thats Y she was think-n bout give-n the baby up...

Thanks 4 ur help

I hope she goes through with the adoption part and gets on with her own life, for both her sake and the future child's sake. If she keeps it she'll be dealing with that boyfriend for the rest of her life.

If he has a history of mental illness, then he should not be taking custody of the child. Depending on her state, she will be required to notify the father before putting the child up for adoption. Ideally, this should be done while she is still pregnant. If she signs away her rights, and the courts remove his, there would be no issue with adoption.

Otherwise, if he isn't determined incapable by the state, he'll take full custody (she'd sign away her rights). I'm not sure how child support would work out.

I agree with the others...if he's controlling her to this degree, then he shouldn't be in the picture, no matter what she decides.

Well she has 2 do what she thinks is right. I juz hate the fact that her bf wants 2 act like a jerk bout the whole situation. All I can do is B there 4 her, & thats all I'm try-n 2 do.

Does he take medication for his Bipolar problem?

This child needs away from this whole situation once it's born. That's all I'll say. It needs to go away, to a stable home with adult parents who are mature and capable of loving it and caring for it.

I'm not sure if he is on medication or not.... I ask her and let U kno....
Now she is say-n she might juz get an abortion (which i don't agree w/), if not her parents R go-n 2 get custody of the baby. That way she can still C the baby, and continue with her education 2.... She told me last night that she's juz not ready 4 it yet. Thats Y she was think-n bout an abortion. She is make-n he decision N the next couple days.... I'll keep U guys updated!!!!

An abortion would be the simplest thing. She can have children when she's ready.

I hope she makes the decision I'm currently considering the smartest one... abortion. I hate to see parents having to raise accidents.

Well guys. She is go-n through w/ the abortion..... She has an apointment next wk. I feel so bad 4 her, cause she scared 2 death.
Her bf and his family is mad @ her, but it's wut she thinks is right.

Like I said B4, I don't agree w/ abortions, but mayb N her situation it is the right thing 2 do. It's her choice, and I'm her friend so I'm still stickin by her side, no matter wut her choice is..

Thanks 4 all ur help.

You are a good friend.

Thanks!!!! I try my best!!! I kno dat if I was n her shoes i would want a friend by myside.